I'm so confused.. I love 2 men and I'm not sure who I want to be with. How do I make that decision? There are numerous circumstances (I can't get into) that are interferring with my decision. I think the biggest thing is fear. I'm afraid of losing one for the other.
2007-09-06 03:06:13 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
stop bein a greedy selfish cow n give em both up! for their sake! if they find out u will have neither!
2007-09-13 00:29:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know that there are a ton of women out in the world that can't even find one guy that could be the one. Your a little selfish by having to guys you need to pick one. You will know the one to pick by listening to your heart. Your heart will tell you who you should be with but also take into account how you feel in your head when thinking of the two guys. Look at their characteristics, personality, behavior and how they act around children (if you plan on having kids). Also decide if you can be with one guy and one guy only. If you find yourself having difficulty still deciding you might want to wait on getting more serious with either because you don't want to put yourself into a position where you might cheat. Also it is not fare that you keep two guys hanging on thinking that he is the only guy in your life and not to mention the dangers that can come about if your sleeping with both guys. Consider all this and make a decision. Good Luck.
2007-09-06 03:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start fresh with new guys and date only one person at a time. Then you will know for sure.
And if money or the size of the diamond (or a body part) have anything to do with your decision you have no idea what love really is.
I honestly do not understand people who can date multiple people at once, I have a friend that does it and I'll be the first to say that she has no idea what love is and that she is a gold digger. Four engagements later, she's got a kid, she's getting older and she's still not married.
2007-09-13 17:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by poisonous_tree_frog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you are not ready for a commitment with either of them. If you are unable or unwilling to give one of them up and be faithful to the other you have no business entering into a relationship with either of them. And if you keep trying to hold on to both of them you will probably lose one or both in the process.
Without knowing what all of these circumstances are that you can't get into, it's difficult to say which of these men--if either--is "the one." You are going to have to do some soul searching on this one.
BTW, do they know about each other? Chances are if you don't make a decision soon one or both of them will make it for you.
2007-09-12 17:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do they know about each other?? Love to me is not being able to stand being apart from the one you Love and that doesn't sound like this. If they do not know about each other you are not being fair to them. If you are supposed to be in Love then honesty should come into the picture. If fear is in there maybe you should spend a little time with yourself, getting to know who you are before you try to put yourself out there for someone else.
2007-09-13 17:45:42 · answer #5 · answered by Rev.Leal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I got married, I chose the one that I loved more, instead of the one who loved me more. Do you get it? Well, I made a mistake. I married the into the relationship where I was doing most of the loving, and have been treated badly. If I had married into the relationship where he did most of the loving, then I would have grown to love him for the way he treated me and the way he made me feel. If I had married the second guy, he wouldnt have cheated one me, and maybe I would not be considering divorce right now.
2007-09-13 11:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can tell you don't go for the good looks,look at the pros and cons, who is going to give you his support at any time and to know that is easy that one that you think that really loves you more,a guy/girl would do anything for the person that they love,but if you love him more than he loves you he'll take advantage of you,but I really think that you are not in love with any of this men, it's just what you said at first you are confused,because if you were in love you wouln't have doughts, thats what I think.
2007-09-12 09:13:08 · answer #7 · answered by emerald 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you end up loving 2 men? Don't choose either one if you fear losing one for the other.
2007-09-06 03:12:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you know if he's the one. But being w/2 men you will never find out. You need to chose one.
make a chart of pro and con for ea guy, that's another way to find out. if you don't live w/the guy, you won't know either. it helps a relationship when you know the in and out of one person. neither of them is the one b/c you LOVE both. if one guy was the one, you wouldn't love the other guy. you have to lose one or the ohter, you have have the pie and eat it too.
2007-09-12 11:21:42 · answer #9 · answered by Adrienne L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time and be with yourself for awhile. It sounds like with these two men in your life you are just going to be more confused. If you aren't ready to let go of any of them, then I am sorry but that is selfish. These two men probably want to start a relationship with you and you are just tagging them along. One is going to get hurt in this ordeal. Just face it!!
2007-09-13 15:14:23 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five time-tested ways.
1. Flip a coin.
2. Choose the one with the coolest car.
3. Have your family and closest friends vote.
4. Break up with them both and choose whichever takes it the hardest.
5. Tell them both how you feel and have them battle it out.
Hope this helps, good luck.
2007-09-13 11:21:54 · answer #11 · answered by atomzer0 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋