Does he wanna take it slow or just not interested?

Question

friends for years and he's secretly liked me but he never went for it b/c he thought the chances of being w. me were slim only to find out that after all this time, I felt the same way back - I was the first girl he fell in love with BUT "life challenges" (death) and rumors/assumptions from friends made you us drift apart and it created tension BUT rather than giving up or seeking revenge, we worked it out and everything is starting to be better than before, the relationship grew (this happened in a 9 month span)

I'm glad everything is starting to be better than normal - i wrote him a heartfelt letter telling him the truth and reminding him i was there for him and i really cared. After this, he would put up more pictures of me and him on his page, wouldn't be "outgoing" but "safe" w. me. He would txt me to ask my day and i said something that might have been suggestive of flirting (joking but didn't mean/realize it) and he didn't respond.
Hung out with him one day and in public he seemed normal - poke me if i said something silly, make fun of me but when we went to his house, he got quiet and more shy.
He kept the door open in his room and when i hugged him bye he said, "i was supposed to wait 'til you got to your car"...and everytime i see him he says, "just hit me up"

is he starting over from scratch and taking it really slow? or starting from where we left off before drama happened?

in his 20's & never been in a relationship...gave him his first kiss :)

Answer 1

Sounds like he's super shy especially if he never been in a relationship before. I wouldn't rush anything with him because it seems like he's been through alot in less then a year. I would just continue to be a good friend to him,enjoy the friendship and time will tell the rest.

Answer 2

It sounds like he is taking things extremely slowly.

He might want to hurry up before someone else ends his chances with you forever.