ok this is a ongoing dilemma and you've all helped alot, last week my ex came over and in short told me how she is so happy in her new marriage of 5 weeks,but, her sex life sucks,then today she comes again uninvited and during our talk she was looking at me and i was dressed in a coffee stained shirt,dirty pants etc., i said yes i know im a mess and she said im looking at you not your clothes!.and why do you think this is so easy for me,this breakup....which is 4 years old!, ok i know she is still into me but i don't want that......i have a fiance..........how do i tell her no more..........nicely and what is her motive?
2007-09-06 11:16:35 · 27 answers · asked by pheggie101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Quit letting her in the house. You know how to stop it. Do you really want to?
Shes using you and she will ruin your relationship with your fiance. All you have to do is stop talking to her and not let her inside. Simple.
2007-09-06 11:22:58 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some people go throught life never knowing what they truly want and become verry manipulative
as for her marriage and her sex life it takes two to tango shes not doing sumting right or needs to teach her man some new tricks
i think she sees you and how happy you are with your new fiance and is trying to get in the middle of it and ruin it obvisously you two are not meant to be by now and you both have moved on in life there is no need for her to be chasing after you again unless she is looking to hurt you
do you two have children together? if you dont then there is no reason for you and your ex to even see eachother you have both moved on just tell her hey we divorced moved on where obvisouly not meant for eachother and just because she doesnt know what she wants doesnt give her the right to ruin your life it could get ugly but sometimes life has to get ugly
2007-09-06 18:32:38 · answer #2 · answered by Honey Badger Doesnt give a Shat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you can do its either TELL her that you will tell his husband if she doesn't stop this ( if she continues I will suggest to tell him)That you are HAPPY with a new relationship & to remember that she is now your EX & you don't want her in your life anymore as a partener.. To let you live your life & for her to move on too.. If you can change your cell number if she has it & if she goes & look for you at your home don't open the door & try to avoid her as much as you can !!!Just be honest & firm with her .... good luck!!
2007-09-06 18:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking through rose coloured glasses and remind yourself everytime you see her just WHY you are now her EX?
Oh don't open the door is also a good why not to have her come into your house.
Just curious if your fiance knows about your ex's visits? I know i wouldn't be happy about them
There is no nice way to tell her, just say it........... through the closed door!
2007-09-06 18:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason she is an ex, right, and how she is acting right now proves that very thing...she acts inappropriately and apparently has difficulty being happy with her situation, so she seeks it elsewhere. Don't be that elsewhere, just tell her firmly that you have no intention of being anything other than her friend and to quit flirting.
2007-09-06 18:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You just tell her that she needs to stay way. There is no reason for her to be coming over to your house and talking to you about her marriage. Who cares what her motive is? She is your ex and you are engaged...Do you want to lose your fiance?
2007-09-06 18:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her motive is to get in your dirty pants . Now tell her not to show up on your door step again or you will get an order to keep her away .
2007-09-06 18:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by knightrunner13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're lucky she's out of your life. She's in a new marriage and acts like this. You had good reason to distrust her. Be glad you got a divorce. She is nothing but trouble!
Don't let her screw up your new release on life. You have a second chance to make good.
2007-09-06 18:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by Darren 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
for all i know she's trying to mess up things
say no in a simpler way like NO
u dont have to be much nicer than that to the woman who left u, got married and is meeting u even though she knows u have a fiance
2007-09-06 18:22:56 · answer #9 · answered by gem 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she should get an annulment, and then leave the state. It's impossible to be happy in her situation. Also tell her, that you have a fiance, and want to be loyal to her (the fiance).
2007-09-06 18:32:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋