So, we've been together barely over two years, married about a year and a half. He's NEVER happy.....I keep the house clean, and take care of our two children mostly by my self. I work part time, and am a student from home. He goes to work, makes money and that's about it. He's constantly aggitated with the babies, barely helps me with them but is always telling what I'M doing wrong, and says they're total brats, and I do not agree with his methods of disciplan for our 11 & 23 month old babies.....today for example, when he got home from work, the house was spotless except the sink was full of dirty dishes and he barely spoke to me all night just because of that. When I got offended he went on with his rage about "well maybe I just won't go to work for a couple days, and we'll see what happens"...It just seems no matter what I do, I'm always wrong, nothing's good enough, and I'm constanly being accused of being lazy and not carrying my own weight. He makes the money & I do evrythng els
2007-09-19 16:34:04 · 18 answers · asked by TMama 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Am I in the wrong? If so, any suggestions as to how to make things better?? I'm tired of having a grumpy husband who's just no fun to be around!
2007-09-19 16:38:19 · update #1
Our 23 month isn't his...I was pregnant when we met, and he chose to take part in that one....
2007-09-19 17:00:53 · update #2
and just because some of you are making very rude assumptions....our sex life is probably the only good thing going for us, we aren't acholics, or drug addicts, and because he makes up 90% of our income, he controls all the out flow of spending (I think that's only fair)
2007-09-19 17:07:54 · update #3
if you want to comment, great, but you don't know the story behind my kids, you WONT know the story behind my kids, so leave that situation out of your comments. Having the children never was the issue, and we got along perfectly until we moved back to his home town.
2007-09-19 18:08:24 · update #4
Schedule a long weekend trip with some girlfriends. Thursday through Sunday would be good. Let him know that upon your return, everything should be spotless and the children should be happy, clean, well cared for and well fed. Let him know that he needs to make time to read an entire book and write a report on it. When you get back, he will be on his knees begging you to never, ever leave like that again! Some men really have no clue.
2007-09-19 16:52:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
From what you say you aren't doing anything wrong. Sometimes people get into situations they realize they didn't want to be in. First of all you can't make him happy, he has to make himself happy. It sounds like you are doing more than your share. Have you asked him why he is so angry? Is he willing to sit down and discuss things? If he isn't willing to discuss the problems and work on a resolution you may need to take a stand for the sake of your children and yourself.
Good luck!
>^.^<
2007-09-19 23:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as the kids, he knew what he was egtting itno, even wit hthe first one form the sound of things. It still might be something he doesnt want to accept. Not sure how many hours he owrks, butif the dishes are only 5 minutes, thrye olny fove minutes, but up and do them and youll be on th e couch in plenty of time for MNF.
2007-09-20 01:53:16 · answer #3 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are wrong, if you know it's going to bother him why the hell didn't you take the 5-10 minutes to clean the dishes? Dirty dishes in the sink are the sign of a real slob!
House wives are know to overstate , Oh! how very ,very hard! it all is,! and every one knows it really is not!
Further, I would bet your sex life SUCKS and that is a sure way to piss any guy off!
No where do I see any expression of gratitude for his paying the way??? Just your indication that it is some how not enough?
For Christs sake, take the few extra minutes to address the details( dishes etc.) and get that libido fired up a suck and phuck the hell out of him at least a couple of nights a week and you will see a new man.
2007-09-19 23:50:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
The only thing that "Screams Loser" louder than a guy dating a broad who's knocked up, is a knocked up broad dating.
You are wrong for not cleaning up, you are home more hours than he is . That is so, so, gross to leave a sink full of dirty dishes , that is like an un-flushed toilet, just inexcusable.
I would never leave filth for my old man to come home to, I appreciate his hard work far too much.
I sure hope you have got your tubes tied or are on the pill or some form of BC, You sound like the kind of idiot to squirt out one spawn after another and wonder why life is not lovely.
2007-09-20 00:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by Haley D 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Wow.........no offense, but what a selfish PRI**K. Tell him you aren't the only person in the relationship and ask him to go to counseling, there are counselor's that charge on a sliding scale. Are you sure you want to be married to a guy that thinks babies are brats??? How can a baby be a brat??? He sounds really juvenile. Sorry
2007-09-19 23:46:51 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
holy crap..known him for 2 years and have a 23 month old and 11 month old? Gee...it's a mystey why he's bummed. Y'all never got to really know each other...been too busy breeding. Although it's way too late, there is such a thing as birth control. This is a prime example of a forced relationship...you got pregnant and he didn't dislike you and you didn't dislike him so you got married. Shew...good luck but I foresee divorce.
2007-09-19 23:44:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well hun i'm a man and it sounds like he's stressed out from his job. Now a persons job can have an effect on his or her home life as well. Hope this helps a little bit for you :)
2007-09-19 23:44:24 · answer #8 · answered by bmjnuna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should ask him why he is so unhappy. Tell him how you feel because otherwise, he has no clue that anything is wrong.Tell him that you work just as hard if not harder than he does and he needs to help you and be happy. Explain to him that no other woman would put up with that kind of treatment and you're not either.
2007-09-19 23:45:59 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica G 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like he is unhappy with his job, but feels like he HAS to do it support you all. As sad as this may sound, men are just big babies, sorry guys, but you are, I love men, but DAMN! When he comes home from work have the kids occupied, the house spotless, and be there to listen to him. I know that may sound weird, but don't be offensive, or defensive. Just listen to him. I bet with 2 small kids its been awhile since that has happened. If he isn't happy with his job, there are others.
2007-09-20 00:07:00 · answer #10 · answered by momof2 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋