I mean some say, if your spouse talks dirty with another that, thats cheating.....
If I look at porn, thats cheating
If I think about another girl thats cheating...
Well if that's cheating, I might as well have sex with the girl......
To me cheating is penetration.... everything else is fooling around... not the same. What do you think?
2007-09-19 09:51:16 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you have intercourse with someone other than your spouse, Oral is not sex just ask Hillary Clinton. Thanks bill we are forever in your debt.
2007-09-19 10:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
While there may be different levels of "cheating" for people and many will say well it's not cheating if I just make out and cop a feel, unless both spouses agree to this behavior it is cheating. Any act especially of a sexual nature directed at another person who is not your spouse is cheating. If the thought of another person takes you to orgasm that's a debatable topic. We all fantasize and as long as it remains a fantasy then ok. Looking at porn falls into that category also, fantasy and fantasizing. Cheating basically is doing anything to or with another person that you would not want your spouse to witness or know about. Does that make it easier?
2007-09-19 10:03:49 · answer #2 · answered by Cliff R 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't know that there's a clear line. Certainly looking isn't cheating and I don't think flirting is cheating. Lighter fooling around might be out of line but I wouldn't consider it quite cheating.
I wouldn't consider my wife to be cheating unless there was some form of penetration, and even then I'd be understanding and forgiving if she were careful and no permanent harm was done. If she weren't very very careful I'd be pissed, but I'd still love her more than anything in the world and forgive her in a heartbeat.
Just my opinion. I think hers is much less flexible.
2007-09-19 13:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is being with someone physically and sexually..thoughts are not in action than is not cheating..I watch porn and think about other guys LOL..and I have a boyfriend but is long distance ...but still is not cheating..is being safe..but Oral sex..or eeek stuff is cheating no matter if there is no penetration for simple fact your are sexually touch and feeling other person...and being unfaithful is that ...fooling around is cheating making out or kissing is cheating period..would you let your girlfriend do that to you and make out with other men or fool around..HELL NO..
2007-09-19 10:02:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
To me cheating is violating the promises you make to your spouse. Of course wedding vows don't cover everything. Porn for example is not usually mentioned. You need to cover these fine points by talking to your spouse - ideally BEFORE you get married. Otherwise it's like an open-ended contract where each party has different expectations.
2007-09-19 10:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by Bruce M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe anything you do in secret that would upset your spouse if she found out is cheating. That doesn't just mean sex. It means hiding money, smoking pot, whatever.... hiding something that would hurt her if she knew. People looooooove to get hung up on the sex part though, don't they? If your spouse is okay with you screwing another girl, or looking at porn, or getting lap dances, or whatever else you want to do, that's not cheating. And it's nobody's business but yours.
2007-09-19 10:04:21 · answer #6 · answered by meagain 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You have rules in a marriage. If you break the rules, just like in a game, you are cheating. A good rule of thumb...if you think you have to hide it from your spouse you probably shouldn't do it. BTW, fooling around is cheating too.
2007-09-19 10:15:48 · answer #7 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Porn = NOT
Masturbating = NOT
Dirty Talk = Cheating
Thinking about another = NOT
Penetration = Cheating
Oral = Cheating
Fooling Around (ie kissing, touching, etc) = Cheating
You say you should just sleep with her but it is easier to forgive something less then sex.
2007-09-19 13:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by Spring 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well it is basically anything you wouldnt do in front of your spouse but to me i think you should talk to your spouse and ask him/her what THEY think cheating is....because what others consider cheating she may not! everyone has different views on that. Porn wouldn't be cheating, and having thoughts about someone else is not cheating even though its not right! but dont do anything you would regret!
2007-09-19 10:07:52 · answer #9 · answered by custom_made_mami 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't classify looking at porn cheating.
I don't classify thinking about another girl as cheating either.
Talking dirty to someone other than your partner is really, really close to the line, sex is most definitely cheating.
2007-09-19 10:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
i agree with judi's response, for the most part.
porn and thinking about other ppl isnt cheating...tho u probably shouldnt do that for it can lead to other things....flirting with other ppl is borderline. kissing another person is wrong. being really really close (all touching and stuff) with another person is wrong. ANY kind of sex....now come on... that's just common sense....seriously. if ur with somebody i feel bad for that person.
2007-09-19 10:14:17 · answer #11 · answered by horizon 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋