OK, I'm married, and things aren't all rosy. I don't look 4 people online! Anyway, this 1 dude and I got along really well. OK, now he has a crush on me. Now what?? He knows I'm married!
Well, my friend is livid! He won't even tt me anymore! He tells me to stay away...but this guy and I cleared the air, no pressure, just friends. I'm working out my marriage.
What should I do?
2007-09-06 09:42:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This guy you've been talking to might have agreed to just friends but in reality he's biding his time. As thing get worse in your marriage he'll be there. Whether he knows it or not, he is setting the situation up to benefit himself. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for having friends even if they are of the opposite sex. I believe by your brief description that he isn't looking for just friendship though.
As for your livid friend, I guess he wasn't much of a friend after all. Honestly that struck me as jealousy. Almost like he was waiting in the wings waiting for you to become available. Like he's upset that you may have found something somewhere else and he doesn't even get a shot.
What do you do? Ignore the livid friend and avoid the new guy. Work on your marriage. If it doesn't work so be it. At least it died on it's own without a 3rd party being involved.
Well, that's my .02.
2007-09-06 09:57:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough spot.
If the guy has a crush, all the 'air clearing' int he world won't make the crush go away, as long as he is there, he will be waiting.
If you really want to make the marriage happen, ditch the crush, and focus on the husband.
Your friend has a valid concern, and it looks as though the two of you have a pretty strong friendship. However, some things are strains that even a good friendship won't withstand.
2007-09-06 16:52:29 · answer #2 · answered by Michael H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want your marriage to work you need to end that relationship with that person, even if it's just friends. You will never be happy in your marriage if you continue with it because you will always be comparing your husband with your friend. Your friend will never compare with your husband because you don't share with him what you share with your husband. There is no commitment. You don't have to see your friend everyday and he does not have to put up with you everyday like your husband does. You really want your marriage to work? Loose the friend.
2007-09-06 17:13:27 · answer #3 · answered by why ask 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about this guy that you may not known better than your hubby...I you DO love your hubby & want things to work out then go ahead & work out on things .. I don't know if you have kids or not but have a fun relationship go out , spend time together as couple & move on for a better marriage !! !Good luck
2007-09-06 16:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you want to be married then work on your marriage.if not tell your husband that you want a divorce and talk to the other guy.but you have to male a chose and do one or the other.
2007-09-06 16:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by barrett_s22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep working on your marriage and leave the guy alone! Don't be a skank!
2007-09-06 16:49:59 · answer #6 · answered by Meichelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don;t work out your marriage problems by chatting with other guys.
2007-09-06 16:51:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you don't want to be married then don't be ..its real easy ONCE you make that decision. Now you r free to be who you want to be and where you want to be with whom you want to be with ..... Go get him girl!!! ...
2007-09-06 17:01:51 · answer #8 · answered by lilly l 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking anything? Stop talking to people on line if it's creating bigger problems.
2007-09-06 16:51:32 · answer #9 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋