I have been friends with my no current girlfriend for 5 years, we are now talking about engagement and moving in together. However she lives in a different state. She can't move to me because she is in collage to become a lawyer. I have thoughts and aspirations of just some day just packing up to move there on a whim. But I wouldn't have a job, a place to stay (but I probably could stay in her dorm), and we talk about everything very seriously. I know one day I will marry her, its just a waiting game.
So should I make the leap blindly or jut wait it out?
2007-09-06 04:28:01 · 10 answers · asked by piffingod 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WOW currently in that same situation. Only I work full time and go to school, so I have my own place. My fiance is going to move here permenantly in december. He is just gonna do it just like that.
We've been together 2 years and have been doing the whole commute thing lol traveling back and forth. I'm still in undergrad, and plan to attend law school too, want to be a Lawyer, and he has been so patient and supportive. He proposed last christmas, and we're getting married next august.
I say, GO FOR IT. BUT be sure you plan, look up jobs and housing NOW, before you move out there. Have a plan and a way to be sure you both can survive before you just run into it. That is the upside to my situation, I have a job, and go to school, and have an apartment. So he will just have to have a job. We're both happy and know this is the best move for us. Initially he may or may not have a job, but will find one fast, its good here in Boston, and we'll be fine. :)
I'm excited for you, and encouraged because I am not the only one. This is too funny, because I too am in school to become a lawyer. hahaha. Small world.
2007-09-06 04:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't make the move blindly. Talk to her to make sure she's in favor of the idea, then research jobs and places to live in the area. (Ask if you can use her address on your resume as a local contact; it'll help once you start applying.) It'll take a little more time, but it's better than having to wait until she graduates.
2007-09-06 11:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by MM 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a big call. All I can say is look at some senarios of if things work out and if things dont work out.
Dont leave youself in a situation that will be very hard to get out of.
If she loves you then she will do no wrong. If she loves you then she would wait until you feel it the right time to jump head first into a situation that would leave you valnerable.
2007-09-06 11:42:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No; bad idea. She's in law school, and you can't even spell college. She'll be busy as hell all the time, and when she graduates, she'll have a great job somewhere, not necessarily in the same town she's in. What are you going to do...follow her again? Jesus, get your life together. Have something to offer like a good job, or career, and most importantly, have a plan. She doesn't want some guy mooching and riding her coattail.
2007-09-06 11:54:20 · answer #4 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a plan first. Start looking into getting a job and an apartment closer to her. If you start off your relationship by mooching off of her (living in her dorm) it's not going to make you look very good. Women like men who are independent and sure of themselves. We also like stability. You're not going to be any of those things if you make this crazy leap without a plan.
2007-09-06 11:40:43 · answer #5 · answered by Mel 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wait it out. Sometimes it maybe for the best if you do. Maybe get engaged and then married after she is done with her degree? Financially you will be dependent on her and that could cause a lot of stress on your relationship. No job, no home? Could be cause for a NO relationship. Take your time and take baby steps.
2007-09-06 11:37:55 · answer #6 · answered by mshellrosie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make the leap, I say. Why be apart if you can be together? Yes, stay at her place until your find your own. Jobs can be found anywhere.
2007-09-06 11:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you guys are really serious, then you can wait a little bit until she is done with school. Dont jump into a situation that will make you unhappy and may ruin your relationship.
2007-09-06 11:37:27 · answer #8 · answered by Umpalumpa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't just leap....A good man would have a plan.
2007-09-06 11:37:57 · answer #9 · answered by Jay's Girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait it out, you will not be sorry.
2007-09-06 11:46:56 · answer #10 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋