Scenario: You have 2 kids from a previous marriage, your partner has none, but always wanted them. There are no guarantees that your partner is infertile, but chances are higher than normal. Originally, you and your partner had planned to have a child together.
2007-09-06 02:47:34 · 34 answers · asked by Tempestt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, I would. If you are in love, the love for each other should superceede anything else, including infertility.
2007-09-06 02:53:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If both of u really love each other, why not ?
N since you already have 2 kids + there are always many ways to have a baby together other than the conventional way.
Besides, who knows u 2 will get a baby sooner than u think ? It might be ur partner's ex-wife/husband who was infertile.
2007-09-06 02:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by EnAjOe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the best thing to do is to talk about your options BEFORE you get married to find out if there are any that the two of you agree on. You could get a sperm donor if necessary or adopt, but both of you would have to talk it out beforehand. At least one thing is already agreed on, both of you want a child together, so the rest should be fairly easy, right? If he has the possibility of being infertile, than you have to decide if you would have a baby using a sperm donor OR adopt. If neither option is for you, than you have to let him know this upfront so that he can make good decisions for himself. It's not all about you, you must be fair to him as well. Nobody wants a man who was mislead or trapped into marriage who becomes hateful and bitter, so be upfront and honest so that you both can make good decisions...you've got two kids of your own to consider.
2007-09-06 03:02:50 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things happen and sometimes infertility is part of it. Due to a decision I made I became sterile. I have one daughter(thank god). My new husband I was afraid wanted to have kids, I told him about what had happened to me before, and then bluntly told him that if he didn't want to get married I would understand. Lucky for me, He said he fell in love with me and my daughter and that it didn't matter if he didn't have children or not. He already had a family. And to him that was enough.
It just depends on the couple who are involved in the relationship. And how adult they are and where their priorities are as well. Some may leave because having children is a dream they can't give up. And some can be content with what they have, realizing that it just wasn't meant to be.
2007-09-06 03:18:53 · answer #4 · answered by mshellrosie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! But You MUST address the issue openly before you marry him. This sort of thing is definitely a deal breaker later on, so make sure you have a plan before you take the plunge! Perhaps even ask him to have his sperm count tested (get yourself tested too to make him feel more comfortable--you never know, something could have changed since you last two kids). Especially if you have no real reason to believe that he isn't fertile (perhaps the stars never aligned for him for a REASON!-- he was waiting to meet you!). Open up and discuss your fears. Worst case-- adopt. Reaching your heart and home out to a child born into horrible circumstances could become your deepest bond together yet.
2007-09-06 03:03:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really need to have a child in a relationship to prove your love to one and another? Is a child a stamp of approval of your unconditional love for each other?
If he always wanted kids, but cannot have them because he is infertile, well then there is not much that can be done. It is something you both have to live through.
You have 2 kids he could potentially adopt, or you both can adopt another child.
2007-09-06 03:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If we loved each other, yes I would marry him. It doesn't matter if he' infertile. There are many ways to have a child. Adoption, Sperm Donor, etc.
Why does getting married have to depend on one person being able to have kids or not. If that's the main reason why you got married to a person, then I think the marriage is not going to be a very strong.
2007-09-06 02:56:26 · answer #7 · answered by binreddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Battling infertility for 14 years myself and the latest marriage ending because of it among many other things, I know what its like to be outcast by something in which you can not help. So as long as I knew prior; yes I would.
There are way too many variables when considering infertility...if its an issue then maybe the two of you should both be checked.
I was told that it was me by two doctors and it was permanent and that I should consider a hysterectomy. 1 month after my divorce was finally finalized the guy I was seeing knocked me up. So it wasn't just me, I don't know exactly what it was...but I can tell you me and my X were NOT compatible at all. Because two months after I got PG, his girlfriend also became PG.
2007-09-06 03:01:39 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, it depends what is stronger: the desire to have more children or the love you have for that partner?
There can only be one choice here and the answer will guide you.
If the desire to have a child is really strong, to the point that you can't face a future without it happening, then, it's better to move on without your partner.
If partner is everything you want, then, if for some reason you were not to have children, then you'll still be happy to be with him.
Don't decide lightly, it's very important for both your future happiness.
Good luck.
2007-09-06 03:30:24 · answer #9 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no 1,if you have 2 kids b/4 marrying again,you need not to worry about having many children,remember the how hard in raising many children these days.despite that your partner may be infertile,if there is love,go ahead and marry him/her.
no 2,then pray to God Almighty make you partner fertile because prayer is the key to everything successes in life.not only pray but believe too,don't put any doubt.
2007-09-06 03:05:57 · answer #10 · answered by passmatical 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why aren't people now days getting all of this kind of thing checked out BEFORE marriage? Wouldn't it save alot of heartache later?
I'm kind of confused by your question........you say u have 2 kids................you don't say if it's you or him who MAY BE infurtile. IF it's him, be happy you already have 2 children and if you love him enough, keep loving him.
IF it's you who MAY BE can't give him a child of your own, why not do all the fertility stuff? Or get an egg from elsewhere and allow him to have a baby from your womb?
There are many options.
2007-09-06 02:58:23 · answer #11 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋