Marriage & Divorce - 6 September 2007

Soon they plan of getting married this year. My sister is doubtful if it would be a healthy marriage since they will be responsible of the 5 kids from his previous relationship. The man and my sis are in their 30s...right time for marriage but is he the right one for her?....i think my sis has to sacrifiice so much of herself for the man if they will marry soon.

2007-09-06 13:41:36 · 14 answers · asked by ying 1

That is, acting as mediator between the two opposing partners to:

1)Save money
2)Make for a more amiable divorce
3)Keep the nastiness out of court

My husband and I are currently separated. We've been married for 17 yrs and have three kids. This lawyer, who had agreed to do this, is a mutual classmate from college days. So we both know her, but I for one haven't seen her since those days. We were not friends in college but we were civil. Her roommate on the other hand used, to date my husband before I did. I don't know if this lawyer is in touch with her friend.

She approached my husband about this mediator thing. She would act as lawyer for both of us. Should I trust her? Do you this is a good solution and has anyone ever done this before?

My husband has a lot of ghosts in the closet that he may not want to expose in court. He knows I have no income so maybe playing that against me as well. He has an arrest record for hitting me and he has a serious addiction to porn.

2007-09-06 13:29:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

He's always "right" in any discussions or arguments. He tends to blame me for things and won't stop going over how I messed up even if it was an accident. He doesn't consider my feelings. I really don't think he realises how he comes across. I haven't blown up at him or anything. I don't know how to get my point across, and, my patience is wearing thin. I love him enough 2 stay, help!

2007-09-06 13:12:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-06 13:05:54 · 8 answers · asked by dan t 1

...Besides after marriage. Why did you change it and how did it go over with friends and family?

2007-09-06 13:01:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Does anyone out there ever feel like they are being left behind when it comes to their mate?

I'm a stay at home mom with 4 kids. I take care of the house, the bills, the yard and the cars. I volunteer at school, carpool and do all the shopping. My husband works full time, and he does work hard. Yet he gets to go the movies during the day, he goes golfing, fancy lunches every day, and travels to the best places on retreats and get to see and do amazing things.

I use to work, so I've seen both sides. But after 8 years of staying home taking care of the kids - I (sometimes) feel like the world is moving on without me. Hell, I didn't even know what YouTube was until about a month ago. I have a cell phone they used in the dinosuar age, while my husband knows about all the latest things, and has the newest and coolest of gadgets.

Ahh, I do love my life but sometimes I feel like I'm being left behind. Does anyone else ever feel the same way?

2007-09-06 12:52:25 · 6 answers · asked by jt 3

he's been one of my closest friends for yrs and before, i wouldn't ever look at him as "hot" - he was someone
i always valued and we talked to each other about everything. he's secretly liked me (had no clue), shy guy,
late bloomer, he can only be open with me - never had a gf or kiss (in his 20's)

Fell for each other hard beg of this year - gave him his first kiss and for a moment we were together - it was amazing.
I NEVER expected to fall for him but it was amazing...we kissed, cuddled, took care of each
other for a "moment" (nothing too much but gave him his first kiss :)...we decided not to rush things
and just to stay friends - we're young and focused on getting school done and there's too much on our plate.

after this happened, he had lost someone close to him and he shut me out. For the next few months we haven't
spoken or seen each other. While this was going on, rumors and assumptions were flying around our friends and
pretty much a bad case of misunderstanding occured between us so by the time we would talk, we insecure and jealous.

I don't know why but i'm so scared of losing him. I'm not the jealous type at all, i'm very easygoing. I've only had one boyfriend
(high school) and even w. him I didn't feel like this. For as long as i've known him he's always had alot of girl friends and that's no
big deal but just scared that one of his friends might look at him differently the way it happened w. me. I never expected to
see him like that b/c we're friends but i fell for him. He's such an amazing person, has strengths and flaws but he's a catch...
i'm just scared there's gonna be someone better than me he'd go to...why am i like this?

2007-09-06 12:37:56 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm only asking because I know way to many people who are and it just amazes me. And most openly admit it, but they still stay.

2007-09-06 12:37:54 · 4 answers · asked by Shel 6

2007-09-06 12:37:02 · 6 answers · asked by popbottlerock101 2

I was told that being obsessive with your lover always ends in abuse. Is this true?

2007-09-06 12:33:48 · 7 answers · asked by little b 2

Ok, so I have spent a month thinking about what I want to take in college and I have come up with biotechnology. I have searched dozens of colleges and programs that interested me and I know this is the one I want to take. It's in Seneca College in Toronto and it's only 2.5 hours away from where my family live. I have the option of going this January but they are holding me back. They say I'm not mature enough because I don't talk alot to people even though I'm working on that and have shown major improvement. My Uncle and some friends think I'm mature enough to go to college. I've tried talking to them but it's always, "No, that's the end of discussion. No more talking about it". I know this may seem like whining to get what I want but I really have thought this through for a great lenghth of time. They even held me back from getting my driver's license. I was 16, I failed the driving test my parents wouldn't let me take it again for five months. I also have my own money for college.

2007-09-06 12:19:52 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

About two months ago I discovered that my husband was a little too close to a woman he works with. They email, text and talk on the phone constantly. He tries to hide all of it from me. If I ask to use his cell he first deletes things from it. I discovered the content of some of there conversations, and they were sexual in nature. When I confronted him about it, he said it was flirting that got out of hand. Call me stupid but I decided to believe him and asked him to stop. He promised that he did, but yesterday I came across more. This time they were much worse. It was basically her professing her love for him and him apologizing for hurting her. What am I suppose to do? He still claims that nothing happened. He says he thought about it, but didn't do it. I am so hurt I am not sure how to get over this, or if I should even try.

2007-09-06 12:09:41 · 45 answers · asked by Mary W 1

Or do we need to file for divorce in the county and state we were married in.

2007-09-06 12:08:47 · 6 answers · asked by Marie B 1

ok this is a ongoing dilemma and you've all helped alot, last week my ex came over and in short told me how she is so happy in her new marriage of 5 weeks,but, her sex life sucks,then today she comes again uninvited and during our talk she was looking at me and i was dressed in a coffee stained shirt,dirty pants etc., i said yes i know im a mess and she said im looking at you not your clothes!.and why do you think this is so easy for me,this breakup....which is 4 years old!, ok i know she is still into me but i don't want that......i have a fiance..........how do i tell her no more..........nicely and what is her motive?

2007-09-06 11:16:35 · 27 answers · asked by pheggie101 1

2007-09-06 10:26:10 · 24 answers · asked by baahfordjour@verizon.net 1

2007-09-06 10:16:00 · 9 answers · asked by K 1

Your honor, this is not who I said better or worse to! This is clearly a breech of contract!

2007-09-06 09:59:54 · 17 answers · asked by a2z_alterego 4

what should i do? he thinks i don't get anything done around the house. he pays for all the bills out of his trust money. he has no job i have no job. he makes enough to where i can stay home with our son. i try getting things done but i get side tracked. i don't want a divorce. this man is my soul mate. but he also drinks beer. so what should i do? i love him with all my heart and could never imagine spending the rest of my life with someone else. he does love me i know that and he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. it's just he gets upset if he thinks i have done something wrong. please let me know what you all think. thanks

2007-09-06 09:59:54 · 12 answers · asked by queenhughes 2

its our 2nd wedding anniversary on monday and i have no idea what to buy him as a pressie, we've been having a bit of a rough time lately so i really want it too be something special, we're already going out for dinner but i want him too know how much I love him still (we've actually been together nine yrs)
Thanks in advance xx

2007-09-06 09:59:22 · 12 answers · asked by kooki 2

I have been with my bf for 9mths now and since the begining of our relationship he has always been complaining about the lack of money he has to offer his self , me and his son. When I try to give him advice such as budget your money , quit bad habits, get a second job. He always ends up making these excuses and feels sorry for himself. I am so fustrated with him i don't know what else to do! We live together and it seems like I bring home more of the income then he does and i pay majority of the bills. Though he makes more than me. Whenever I do have extra money , he always knows how to make me feel guilty to buy him things. He hasn't bought me anything and I never have asked him either. 'Cause I am independent and don't need him to take care of me. But, how do i get him to meet me half way and how much longer should i stick around to see if he will help me out or is it just hopeless? I need an honest and to the point opinion. PLEASE HELP!!!

2007-09-06 09:53:26 · 22 answers · asked by tiffany d 1

We are 12 years together, 8 married, 2 kids below 6 years old. A year ago I found out that he is having an affair. I got crazy. I found out that he is cheating on me ALL these years (2-3 affairs) and many girlfriends around. I did the same thing for revenge but he only is suspicious about it. After 6 months in the same house as strangers we tried to get closer again. Now almost 6 months together again as a couple I found out that he continues to have the same affair. He doesn't want a divorce, he promises he will stop but I dont believe him. Should I stay or go? Do we have hopes?

2007-09-06 09:51:43 · 63 answers · asked by Etta 1

Anytime I hear of domestic violent it is usually a man against a women. All we ever hear is that he hit, shot, or beat her. We never ask the question what triggered this behaver. Someone said what different does it made, A man should never hit a woman. Have we considered that verbal abuse can and does causes different people to just lose it. Why isn't the verbal abuser ever told to just walk away? What makes them think there is no consequences for their action?

If we zero in on verbal abuse, it might be possible to stop the violent. What say you.

2007-09-06 09:44:18 · 10 answers · asked by I Wanna Know 3

to please you sexually

2007-09-06 09:44:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

OK, I'm married, and things aren't all rosy. I don't look 4 people online! Anyway, this 1 dude and I got along really well. OK, now he has a crush on me. Now what?? He knows I'm married!
Well, my friend is livid! He won't even tt me anymore! He tells me to stay away...but this guy and I cleared the air, no pressure, just friends. I'm working out my marriage.
What should I do?

2007-09-06 09:42:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you think a relationship between a woman who is more highly educated than her partner will work in the long run? It's not that her partner is unintelligent but it's a different kind of intelligence.

2007-09-06 09:39:52 · 27 answers · asked by Brain Tickler 3

Married over 20 years. All of a sudden my wife says she enrolled in dance lessons. We never go out dancing. She is doing this on her own. Never asked me. What am I to make of this?

2007-09-06 09:37:34 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

if ur 18 year old daughter-who isn't living at home, told u that she was never going to be nice or speak to ur new wife and her child.... what would u do?

2007-09-06 09:37:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-06 09:35:27 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I finally got the courage to walk out a month ago from my husband, who was verbally and physically abusive. I think I feel like this because the abuse didn't happen all the time, but when he would get mad.

I just didn't want to be in that type of relationship at all at any level, and it took me 3 years to even see that. But now I miss him. Terribly! I'm not about to go back to him, but I feel really sad about the whole situation. I still love him, but love is not enough sometimes.

He's since moved out, and I'm moving out of our place into my families until I save money to move into my own place.

Why do I feel like this? Please tell me this will pass and I'll be a better person for staying away!

In the mean time he keeps calling me acting like nothing is wrong and talking as if it's a phase and we'll be back together some day. How do I just come out with it and tell him that this is probably permanent even though he's in anger management/abusive classes and counseling?

2007-09-06 09:34:49 · 17 answers · asked by Jazy 2

I have a guy who wants me to be down right freaky. What all can you do in a car? Is it talking dirty? What would a guy want a girl to do to him that would blow his mind? I know a few things just need some help on what more to do. He says he is a freak and i want to see what a freak he is.

2007-09-06 09:25:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous