He's always "right" in any discussions or arguments. He tends to blame me for things and won't stop going over how I messed up even if it was an accident. He doesn't consider my feelings. I really don't think he realises how he comes across. I haven't blown up at him or anything. I don't know how to get my point across, and, my patience is wearing thin. I love him enough 2 stay, help!
2007-09-06 13:12:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Before your marriage completely falls apart to the point of no return, you really should seek good counseling. There is a reason your husband is the way he is. More than likely some sort of unresolved issue from childhood that has left him damaged, but not irreparable.
Good counseling will open his eyes up to why he reacts the way he does, and if he loves you he will want you BOTH to be happy.
If he refuses to go, then YOU go. Many marriages that have been on the rocks have been salvaged from just one spouse seeking out counseling. Good luck to you.
2007-09-06 13:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by the art babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This type of impasse almost always requires an outside objective source....counselors. If you have tried to talk with him and have had no success, then also try some of Dr. Laura Schlesinger's books like The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands and The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage.
2007-09-06 20:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, but he is not going to change. You can't teach an old dog new tricks. Through your description of him, he is a selfish, arrogant, self centered, abusive, unloving sorry excuse for a husband. You are going to have to move on and find somebody that will appreciate you, love you and pamper you the way you deserve it. I really hate to brake it to you like that, but the last thing you need is a lie.
2007-09-06 20:47:44 · answer #3 · answered by Ricardo R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tape record him and let him listen to himself. Or when he is in this mood walk out the door so you don't have to hear it. Tell him before hand when he asks like this you will be walking outside until he can ask like an adult. Don't take it. You have to request respect, if not you won't get it.
2007-09-06 21:32:00 · answer #4 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's called transference, he's really yelling at himself, he needs therapy and or medication. I'm assuming trying to get him to agree to therapy is out of the question, all you can do is confront him about his behavior. Tell him it's unacceptable and that if it continues you'll leave. Why punish yourself with this guy, he obviously needs help, help you cannot give him.
2007-09-06 20:23:27 · answer #5 · answered by IRONFIST-X2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU CAN'T CHANGE ANYONE BUT YOU!
That said, Counseling---it is helpful to learn coping skills.
Your husband has a rough road ahead, no one can be right all the time....come on!
2007-09-06 20:30:32 · answer #6 · answered by cadet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband used to say, "it's not that I want to prove you wrong, I just want to prove that I'm right." I think it's just a guy thing. Read that book by Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages. it really helped us out!
2007-09-06 20:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by violet_selky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to counseling and try to resolve the issues. Good luck!
2007-09-06 20:17:28 · answer #8 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dddddder even if you are alone for awhile....and make a clean start for YOU...often we tend to love others more much more than we love ourselves ...we lost the love we have for our own mental stability and settle for making others happy while we feel like crap ..........but we stay.....
2007-09-06 20:30:16 · answer #9 · answered by Jacqueline F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage counseling is all I can think of.
2007-09-06 20:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by Random 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋