I'm only asking because I know way to many people who are and it just amazes me. And most openly admit it, but they still stay.
2007-09-06 12:37:54 · 4 answers · asked by Shel 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am in a marriage that isnt healthy for me, but yet i dont have the strength? nerves? courage? to leave. whenever i was unhappy it was usually the end for me and i walked out (been married twice, now on my third). i am hoping to find a way out of this, because i need to be happy again and my husband knows this.
2007-09-06 12:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by not this way 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yes i'm in a marriage that i prefer to out of but i have the responsibility of 8 horses.
we both work, we have very very nice things, we both live quite separate lives at home.
we eat separately, watch 2 different tv's. He doesn't have any desire to talk about what happened during his day, or general news items. We sleep in different rooms (that was his choice, couldn't wait actually) He doesn't like people visiting and we rarely go out except for family things. It's not secret amongst immediate family of the way we live.
It's not right, i hate it, and the relationship (what's left of it) continues to dwindle. We do very little together.
He thinks i'm stupid (oh i am a business professional) and i have no respect for him.. He chipped away at my heart over the years (11+) and now it's well and truly broken.
Why do i stay? well i did leave once but only returned to my horses and couldn't see why i had to be the one to live in a house that was not as nice as the one i was helping to pay a mortgage on.
I stay because its convenient for me for my horses and my style of living. It also ensures that i don't get entangled into any other relationship that i don't want or need. Jeez this one didn't work be buggered if i'm going to allow myself to get into another one.
No kids involved just the animals. and i won't sell them so i stay.
2007-09-06 20:09:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY spouse did this to me and my kids years ago. It hurt so much, after twelve years I thought she loved me. She asked to come back, the kids didn't know: that was thirty five years ago, one daughter she thought might have been his but, she's not.
She did it again, three more times. We're getting to old to separate, the kids don't know anything about mom and, I'll take it to my grave, three of the men are dead, one the town drunk, kicked out by his wife.
She knows were just waiting and I may leave at anytime but, biding time, If I found the right one, it's getting toward sundown and night is settling, time to let it go, forever.
2007-09-06 19:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"All marriages have their ups & downs."
2007-09-06 20:47:02 · answer #4 · answered by Digital One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋