Husband dines with female business associate while traveling?

Question

While traveling for business, my husband had dinner with a woman who was also attending the same business event. It was just the two of them out to dinner. Should I be concerned about this? My husband didn't tell me outright that he had dinner with this woman, but when I asked who he went to dinner with, he did tell me. Again, should I be worried? I felt really odd about it after he told me. I don't want to be the "jealous wife", but feel strange about it. What do you think?

Answer 1

Honey, relax!!! It is probably totally innocent, my husband eats out with other females in the business sense all the time. I trust him.

As for you husband not saying something right away...well, if he is like my husband, he thought it was nothing to tell...he just ate and she happen to be there. Men are much simpler creatures than we are...they see black and white...we see everything...and it tends to make us nuts!!!

Tell him that you feel insecure about this and I am sure he will tell you how it was nothing...then if you have nothing else to go on...quit worring...be happy

Answer 2

Well, if your husband has never done anything in the past, that you should be suspicious of, then why worry now? It's all about the level of trust you two have in the relationship and pretty much going off that good old women's intuition. Normally, a woman can tell if her man is being unfaithful, by the break in routine. When he come home is he acting different around you? Guilt can consume a person if they are not normally a cheater and if they have cheated on you. The eyes never lie. Pick up that movie, "I Think I Love My Wife". I'm not a guy, but I would imagine that Chris Rock portrayed a pretty accurate description of how a married man thinks, and that movie pretty much looked like the exact blueprint of 80% of marriages I've seen from the outside anyway. Go rent it and check out the mail perspective.

Don't suspect anything until you have a reason to. Does he have any reason to want to cheat. Analyze your sex life for a minute and ask yourself has he been getting it on a regular basis? Would he be tempted to stray for any reason at all. Men are complicated creatures, and I'm sure they feel the same about us. I don't know your husband, so I can't tell you what I think of his personality. I wish you two the best of luck though.

Answer 3

He probably didn't offer the information to you because 1) It was no big deal or 2) He was afraid you would react exactly as you are now. If everything else is fine then let it be. My husband travels too and has dinner with women and men. I'd prefer he not eat alone. If you trust him, go ahead and trust him. At this point this is more your issue than his. Try to figure out why you don't want to be the jealous wife but are leaning in that direction. Good luck :)

Answer 4

My husband gets jealous of me talking to other people all the time. I did actually have a lunch meeting with one client, but it was business. He had a cow. It was ridiculous. Our relationship is tense anyway, but it is not a nice feeling that you can't be open about something as simple as eating in the presence of a person of the opposite sex. I say if he was honest about it when asked, and did not seem too nervous, didn't come home with lipstick on his collar or smeeling like perfume, let it rest. Jealousy will wreck a marriage faster than you can imagine. If he just didn't want to be lonely when eating, and they weren't discussing business, well, I might be a little miffed. But don't let it eat at you. You've got bigger fish to fry.

Answer 5

I'd just point out to him why his calendar mentioned Robin however he was with Carol. How did you find out he went to lunch with Carol than Robin? He can have intended to jot down Carol however was once pondering on the time of Robin should you stated he might have or does go to lunch together with her before. If its business I wouldnt feed extra into it. Should you discover something appears exceptional then look into it. There are a lot of co employees that take lunch collectively. Its a way to keep up a correspondence and consume even as to save time. For example, if he is too busy at work, he can speak different business whilst out to lunch as he's not in the place of work, doesnt have interruptions with the aid of others, and many others.

Answer 6

I could tell you what you really want to hear but you need to hear the truth about what really goes on at these business trips. My husband is on one as i type this in-fact i just got off the phone with him you know the nightly phone call to let you know he is back in his room for the night even though it's 7:OOpm. My husband at one point was traveling every week i only seen him on weekends. It has slow down a lot thank god because i don't know how much more i could have taken. I would be very concern if i were you,my husbands boss was going aways on trips and before you knew it he told his wife he was moving out and wanted a divorce she hadn't a clue like most of us.Well they divorced and he married the bimbo he was going to see every time is went on his business trip. She just happened to be a co-worker who worked at the building he was going to. It's always with a co-worker and the co-worker knows he is a married man but that doesn't stop them.I think the company's they work for should be held accountable for their workers actions when representing them. May be then some of the playing around would stop. Your husband not coming right out and telling you isn't good but that doesn't always mean anything.Just keep your eyes and ears open like phone calls when he is home but the line goes dead or hang ups when you answer the phone. The signs are always there if you look and pay attention.

Answer 7

Unless you have more reason to be suspicious, I'd let him off the hook. I've had dinner with a few sole male business acquaintances myself. And I felt awkward telling my husband about it, because it was over the phone and he couldn't see my expression.

I'd tell him honestly that you're a little concerned but you don't want to sound like an overly jealous wife. Then let him reassure you. It could lead to some marital fun. :)

Answer 8

Hi!

You know what... I'e been on the other side of that table. Literally. I've been a woman at a conference and ended up sitting next to a man on the plane who ended up at the same lecture as I was. Simply because we had seen each other on the plane we struck up a conversation.

It was plainly obvious to me that he was married. I ate with him without thinking AT ALL I could be jeapordizing that. I promise you that just as much as it could be shady, it also could be simply a dinner between 2 people who went to some stupid conference together.

Ithink the fact that he told you about it is a really REALLY good sign that it is the latter.

Answer 9

I don't think just dinner is acall for concern. I have traveled for work and the only other person that was traveling was a guy. We were in the same dept and usually talked on conference calls. We were the only 2 from out of town. My husband knew that I was having dinner with this guy I was up front with him. I have been cheated on and if your gut says that there is more to it than dinner then you need to act on it. I don't know your husband or your relationship so I really can't say.

Answer 10

If my husband was to get jealous every time I had dinner with my male counterparts while away on business he'd never see anything but green.
You need to get over this jealousy thing. OF COURSE he's going to have dinner with the women he works with What's he supposed to do - eat alone? This is not strange at all. it's business and work and colleagues travelling on business.

Come on... it's the 21st century. You need to get some self confidence and not worry about this. It happens all the time.