i do not know abt it and tries to show that our relationship is wrong with each other.although he is cheating on me i do not wish to lose him like this.we are still married and under one roof. i hv two kids too.i do not wish to break my marriage legally and also wish to charm him back from that girlfriend.please tell me how to attract n charm him back.
2007-09-19 17:26:18 · 16 answers · asked by sonu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can tell you how i did it it doesn't mean it will work for you with that being said the first thing i did was to keep telling him i loved him it didn't matter that he said it back just that i said it to him. I would be extra nice to him i would bring him a nice cold glass of coke or tea or water what ever he liked. When he said he was going out i would say can i iron you a shirt pints,Fill him up with kindness what this does is when his girlfriend says something bad about you he can't agree with her because you been really nice.The best part about this is he think you know nothing about her so she can't say to him your wife is only doing this because she is trying to get you from me. You do that and it will start to get to him and that's when he will start looking at you again.
2007-09-19 17:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for what happened. First of all, your sister needs some psychiatric help and you should keep your family away from her until she gets it. The fact that she is competing with you when it isn't even a competition shows she has some issues she needs to deal with. You can be there for her, if you choose, and support her, but don't allow her anywhere near your child(ren) or your husband, because she can brainwash your children and try to steal your husband as she has already tried to do. Tell her to get help and if not, tell her that she won't be allowed to be a part of your child's or your husband's life and get your husband to agree. If he does, then you know he loves you and is truly sorry for what he did. If he doesn't explain your feelings and your side of the story and tell him if he wants this family to work out then this is what needs to be done. Second of all, getting drunk and having sex with another woman is not right. The fact that he may have been drunk and seduced does not exonerate him, by any means. It is just an excuse. If he has never done anything like this before, it may just be because you are newly pregnant and he is afraid of "being tied down" even if you have been married for a while. If he has done anything like this before, it is a habit and a pattern that needs to break, now before the baby comes. If he is willing, couples therapy never hurts. There are worse things that could happen and things like this can even bring a couple closer. Don't stress out, because it isn't good for the baby. Good luck dear and keep me updated.
2016-05-19 00:13:43 · answer #2 · answered by verla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not have choice in losing him. In fact, if he has this much consideration for your feelings do you really want him? If you accept this and he gets past this girlfriend, you've basically given him the OK to do it again. Try talking to him and suggesting counseling but if he refuses then you need to make the first move for yourself and your kids. Don't wait for him to do it because he may catch you off guard and you wouldn't be in a good position.
I suggest go on the offensive, start putting away some money and making notes of these rendezvous that way if he does decide to end the marriage you've atleast got some ammunition for court and won't be left without a penny to feed your kids. Start looking for an affordable apartment and just get your plan together. It takes a long time to get a case into court and until you have a court order you could have a hard time collecting child support.
You've got to be prepared in case it happens.
2007-09-19 18:22:58 · answer #3 · answered by Georgia Peach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
You both require is an open dialogue on the subject with each other. It is extremely important to communicate with each other freely on such important matters. That way, you will know the reasons for his behaviour and will help you understand what is bothering him. If there are some medical problems he may be inflicted with they can be addressed. Other psychosexual problems can be tackled if you both see a sex and marriage counsellor. Communication is a component of a good inter-personal relationship where there is a frank and honest dialogue between husband and wife.
2007-09-20 00:25:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be overbearing. Just be yourself...the person he married and loved. Don't try too hard. Maybe if you kinda play hard to get it would help.
He's in a "honeymoon-like" period with the girlfriend. All is fine and well for him until "life" hits. When they have to start discussing a mortgage, laundry, yard work and toilet seat positioning...it won't be so fabulous. That grass on the other side of the fence gets weeds in it too.
Good luck to you!
2007-09-19 21:01:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's ungrateful for what he has, but u love him so i would try to charm him back too, maybe make him dinner and put some thonges on for when he comes home. try something new with him maybe let him shoot peas thru a straw at ur butt hole as ur on all 4 atop of the kitchen table. say some dirty things to him. get him drunk a little and let him see what he's missing.
good luck
2007-09-19 17:40:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When did you eat the "stupid pill"?
Please don't be desperate and stand on your feet becuase you have the responsibility of 2 children.
He cheated once, shame on him,
He cheated twice, shame on you.
By staying with him, you are giving him your consent to his affair with his girlfriend.
As far charming him back.....all you have to do is divorce him immediately.
Good Luck.
2007-09-22 08:19:31 · answer #7 · answered by feysunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would u put yourself through this? and even if u did succeed when would it happen again maybe with someone else. he doesn't deserve your love. he has to want this u can't do it by yourself anyway. he seems to be doing all he can to convince u the relationship isn't working for him. let him go u can't change others, once its done its done and one can't go back and undo the damage or make it like it use to be.
2007-09-19 23:43:36 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly sweetie you don't need this no woman should be treated like this in fact no one should be treated like this at all. If he is not man enough to see that you been by his side all this time and this girl hasn't. If he don't see how much you love and care for him ten he don't deserve to be with you you need to be strong and realize that
2007-09-19 17:41:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
charm him back?
what planet are you on
he has already moved on , without you but you need to show him you have a life
divorce him and find yourselve a guy
2007-09-20 01:51:59 · answer #10 · answered by Perfectionist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋