well i hope you guys can tell me if we are or not going to happen what i do know is that he loves me and i love him but i hope he is telling the truth that he is going to mary me when im 18 he has asked me and he is very serious about it but what do you think tell me please ???
2007-09-19 16:49:23 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
met my BF wen i was 15 and he was 20 I'm 18 now and hes 23 and we have our own home a new car and are engaged. He kept his promise so dont let anyone tell u he wont b coz nobody knows but the two of you.
2007-09-19 16:56:51 · answer #1 · answered by Kimberly S 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Nope, and he won't either. What a kid likes at 16 ain't what she or he will like at 25..... and if you were my sister, this is what our mom would have been telling you for three years... read these hon, and remember well. Don't go getting married and having a bunch of babies..... you'll be leading the worst of all possible lives----- an uneducated single mom trying to make ends meet.... oh, good. Your life totally ruined, no money, no fun, dirty diapers, no guy, no education, nothing really but screaming kids, and an empty wallet.... wonderful
1. The most important decision you will ever make is who you marry. Choose with your head as well as your heart.
2. Have no children until your bond is strong, and have no more than you yourself can support. You may just have to
3. At any and all costs finish your education to qualify for those high paying jobs. It is likely that you will work sometime during your marriage, probably for decades…. Get paid for it. And remember, your kids and your education are forever…. Husbands, lovers and promises are not!!
4. Have a stash of cash no one knows about even if you are sure you will never need it. You absolutely will, and the more the better.
Thank you mama. These four loving thoughts saved my A$($) more times than you will ever know.
And sweetie, maybe they will save yours too.
2007-09-19 17:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel somewhat like a hypocrit answering this question with the answer I'm about to give, but...
Wait and see, don't make any plans on it yet. Just act the way you always have together and see where things go. Just wait and see what happens once you graduate, if you're still together at 18/19 and it feels right and you just know so, then yes, go for it, but make sure you're 100% sure. If the two of you want to go to different colleges or have different dreams after you graduate, you may want to hold up and wait.
Just see how things go, be sure to keep and open mind. My best suggestion would be to pretend like he never told you that.
He may be telling the truth, he may not, he could have just gotten caught up in the moment. I can't tell you for sure as I don't know either one of you.
Best of luck :)
2007-09-19 16:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by KittensN'Muffins 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you shouldn't hold your breath. You are only 16!! What happened to living life?! It is my firm belief that you need to find out who you REALLY are before you get married. So many problems occur in a marriage because one of both of them don't know who they are. You may decide you want to do something and become something, but you can't do that if you are 18 and married! I'm not saying there's no hope of ever amounting to something when you get married that young, I just think that no one really has an idea about his/herself when they are that young. I think 21 is a fairly good estimate for when you really start to understand. You might be surprised how much difference a couple years can make. Otherwise, do what YOU feel is right. Think about it for awhile, weigh the pro's and con's. Definitely talk to your parents about it after you have thought about it good and hard. I would just hate for you to make a big mistake in not living for yourself! I'm not against marriage, don't get me wrong, but there's a time and a place, and I really don't think 18 is really the right time for most people.
2007-09-19 16:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I'm not going to say that you won't make it that long...you very well might. However, I really urge you to wait and live on your own for at least a year before you get married. You need a chance to live by yourself and discover you.
I got married at 17 right out of high school and outgrew my ex husband. I loved him...no question. But, he was 11 years older than me and I had never lived on my own. He basically ran the show. I had no backbone because I didn't know how.
at 34 I left.
Good Luck.
2007-09-19 16:55:48 · answer #5 · answered by Deb 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This sounds like nothing but puppy love. You are only 16 right now marrage seems like the most important thing in the world. Untill you graduate, go to college and see that there are greater opportunities and better things to do than be a HOUSEWIFE.
2007-09-19 17:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, the odds are against you. You are both going to change a lot in three years. I wouldn't even suggest getting married at eighteen. You are still young and should be having fun and meeting people. Go to college and have a good time, then settle down. There's plenty of time to do all that marriage stuff later.
2007-09-19 16:57:06 · answer #7 · answered by semantic_spaces 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well in three years you'll be 19. But no, you probably won't last until you reach the age of 18 either.
Sorry! :-(
So I suggest that you just enjoy the time you have with him because in the overall scheme of things it will be rather short.
Tell him he doesn't have to get so serious.
Besides I think in his clumsy & youthfull way he's telling you everything he thinks you need to hear so you will let him have sex with you.
I hope you haven't fallen for this one, you haven't have you?
If you haven't then make sure you don't, OK!
2007-09-19 16:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is not something dat should be entered into lightly. If you are not sure dat he is serious maybe you should really think about it. I personally dont think dat it will last cause young age is such da start of problems. Until you can get out and see da world you really won't know and understand love.
2007-09-19 17:05:32 · answer #9 · answered by lilone_onpnt02 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good luck. In a few years what you like today will be dislikes tomorrow. People grow up and change. I would hold off getting married until you're grown up, maybe 25 or so. Until then you will be changing your likes and dislikes pretty much daily. So what you like about him today, you will probably hate about him a few years from now.
2007-09-19 16:55:47 · answer #10 · answered by Lola 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋