2007-09-06 10:16:00 · 9 answers · asked by K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its time for a divorce when you ask questions like this one.
Dont waste hundreds on counseling, use the money for a lawyer
2007-09-06 14:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by Digital One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I don't think there is ever a time to divorce. But it happens.
What ever happened to the good ol' days when divorce was very rare. But now it seems everyone has an X somewhere or have been married several times.
My advice to you is hang in there. Fight for your marriage. Try your best and if there must be a divorce let the other person be the one who starts it.
Rhonda
2007-09-06 12:27:51 · answer #2 · answered by Rhonda T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question hurts me. I just went through the same thing with my husband. My advice, for what it's worth, is to not make the decision in anger. And don't let anyone else make it for you. If you know in your heart the problems you're having cannot be resolved - there's no respect, faithfulness, honesty, etc..., then maybe it's time to leave. But only you know that. And you do - just listen closely to yourself. If you believe there is hope, then there is. Trying - whether it works or not, is not a bad thing. Leaving, if you know it's the right thing for yourself or for your kids (if you have any), is not a bad thing either. Making the right decision takes courage - staying means you make yourself vulnerable to more pain. Leaving means you may feel lonliness, struggle financially, etc... I was always the person who said I'd never stay with a cheater. I don't know if my husband cheated, but something he did gave me doubts. He admits what he did was wrong & says he didn't cheat. Staying means I have to trust him again - somehow. I chose to try and do just that. And make no mistake - it's been hard. We fight, we cry, we hurt. But we're also finding our way back to each other and in those rare moments, we're closer than we ever were before and it's worth it. I didn't stay for my daughter, but I'm glad I made the choice I did. I don't know if it will work for us, but I know she's worth trying for. And so is my husband. I fell in love with him. One mistake doesn't take that away. It damaged our relationship & caused serious trust issues. Hopefully, we work through those. Nobody except you can tell you what's right for you. I'm sorry you have to go through this - it hurts & it plays havoc with your emotions. Be strong & don't lose sight of the fact that you deserve love, respect, and committment from a spouse. I wish you the best.
2007-09-06 10:43:01 · answer #3 · answered by Grá 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say when it is NO respect ,No trust & No love then it is time to move on.. When you figth alot due to any little problems & an afair then there is no respect & no way you can have a talk as adults.. WHen there is no fun in the relationship or one of the parts wants to do everything like single persons then it is time to move on...Also if ther is abuse of any kind then it is a reason to divorce ...BUT if there is love but maybe due to stress or any other little problems then you can work things out.,.If you want things to work then there should be good communication ,respect & solution to the problems & happy endings after a little figth then figth for a good marriage ..
2007-09-06 10:27:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Therapists have said this "in love" feeling only lasts about two years. It's up to the couple to keep loving each other and showing them. It's something you work at.
However, when each of you cannot and will not work on the things your partner requested of you, then it's time to get out. If they do agree to work on it but you still aren't happy, maybe that's example of when it's time to get out.
2007-09-06 10:36:53 · answer #5 · answered by sienna76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on circumstances....I would not choose fighting at all, in any circumstance, but perhaps a mediator could help you decide where you're headed.
In my case, I KNEW when it was over and that there was no going back.....even the counselor agreed.
2007-09-06 10:25:15 · answer #6 · answered by that judi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have tried all other options and everything has failed, then it's time for divorce!
2007-09-06 10:34:48 · answer #7 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would try marraige counciling before i chose to divorce
2007-09-06 10:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
K, It is actually simple ! When you are no longer "in love" !
2007-09-06 10:29:34 · answer #9 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋