Ok so heres the full story...Im having an affair w/ a married man....im friends w/ there family meaning his wife knows me.....we all e mail back in forth like forwards & stuff like that but since me & her husband have been talking I sent him an email one night telling him to write me b/c my husband never gets on the computer well she read the e mail I had sent him.....do u think she suspects us having the affair together by the sound of what I wrote to him???
2007-09-19 17:16:44 · 63 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are going to do something like that, get a "private" mail from Yahoo and don't read them unless there is no chance of getting caught. She may suspect something if she is reading and looking at his mail so "put up your dukes" and get ready to be confronted.
2007-09-19 17:22:37 · answer #1 · answered by lone_lee_days 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I have been in his wife's shoes and I can tell you that she does suspect. By putting in the e mail that your husband never gets on the computer you have told his wife the relationship has a secret element to it that you don't want your husband to find out about. I lived through the ABSOLUTE HELL that you two are putting her through. I lived through the 18 month affair where I almost went insane trying to find proof. I have lived through the 6 month struggle after I finally found out what was really happening before I got the ***** out of my life. What you are doing is cruel. It destroys lives and people. Tell her the truth. She deserves to know. At least then she can do something about her cheating husband. She is not doing anything wrong but you are and you know it. When it's all out in the open your affair will not be so much fun and he'll probably run a mile. 2 years later I'm still hurting like hell. Why do you think it's OK to inflict pain like that on her and your husband. Do his wife a favour and get out of her life. You are NOT A FAMILY FRIEND!!!!!!! With friends like you........
2007-09-19 18:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
What a shame. Who cares if she suspects it or not - is that supposed to somehow justify anything?
You need to learn to keep your legs closed and show some respect. Fooling around with a married man is whorish and, in the end, most of the time nobody wins. The affair always damages the marriage. Sometimes the guy goes back to his wife and you lose. Sometimes the guy goes with the mistress and after the marriage fails the relationship with the mistress usually fails as well.
Right now you are likely just a distraction to him. Chances are if he lived with you day in and day out you would be on his wife's end of the table too. Why would you sell yourself so short - this guy is cheating on his wife with you. Where do you think this relationship is going? Even if he leaves his wife and gets together with you what makes you so sure he isn't going to do the same thing with another woman later down the road - remember, he did it once he can sure do it again. Don't kid yourself. You're opening yourself (and everyone else involved) up to a lot of hurt. Where is your respect?
2007-09-19 17:27:48 · answer #3 · answered by Jim Bob 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable to be insecure because of this man's success, but I say let it go dude. Even if she did have an affair with the guy, it was 10 years ago and you didn't even know her then. On the other hand, if you think they keep in touch a little "too" much you may want to worry though. If she was very young when this relationship took place she probably thinks of him as MUCH more than just a friend and there was a lot more to the relationship than she's fessin' up to. If you don't think they're too close now then don't worry yourself over it.
2016-05-19 00:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by verla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably will know of it now. Break off the relationship. End the affair. It's more than you and him that are going to get hurt. It's the whole friend circle and the kids. Once it gets out, get used to hearing "Homewrecker." Or worse from your closest friends. People have a tendancy to take sides and you won't have a sympathetic ear. No more emails. Nothing. No one will trust you. End it now. If you aren't happy with your husband, that's what a divorce is for. But divorce first.
2007-09-19 17:26:15 · answer #5 · answered by Carol T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHY are you having an affair? If you are unhappy, be an honest person, get our of your own relationship because you are treating your own husband like dirt and you are being very self-indulgent by pursuing someone who is unavailable. Grow up, do the right thing and break the ties that are apparently not working for you. People who cheat are insecure and selfish and don't seem to realize how hurtful their actions are to those around them - their spouses and other family members. ...and believe me, everyone knows and there is nothing more hurtful and degrading that to even suspect that you are being replaced by someone else.
2007-09-19 17:28:00 · answer #6 · answered by Karen C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
here goes. You need to severe contact with this guy. He is married! Its unfair on all involved, do they have a family?? WHEN the wife finds out she will know that her husband and a so called friend of hers (you) have betrayed her. Stuff like this allways comes out in the end. There are plenty of single men out there so go and find one of your own. Then there are STDS ! Have some integrity. Put yourself in the wifes shoes and think about how you would feel.
2007-09-19 17:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by Rob83 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is what I tell people having affairs. The next time there doing someones husband or wife, think of there spouse behind you with tears in there eyes. His wife will eventually find out. Do you like being a s***? I hope you both get found out. Your both pigs.....
2007-09-19 17:29:15 · answer #8 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all.. forget her wondering... Why are you cheating on your husband and at the same time with a married man?!?! you need to either work things out with your husband or get divorced and stop being a homewrecker. How do you look at yourself knowing what your doing is WRONG?!?! I hope she suspects something and catches on and puts you two in your places!
2007-09-19 17:21:07 · answer #9 · answered by applesauce 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hope she does. There are consequences to this type of immoral behavior. I'm sure you'll be discovering them.
Don't be a part of destroying a family for your own selfishness. Stop this relationship...exercise your conscience if you have one.
You are the type of woman who helped ruin my marriage and household. Do you have any idea how bad that hurts? Do you even care?
Seeing how casually you can talk about what you are doing makes me literally sick.
2007-09-19 22:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Done deal. She knows. It doesn't take much for her to go and find out what you two are up to now. What's he gonna say, "we were preparing a surprise party for her husband and we didn't think to bring you in on the deal?" If she's got any sense, she's going to act nonchalant for the next few days all the while digging up more dirt on her husband who has probably put his guard down not suspecting anything himself. He'll slip up eventually and I imagine...so will you. Start looking for a relationship therapist or find a good divorce attorney.
2007-09-19 17:22:52 · answer #11 · answered by FANatic 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋