my husband's parents live next door so we no doubt see them often, yet they still call EVERY day to check on their only boy. if he's become ill, even if its a cold, they'll call. if we go out of town they call to see how the drive is going. if we've been my husband's doctor appointment, not more than 10 steps out the door they are calling to see how it went. they just don't give us a chance to calling them first. we've been married over 3 years now and its really getting to me and on my mind constantly. i want to spend time with my husband and not worry about when his parents are going to call to check on us, especially if we are visiting with MY parents. i've told my husband how i feel, but he's so used to his parent's attention its hard for him to understand how deeply its bothering me. is there some way i can handle this better? am i overreacting?
~ thanks for any advice ~
2007-09-19 15:48:24 · 12 answers · asked by sweetdaisee82 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is a difficult situation, and I don't think you are overreacting at all. I think if anyone talks with them about this, it should be your husband. This may be very difficult for him, but it is high time that he cut the cord. If it's possible, it would be a lot easier on your marriage if you could move a little farther away.
2007-09-19 16:03:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, you are not over reacting.
My god, when is your husband going to grow up? Sorry but living next door has got to be hard enough on you.
I am a mother in law, twice, and I hope I don't do that to my kids.
Let your husband read this web site if you can, maybe he will understand if he reads others comments on this issue.
First of all, I understand your husband is their baby, but come on, he's also a grown man with a wife. He'd better decide who he wants to sleep with, his mother or his wife?
That is how ridiculous your in-laws are behaving and how childish your husband is acting.
You can talk to your Out-Laws about this, but I'm affraid without your husband backing you up, you'll get nowhere. But hey, you tell your husband you go it alone or he back you on this.
Good luck....
2007-09-19 23:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this being their only child of course they are going to be in you're business.
if your husband won't talk to his parents about this you may have to. if you have to do it. break it to them gently. just let them know that you appreciate their concern for their son but you are his wife and caretaker now let know that you are doing what you promised when you got married.
if they still can't tell your husband to grow up and be a man and to tell his parents that you both need your own space.
By the way who's bright idea was it to live next door to his parents or did they move next door to you?
2007-09-19 22:58:44 · answer #3 · answered by joyce m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like Everybody loves raymon...you need you space honey and i would leave it to your husband they re his family and it wont bother them as much coming from him than coming from the woman taking their only baby away..i know how frustrating it can be just be patient remember they re the ones that gave birth to this person you love now, so step by step they ll understand ..hopefully..good luck
2007-09-19 23:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by kate B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand completely. I live with my in-laws. If you are in good with your inlaws there is nothing wrong with asking for some more space. But beware, they will talk to your husband and he will ask why you didn't come to him first, even though you did.
2007-09-19 23:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by DevDog99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEXT DOOR??? That is too close....but hey...didn't you see that his parents were this way before you married your husband? Why don't you move?
2007-09-19 22:55:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not. is time for him to have a life with them a lil less invovled - thats what moving out is about.
its not him thats the problem. its them - they should recognise this and step back. sounds like they are afraid to let go.
2007-09-19 22:56:22 · answer #7 · answered by Andy C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel sorry for you. in laws are the worst thing to deal with. good luck sounds to me like you got your hands full with a Mommy's and daddy's boy.
2007-09-19 23:01:52 · answer #8 · answered by tabatha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its up to your husband to cut the apron strings, you aren't ever going to win that one. If I were you, I would move.
2007-09-19 22:54:11 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but I'm so glad my in-laws live in another country.
2007-09-19 23:12:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋