O.K. Here's the story. My husband's long, long time ago ex- girlfriend wrote a letter to him. I opened the letter as my husband was at work when we recieved the letter. It didn't say anything out of the way and She really has no reason to communicate with him. He was very angry that she got our address from his supposed friend. He was even more angry with her because she showed signs of complete instability over the past. She tattooed his nickname on her arm 1 year after they seperated among other crazy things. When I told him he had recieved the letter, the first thing out of his mouth was I DON'T EVEN WANT TO KNOW!! He is completely loyal to me and cheating is not a problem here. I was just wondering how you all would feel if this were to happen to you.
2007-09-19 10:51:24 · 20 answers · asked by roloswife 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for the answers guys. I am not spazzing out over this. It is not a dilema. I am not presenting this question for advice. I thought that this would be a good question and explaination for Yahoo!Answers. As far as the person that told me that this is my husband's problem Thanks for showing us all your true colors that are saying that your spouse is alone in the world without your support. My husband and I are very close-knit and are best friends. If either of us has a problem or just something to say, we are ther for each other.
2007-09-19 11:04:11 · update #1
We are not having any problems because of this. This girl showed up at our house about a year after we moved in together. It was to see if he wanted to go out with her and another girl he had been with after he broke up with her. It is really a strange and long story but still, I am not worried. If I felt the need to protect myself from this person, I would. She is desperate and still in love after 13 years. I do feel sorry for her. My husband is my soul-mate and I am his. Thanks for the concern.
2007-09-19 11:12:58 · update #2
She said absolutely nothing that mattered in the letter. Just asked how he and I are, How are our kids, She is intending to write again, stupid,pointless banter basically. I kept asking myself WHY did she write and WTF is she wasting oxygen for? They weren't married, just lived together for around a year and that was about 13 or 14 yrs ago. No kids,no marriage. Yes, I am planning on tactfully writing her back and letting her know not to bother again and my husband is going to sign it. Group effort here.
2007-09-19 11:17:59 · update #3
JennyJ Thank You for a sweet answer. My husband says to tell you that you need a better boyfriend and that he is not available but you deserve better and he and I hope you find it.
2007-09-19 12:20:05 · update #4
If it were me I wouldn't even acknowledge I got he letter, nor did he. I think she is hoping it will cause friction and she can be waiting on the rebound when and if it does. Do not feel sorry for her life is hard and she has to learn to cope. She wants to get in and try to destroy everything you have.
2007-09-19 15:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by bigjuggies79 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Given her history I would be suspicious about her intentions. The main thing is not to respond to her communication, but if she has a history of mental illness and now has your address I would also feel a little concerned and uneasy. If you receive any more communications, hang on to them in case you need them at some point...like if you have to contact the authorities. Also make your friends and family aware that she has been in contact and that she has a history of instability. The more people watching over you the better.
2007-09-19 10:59:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, why replaced into he indignant? i do not see the letter being an issue, and that i for one does no longer care a lot (about the letter); yet what i'd care about is that he reacted so strongly. To me that would want to me on some element she is rather slightly area of him on the interior. till there replaced into some terrible act of injustice that you probably did not element out. he's mad at her instability? Who cares? Do you mean instability to him? if it is the case then he nevertheless harbors soreness and is not any longer thoroughly over it or her. this may be my difficulty. communicate it out. he's your husband. you should have the means to inform if there remains soreness lingering. you should preserve it because you don't understand the way it may ensue otself over the some destiny years! sturdy success!
2016-10-20 01:57:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you can feel annoyed by it, but don't dwell on it. We all go through things where we get stuck on someone and obsess over them. It just happens that your husband is the object in this case. She probably doesn't even want him -- it's just the idea of him. I don't know why you even opened the letter in the first place since it probably didn't have your name on it. You asked for trouble right there, but if I were you I would do my best to let it go.
2007-09-19 10:57:52 · answer #4 · answered by Talice 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She should not have wrote him no letter.I am sure she knew he was marry.She need to put herself in your shoes and see how she would feel if someone did her like that.You and your husband need to write her a letter back and let her know you two received it.And ask her what was the reason of the letter.she could have just ask the friends how was he doing and left it at that and not wrote a letter.
2007-09-19 11:01:11 · answer #5 · answered by Happy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband didn't want any communication with her, he would make sure there was no communication, at all, what-so-ever! Something tells this woman that it's OK to just write a letter and mail it to his house where you (his wife) lives! That sounds a little fishy to me. Why is she so hung up on him? He needs to end what ever it is that's going on NOW or I would seriously reconsider your relationship. I would NOT put up with that. Confront that witch!
2007-09-19 10:59:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd feel threatened by his ex wife. She obviously has a problem and needs to get over your husband. Just curious...What did she say in the letter??
2007-09-19 11:03:53 · answer #7 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you are right, she has no business trying to keep in touch with him. Just be careful now that she has yalls address, she might be a crazy ex that wants you out of there so she can move in on your hubby!!
This reminds me of the letter I received in the mail from my ex. It was an invitation to his WEDDING!!!!!!!! Of course, not with me!!!
Good Luck!
2007-09-19 10:59:36 · answer #8 · answered by blondieoftexas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to FORCEFULLY let her know (by writing) that she is not welcome in his life and that she has ZERO chance of ever breaking the 2 of you up. This woman sounds NUTS. The letter should say that if she writes again, he will just put it in the trash, he will not accept her calls and if she approaches either you or him, he will get a RESTRAINING ORDER.
2007-09-19 11:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
your husband seems not to want any more to do with this person, personally i would feel sorry for her, because its evident that she is still in love with him and is making contact just to see if he will contact her back. she does have no reason to communicate with him unless she has some motive.
2007-09-19 10:56:59 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋