Marriage & Divorce - 6 September 2007

It's odd that I am asking this question when I want to get married. But why are so many people against the idea of common-law relationships?

People choose to get married because they want. Others feel that they do not need an overly expensive party to show they love each other. Common law couples have the same benefits of married ones.

2007-09-06 05:53:54 · 21 answers · asked by Megegie 5

I've known this guy for about two years. At first it was a silly crush to me, but from his point of view, it was something real. We eventually lost contact with each other and he recently got in touch with me and now we are in a serious relationship together. I didn't know at the time that I had deep feelings for him. Now I do. Now he wants to get married, and I'm kind of afraid because my family has a history of failed marriages. What do i do!!

2007-09-06 05:51:35 · 33 answers · asked by babyjay_babyjae 2

Okay my husband and I are trying to save our marriage, but he is really starting to tick me off. He goes out almost every night with his single friends to bars, and leaves me at home with our 2 year old son. I do not want to sound like a nagging wife but its not fair. He gets to go out and have fun, and do god only knows what, while I am at home taking care of his son. What would you do if you were me?

2007-09-06 05:49:35 · 23 answers · asked by Jess 3

I am 50 divorced 15 years and am pretty good looking.

2007-09-06 05:39:08 · 3 answers · asked by AT age 50 3

My anniversary is coming up in two weeks. Me and my husband planned to do something nice for our 7th yr anniversary. My husband told me yesterday, that he going to go visit his family and spoil daughter, so I ask him so when are you going to leave, he say he leaving on the date of our anniversary. When I bought the date to his attention, he was shock and say oh right I forgot, so I asked him to change the date of his trip, to the next week he say I already got approved for the date to leave from my supervisor. He have the nerve to tell me oh when I come back we can do something then. Its not emergency where he really have to go. So what do you all think about this?

2007-09-06 05:03:34 · 6 answers · asked by dbrh_soto 6

i have been with my husband for 7 years and married for almost 3. During the course of our relationships we've had some pretty bad arguments. Some which escalated to physical fighting. My son was born premature a month and a half due to one of these confrontations which happened because he was drunk and it was a complete misunderstanding.

Well today is my birthday, and i didn't know he was joking with me about pretending that he forgot my b-day and I got upset. Because in the 7 years we've been together he's only done something for my bday twice (one was he cooked breakfast for me and the other was a card.) In any case we fought today. He took me and threw me around the room, he broke my glass jewlry box and a few other things and i shouted leave me alone, i want a divorce and made matters obviously worse. I know it was my fault that this happened I shouldn't have gotten upset. But I don't know if i should stay with him any longer, what if any are my options?

2007-09-06 04:56:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

what to do when the sex is boring to your partner? how do you spice up your love life. we have tryed almost everything but still she say its still boreing to her. can you have a sexless marrage? i have a very high sex drive and should i put that on the back burner and just not have sex?

2007-09-06 04:51:15 · 17 answers · asked by terminal x 1

I don't talk about it to anyone, I know they don't want to hear about it. Not even my husband. I am raising my beautiful 19 year old severly handicapped daughter. It breaks my heart everyday I see normal children, teenage girls laughing. I have missed everything with her. She will never marry, she will never have a first kiss, no grandchildren for me. But still in front of everyone I pretend to be so strong and brave, when I really want to roll up in a ball and die than watch her struggle another day. When people ask me how is your daughter, I only answer oh same ole same ole. Well please tell me what you think about this. My husband her step-father said to me ,,,,because I wanted to tell him how much it hurts to watch her struggle , he said to me and I quote "WHEN ARE YOU EVER GOING TO GET OVER IT " I am still in shock that any human could say that to a mother of a handicapped child. I will never get over it,I will only learn to live with it. Am i being to senitive.

2007-09-06 04:50:48 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love him. He says he loves me. but all this fighting!! He wont go get help. He says it is all me. I cause all the fights. I went to a theripist and she said I was fine. He is bi-polar and wont take meds and says he is over it. I cant keep living this rollercoaster life. What should I do?

2007-09-06 04:50:09 · 34 answers · asked by suzi_is_here2 1

If a woman was married to a man who drank and gambled, she was sick of it so started an affair with another man, left her husband. Two years later he is clean and stopped gambling. They have two kids, 21/2 and 5.

Her friends are telling her that she was wrong to have an affair and that he never gambled or drank away the money and they never were behind on bills, still had lots of savings and a 401(k) and he makes a lot of money and he was never falling down drunk or had a dui so it was just her being judgmental anyway.

I don't know that I agree with this. What do you think?

2007-09-06 04:37:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hello,

Here's the skinny of the situation:

Our brief history:
My wife and I have been together since high school. We went to college together and then got married a couple years after living together first.

They say opposites attract each other and if so we prove this rule. I'm from the projects and she is from the suberbs. I'm a very firery personality she is much different.

For the last 2 months we have had issues every single week.

Each issue regardless of the details of the occurance inevitably end up highlighting the differences in our personalities instead of who was right or wrong.

In other words once something happens and we take a look at why it happened in terms of preventing it from happening again we find ourselves discovering that it probably can't be prevented because of who we both are.

To describe the bad part of my personality you could say "jerk"
for her she is a "b" when she is in her negative vibe.

How can a jerk and a b get along?

2007-09-06 04:33:07 · 12 answers · asked by mrdontplay 1

I have been friends with my no current girlfriend for 5 years, we are now talking about engagement and moving in together. However she lives in a different state. She can't move to me because she is in collage to become a lawyer. I have thoughts and aspirations of just some day just packing up to move there on a whim. But I wouldn't have a job, a place to stay (but I probably could stay in her dorm), and we talk about everything very seriously. I know one day I will marry her, its just a waiting game.

So should I make the leap blindly or jut wait it out?

2007-09-06 04:28:01 · 10 answers · asked by piffingod 2

Ok so I don't get along with my sister inlaws (6 of them) AT ALL! They don't like me and vice versa.
My husband has never stood up to them for me which makes me mad.. finally I just cut them loose (about a year ago). He said I don't have to go to any family things.
Well yesterday I went off on one SIL (just couldn't hold it in) not the right thing to do, but its done...and would rather not deal with anything (them) anymore. NOW, she is getting married later in the fall . My husband doesn't mention it to me at all, he is waiting to hear from me We have not made any plans, nor discussed it other than me saying so we're not going to talk about it...
Knowing they have been talking about me for years, knowing I will get bad attitude and smirks all night long... what should I do? What would you do?

2007-09-06 04:26:40 · 12 answers · asked by meme 5

Sometimes I feel like I have more NOT in common than common.... We have been married for 5 and a half years, no kids. I am in my late twenties and he is in his early thirties. Is this normal? I feel like we always, always have to compromise with the other because we tend to like different movies, music, etc. Does anyone else feel this way? It's even more so than that. I am more conservative, he is more liberal. I have a passion for volunteering and helping important causes, he could care less. I have a ton of energy, he is more easy going and calm. I go to church and have a certain moral compass, he does not. What does all of this mean? I am starting to wonder if we were truly meant to be together? I feel like when I express myself or am passionate about a cause, I'd like him to be passionate with me, even if it isn't a cause that is necessarily important to him. It is important to me. Sometimes I feel like we might be growing apart?

2007-09-06 04:22:19 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Or does it mean you never loved, or weren't sure of love when you married, what does it mean and did you lose willingness to get help (counseling) or did you just grow apart and wife was less receptive to your needs. Please tell me ur thoughts.

2007-09-06 04:15:30 · 25 answers · asked by Benny 3

I am getting married very soon, to a wonderful, trustworthy girl. I have been married before and have 2-kids from that marriage. The girl I am marrying is 8-years younger than I am, and she has helped me to make very good changes in my life.

But, the trade off is that she is kinda controlling. Everything has to be on her terms. She will not waver an inch on money issues. She has helped me to be alot more responsible with finances, but it is to the point that I am afraid to even spend any money without worrying about repercussions. She works but, I bring in about 75% of our income.

She is just so stubborn about everything. Do I put up with it because things are better in my life now. Or, is this just a prelude to what the rest of my life is going to be like.

2007-09-06 04:13:17 · 33 answers · asked by looking for answers 1

2007-09-06 04:00:36 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-06 03:59:36 · 9 answers · asked by threecraws 1

I'm so confused.. I love 2 men and I'm not sure who I want to be with. How do I make that decision? There are numerous circumstances (I can't get into) that are interferring with my decision. I think the biggest thing is fear. I'm afraid of losing one for the other.

2007-09-06 03:06:13 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm a little confused on how this tool is to be used. My "HUSBAND" goes into the single and dating and is giving advice on threesomes. I thought that this was a place where you get and give advice on subjects that pertain to you?

2007-09-06 02:59:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

filed a devorce in 2003 in baltimore maryland , and i need to know the results

2007-09-06 02:47:37 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Scenario: You have 2 kids from a previous marriage, your partner has none, but always wanted them. There are no guarantees that your partner is infertile, but chances are higher than normal. Originally, you and your partner had planned to have a child together.

2007-09-06 02:47:34 · 34 answers · asked by Tempestt 2

Do we prefer young or older women/men?? I walked into a spa yesterday and this gorgeous little blonde was yapping like a lap dog on her cell phone, very loud, every other word was "like" drove me nuts and all I had a choice to do was to sit there and listen to it. WOW guys how can you handle that? I couldn't imagine the chatter and wondered who would have the patience for her. The immaturity is scarey, and we have all been there I know, well maybe not that bad, but curious if because of this reason younger guys prefer (attractive) older women? Women how bout you? Do you prefer sophisticated sexy older men or younger hot guys?

2007-09-06 02:42:38 · 24 answers · asked by Maria 5

I accidentally left my phone home but another man called me. My man saw this and know the other man. So he asked me why was this person calling me. AAAAAAHHHHHHHH I don't know what to say.

2007-09-06 02:40:11 · 27 answers · asked by chezeryl 2

2007-09-06 02:37:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a husband of 14months, and I love him very much, but he drive me crazy, and there are times I dont want to be around him, I have to pick up after him, tell him over over and over again, what I need from him to help me out. We have two beautiful children, and yet I think I have three.
Every time I talk to him, he says huh? I cant hear you. SO then I am repeating myself over and over. I have become this person I hate. When I was a single mom, I knew I had to do things myself, being married I thought things would change. I have told him I am unhappy with the help he gives me. He says all I do is ***** and nag. So what else is there to do? Please help me...

2007-09-06 02:30:31 · 8 answers · asked by Shelly G 2

2007-09-06 02:30:27 · 4 answers · asked by Jon-Jay M 1

Each day I wake up with doubts about my decision to keep my daughter here with me. She is 15 and lived with her father from age 10 to 15. She has started High School here with me in a different state and does not like it.

I feel bad because I could have gone back to my ex-husband, she would be happier and not complain so much. I have not lived up to anyone's expectations especially hers. She wanted me to take the steps to put the family back together.

I guess I have to remember my ex-husband's words saying the I am "inefficient, diseased (ambivalent) and and irresponsible mother." Then, I remember what a control freak he was and how bad my life would be.

He also keep telling me to close my bank account, empty out my storage and pack up everything and then come back. He says that his sister does not leave things in his parent's house and I should not also. I live in another state with my parents.

I wish that I could find a way to make things better for everyone.

2007-09-06 02:23:00 · 5 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

Ok I’ve heard people say that looking at porn and creating online relationships are considered cheating but I was wondering about something that’s not so clear cut. Would you consider having a wet dream a form of cheating? I think it has the same merit as a person looking at porn except that they can actually get the same feeling as having sex with another person. With men you could have proof of this is they have a wet spot on the sheets with women it’s impossible to prove unless they tell you.

The reason I ask is because it goes in line with the reasons people think looking at porn is cheating. Your spouse isn’t giving serving your needs for whatever reason so you get gratification from somewhere else. Does anyone have any thoughts? I’m just curious.

2007-09-06 02:11:18 · 33 answers · asked by abstract_alao 4

My wife & I recently had a difference of opinion on the issue of her texting another man on her cell phone We finally agreed that she would stop texting the suspect and delete his number. Now she has began 2 text another guy that is an old friend of hers I dont care that they talk however yesterday there were approximately 116 incoming and 133 outgoing text on her phone I only account for 30 of these text later in the evening i grabbed her by her pocket, just playing with her and she jerked away from me and took her phone out of that pocket and deleted whatever msgs were on it. I had no idea the phone was in her pocket & wasnt reaching 4 it. Am I wrong 2 wonder what she is texting so much about and also I wonder if she is not texting the other guy she agreed to stop talking with? We had a good argument about it & she tells me she just doesnt want me to know what they r talking about. Who is disrespecting who in this relationship?

2007-09-06 02:05:51 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous