He met this woman while away on business. Never told me about her. returned home and continued to call her from his business cell phone, thinking I'd never see the bill, cuz his company gets it. But its sprint, so I logged in and created an acct for his line, and saw the calls. when i asked him if he ever called her, he denied it, i assume he never thought in a million years he knew i had seen the bill, so i bethca he thought he was safe lying to me. little did he know. so do you guys think he was sleeping with her while away on business? BTW we live in IL and she lives in TX, so no, it aint an ongoing thing, but i'd bet my next paycheck he kept himself warm while away on business.
2007-09-19 15:34:44 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, I definitely think he is having an emotional affair. And, he most likely slept with her. So sorry. I hope that you get through this okay.
2007-09-19 15:40:54 · answer #1 · answered by 354gr 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Whooa - time to talk - time to sit down eye to eye - not screaming and accusing - with understanding and honest intention to save your marriage (or just kick him right out - your call) If you have any kids, you must try to see if it was just a stupid mess up (after all, he's only a man) or is this his away way of life? If he fights for his right to party - get a lawyer and take all. If he is sorry and wants your forgiveness - explain that you can put up with many things, but there are some things you will not live with - and this is the deal-breaker. 'Do you want me?' ...'and me only?' That is THE question. If he does not beg you to understand and forgive him. "Hit the road Jack, and don't you come back no mo no mo no mo no mo..."
If he wants you. #1 He gets examined by a Doctor - both to make the point of how serious his reckless actions were, and ...to protect you from STD, or death.
#2. He gets a different job or business arrangement, and stops going out of town.
'No?' "..."Hit the road Jack, and don't you come back no mo no mo no mo no mo..."
#3 Some therapy - for him, and as a couple.
#4 Love him and forgive him with all your heart, and he should adore you forever.
2007-09-19 15:49:12 · answer #2 · answered by HBTGREAT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know he lies to you. He lied about the calls...so there is a reason he is not telling the truth, usually to hide an affair. They may be meeting in other cities when he goes away on business...an emotional affair can be worse than a one time physical affair. Keep checking the phone record...if he is talking to her regularly you can be certain there is an emotional betrayal....often times worse. When a man has sex with someone a few times, it isn't as bad as an ongoing communication. Of course, you don't know what they talk about it...perhaps, she won't leave him alone and he can't get rid of her. Maybe you should call her and ask her if she knows he is married?
2007-09-19 15:56:48 · answer #3 · answered by transpersonalpsychologist 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
he is a skunki.... I used to do the same thing only I got away with it... Good for you and spying on him You got a lot on the ball.... Yes he is messing around and if his business is not in Tx but say Okla she probably meets him there... Him denying it when you know for a fact its the truth is right there enough to know he is cheating... I dont know how much you love this guy but him keeping her in his mind and on the phone is bull crap... you gave to bring this all to a head....... Good luck and God bless Grant M in Pennsylvania
2007-09-23 13:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only bet on a sure thing and I won't make this bet against you.
I would call her right around the time he's made his calls to her. Has he ever called her say around bedtime?
Or call during the morning, block your number if her phone will take your call, say you are (someone from his company) in the accounting department, (you only want to get her name at this point,hopefully first and last name ) then slam her, tell her you are his wife and if she ever comes in contact with your husband, you also know where she lives and she won't like "your" visit to Texas! Then you'd better tell your husband you are going with him to have him checked for AIDS, that bast#@d!
You just found out she's a prostitute.
2007-09-19 15:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Most undoubtedly he had a sexual relationship with her. The first rule of adultery is: don't do it in your backyard. A real or faux business trip is the BEST alibi for an illicit affair. It is his bad luck that you hacked into his business cell, or you would may have never found out.
However, you don't have any concrete proof, unless you speak with the other woman directly, confronting him will be mute since he will deny it. The second rule of adultery is: deny, deny, deny.
Sorry. (Now let's see all the thumbs DOWN I get!)
2007-09-19 15:56:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anne Noble, Director 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't like the fact that he's been calling her or that he lied to you like that. However, you can't prove whether he did or did not sleep with her. You can't really make accusations without positive proof. I would still keep an eye on this though, just in case. Watch out for those business trips. Maybe you'd better pack a couple of your Victoria Secret undies in his suitcase next time. (lol)
2007-09-19 15:42:00 · answer #7 · answered by bombastic 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Since he lied to you when you asked him if he ever called her, I would confront him with the evidence you have. He cannot deny doing this once he knows that you have uncovered his dirty little secret. And, even if he stops calling her, what assurances to you have that he will not do the same thing with someone else? Just the fact that he lied to you tells me that he has a lot more to hide that he doesn't want you to find out about.
2007-09-19 15:49:14 · answer #8 · answered by Virginia B (John 16:33) 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I hate to pass judgement where I could be wrong. Obviously he's going to have problems with you violating his privacy, and you kind of did, though he shouldn't be lying. If talking to him isn't working, maybe there are bigger issues like lack of communication and lack of trust in the relationship. Perhaps you should consider marriage counseling?
2007-09-19 15:45:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Guess what? You are lying to him and being manipulative and otherwise deceptive. Since you seem to find it easy to do so, then I imagine you've been this way for awhile.
Pot. Kettle. Black.
PS He probably is aware you are this type of person, too. While I don't condone lying at all, if it was innocent on his part I can see the temptation to do so because of the way you are.
2007-09-19 15:43:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
1 ask him for a 3 some with another woman?
2 take two bottle of wine off to your lesbian lover
3 use it as a new excuse with the delivery man?
4 find a glory hole, get daughter to film you an put it on the web...(dang bad idea but fun)
5 telly hubby you need to become swingers now..
2007-09-19 15:45:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋