me and my fiance been together almost 2 years, he has two childeren and i have one. his house is paid off and he has some money in stock, he also has a new business that is growing. I have a house which i have some mortgage on it. he says the only way that he would marry me is to sign a print obtional agreement which includes even his business in future. I understand his house and his stcock money but i don't think is fare to me if his business grows in future and I wont be part of it! should i marry him? I think he is not fare to me and he thinks i am after his money. what should i do?
2007-09-19 08:04:38 · 9 answers · asked by amy n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would agree to pre-marital assets. Thats only fair, and for his protection. But how can he ask for something he doesn't have??? After all, you'll be there helping him in his life as his partner, you should be entitled to whatever the 2 of you can accomplish together. Thats the only fair way to do it in my book. You're both going to be building a life together...
Completely fair is to have none at all... But I have never been divorced. Hubby and I married and everything has been jointly done. Only fair since we didn't have anything before we got married and have had to build it all up together
2007-09-19 08:14:04 · answer #1 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to have to tell you this, sweetie, but he is not your man. I would not marry him. Come on you are not even got married and he's already thinking about future money? To begin with is the business is just starting, and it grows, you are entitled to part of it. He is just not been fare at all. It doesn't looks like he loves you. I understand when rich guys do a prenup, but not him. I know it must really hurt to realize that the person you love is not what you thought he was. You deserve better, you'll find someone that will really love you and care for you. Someone that won't make you sign something like that.
2007-09-19 08:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by Ricardo R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is called a prenuptial agreement (pre=before, nuptials=marriage), or a pre-nup for short. Don't sign anything you don't agree with. The way these things are done is one of you has an attorney draw up an agreement, and the other one takes it to a different attorney and has him look it over. Each of you should have your own attorney, and you need to come up with an agreement that is acceptable to both of you. It's expensive, but it's the only sensible way to go if you want to do a pre-nup properly. If you absolutely cannot agree on what should and should not go into the agreement, then it probably means that you have radically different ideas on how to run your life and your family, and that it's only a tip of the iceberg when it comes to issues in your relationship - in this situation, marriage might not be the best option for you two.
2007-09-19 08:30:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly fair of him. His business will grow no matter what. I would ask for my own set of stipulations regarding a trust for any children you would have together. Plus what I dont understand people getting so upset about prenups is dont you plan to be with this person forever? Then why worry about what happens to the money if you break up. I offered to sign one before my husband and i got married he didnt see the point
2007-09-19 08:27:37 · answer #4 · answered by sarah W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him or her I would, but I would still work. There nothing wrong with him want to protect what he work hard for. I would sign it in second no question ask, because I want the man not his stuff. That the reason why I work. So if he leave I can still take care of me. Maybe it wouldn't be at his standard, but I would still be able to be broke and okay. Now if I can make 20 dollars last me for almost 2 weeks I can do anything trust and believe that.
2007-09-19 08:17:51 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a "print optional" agreement--that means you decide to write or not. A pre-nuptual agreement is what you are referring to, and it is legal protection in the case of a marriage dissolving. He is likely cautious because you've both got failed marriages under your belts, and he has alot to protect financially. If you're otherwise comfortable, sign it, but most of them have a time limit, I thought, like if you're married for 10 years, his future business earnings are combined property, etc.
2007-09-19 08:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he thinks that you are only after his money then if i were you i would re-think about getting married to him. i really do understand you, you just dont want him for the money it's for everything the love right i know i'm also in a relationship and just the the days my bf said i want to be your fiance which i thought that sounded kinda cute but if he ever asked me to sign a p.o.a i would feel sad. so do what you gotta do and good luck!!
2007-09-19 08:17:56 · answer #7 · answered by valrietorres 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of, it is a PRE nuptial agreement. He is just trying to protect himself and his children. However, marriage is supposed to be forever, so if you know he is the one, just sign it. It isn't like if he died that you would be screwed financially, only if you divorce.
2007-09-19 08:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2007-09-19 08:34:48 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. Understood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋