She's had a couple real intense dreams of a sexual nature about me! I have been married 6 years, very loyal to my husband. I have had a same-sex experience before but it was just experimentation. I've been told by many people that I'm just naturally very sexual and give off a sensual vibe that attracts people. My best friend is NOT a lesbian - she is recently divorced. Could it be that she just feels comforted by me and its coming through as sexual in her dreams?!?!? I dont want it get weird between us, but I'm a little uncomfortable with where it might lead because we are very close - though nothing sexual has EVER happened between us, she's very vulnerable, I am not really "attracted" to her but I just want to care for her - we are affectionate with each other. I don't know what to do. Am I taking this too seriously?.....serious answers/opinions only PLEASE!!
2007-09-19 09:52:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She said she doesn't want to have sex with me, she just loves me so much and can understand why ppl say that they just love who they love - not labeling themselves gay or bi. I think I just need to not be as affectionate with her and just keep my distance without being too obvious.
2007-09-19 11:50:55 · update #1
I would say you are taking this too seriously. You are way to preoccupied by it. It was a dream, just because it was a sex dream shouldn't raise any red flags for your friendship. The fact that you are so concerned about this sort of implies that you really are attracted to her and now that she had a sex dream, actually being with her seems like it could be more of a reality and it scares you. I have to say, I have been vulnerable and I have had sex dreams about other people, but never in a million years would it occur to make them real. They are dreams. Leave it at that.
2007-09-19 10:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, it could be that she is very vulnerable at this point in her life and you are the one she is most comfortable about, so it is coming into her dreams as something else. I wouldn't worry about it, but I will say something else. The fact that she is actually telling you about the dream could mean something totally different. The fact that she may be wishing to act upon it. Only telling you to see how you would react to it, so she can get some sort of signal from you? That is just my guess. Overall, it is up to you two to decide to take it further, but remember that hardly no good has ever come from two friends having a sexual experience. Good Luck! : )
2007-09-19 10:02:12 · answer #2 · answered by Lovin' Life 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is lonely and vulnerable. Possibly sub-consciously or consciously sexually frustrated also. Given that you say she is "recently" divorced, she may not be ready to pursue a new relationship just yet, or may have a very limited number of people who enter her subconscious during lucid dreaming. And that's ALL this is - lucid dreaming. It's not an indication that your best friend is suddenly about to jump your bones, or that you are expected to forget your marriage vows to ease her sexual frustration. Continue to be a friend, and learn to laugh together at the crazy way the subconscious mind works during sleep!
2007-09-19 10:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by cautious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, she told you about these dreams, I would be mad if a guy told my wife something like this, but a woman,,,What else did she say ? you just do not say things like that then change the subject. I can believe you being a little uncomfortable about it. She might slowly make a move on you, kindly turn her away. Do not quit being her friend, be careful of the affection you show her,,,
2007-09-19 10:49:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, regardless of her feelings, you have to remember that you are MARRIED and just because she is the same sex as you does not make it any less cheating-that is if you take it any further. You made a committment to your husband, not to your best friend. Think if how your hubby would feel if you cheated and he found out. Just keep that in mind.
2007-09-19 10:08:00 · answer #5 · answered by moon&stars 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Serious answers requires a serious ?. It's just that! A dream, leave it @ that. It will only lead were you take it. FYI: Not sounding to loyal to your husband by asking this either.
2007-09-19 09:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dreams are just DREAMS. They mean nothing, and things don't have to get weird unless you make them that way.
Come on, you're reading WAY too much into this.
2007-09-19 10:53:18 · answer #7 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's ready for some long term fur trading baby and so are you! There's no such thing as sexual experimentation. That's called acting out sexual desire. Neither of you a Lesbians, YOU ARE BISEXUAL!
2007-09-19 10:08:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just play it of as dreams right now and who knows in the future experiment again if you choose to
2007-09-19 10:14:17 · answer #9 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't attracted to her, then acting upon her dream, if that is what she wants, wouldn't be doing her any justice. Just leave it alone. If she chooses to act on it, you tell her you are no longer interested in that sort of lifestyle. No biggy.
2007-09-19 10:02:44 · answer #10 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋