when I was married to my now ex wife. I bought a 4 wheeler for her daughter to use.it was kinda a present for her.she was 10 at the time.my wife filoed for divorce when I was hospitalized and I came home to an empty house. I was diagnosed woith bi polar but am now on meds, anyway, my ex took the 4 wheeler with her when she moved out.she is having problems making the payments on it and I offered to take over the payments on it since it is still financed in my name and the title will be in my name.she wants me to give her cash over and beyond the value of it because she is in a financial bind.. who should get the 4 wheeler.it is still like new and hardly ridden and it is in my name ,she has been making the payments for the past year.is it morally wrong to want it back?the kids havent spoken to me since the move out and they dont want anything to do with me.she has turned them agains me in all aspects and Ive never done anything to the kids nor have I ever been abusive to their mother.
2007-09-19 15:46:48 · 9 answers · asked by road runner 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tho you gave it sorta as a gift, you are making payments on it. I have no idea what those puppies cost, but probably several thousand dollars. Since it is in your name, and the child isn't much using it, in your place, I'd reclaim it, sell it, and flush the whole lot of them. You're being used.
2007-09-19 17:44:24 · answer #1 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you got it as a gift for her daughter, you should let her keep it. It's not the daughter's fault that things didn't work out between the 2 of you. If the kids haven't spoken to you, it could be because they would feel disloyal to their mother, or maybe she's talking trash about you. You may never know why. I'm not sure that a 4-wheeler is an age appropriate gift for a 10 year old, but that's my opinion. I don't know about MORALLY wrong to want it back, but it would certainly be wrong to take it back.
2007-09-19 15:58:55 · answer #2 · answered by Rose E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send the payments to the company yourself that way you know they are being made. You can figure up the amount she spent making payments for the last year and give her that after all she could have let it go and your credit. As for taking the 4wheeler back it would only hurt the child more if you did and you don't seem to want to hurt the kids.
2007-09-19 15:59:32 · answer #3 · answered by rooksgirl17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sign over the title and transfer ownership at the place you bought it since she has possession
on of it. and have her deal with it as she pleases. She will be responsible in making payments or selling it. Since the children are not yours and due to their mother bad mouthing you don't feel bad about not paying for the 4 wheeler. Let them have it and you can walk away.
2007-09-19 16:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by iamhappyfourme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's wrong for you to want it back. It was a gift for her daughter. Plus, you further reinforced the notion that it was a gift when you offered to take over the payments and when you allowed her to make the payments for a full year.
2007-09-19 18:03:09 · answer #5 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you can have it back since it's under your name and shame on your ex, divorcing while you need support and help the most..what s up with women these days...take it back and she shouldn't ask for money cos the time she was making payments on she was using it too right? it's like she s making payment on a leased car..but do it nicely no need to make things bitter it s always to end things blissfully and in a civil way...good luck
2007-09-19 16:15:07 · answer #6 · answered by kate B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you gave it to her daughter as a gift than you can't take it back. You can make the payments yourself directly to the place you purchased it so that your credit won't be effected. Don't send her the cash to make the payment, it might not get paid.
2007-09-19 15:51:26 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you gifted it to the kid. you should make the payment so your credit doesn't get trashed. plus, the kid may end up back in your life when she's older and she willl remember that you were a decent person when her mom was busy trashing you.
If it gets too ugly, you may want to talk to an attorney for some legal advice...actually this should have been dealt with in your divorce.
2007-09-19 16:17:44 · answer #8 · answered by myfroggies3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me that if she can't afford it, and you don't have a use for it, it needs be sold and paid off.
2007-09-19 15:56:03 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋