Do you think a relationship between a woman who is more highly educated than her partner will work in the long run? It's not that her partner is unintelligent but it's a different kind of intelligence.
2007-09-06 09:39:52 · 27 answers · asked by Brain Tickler 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is a little naive of those who thinks love conquers all and education is never a factor. Ideally it shouldn't be. But it is. Some answerers have hit the nail on the head, it is complicated by the other person's insecurities and whether they have a chip on their shoulder. They can feel incredibly uncomfortable with those around him who have had further education, as Katie R suggests.
Tom S. I am going through that right now.
Miss J. you're also right about different ambitions.
I never indicated that I believe myself to be smarter than someone who has not had the same level of education. Nor have I confused "intelligence" with "education."
2007-09-07 20:05:35 · update #1
To me it depend on those two people. But to be honest, it is difficult. Take it from someone who is in that situation. I am in the university right now, and my husband didn't finish high school. I don't care about that, but he does. A lot of times, he has try to get me to quit school, because he is very insecure, and he thinks that sooner or later i will find someone more educated and dump him. That's not true!!! But try to make him understand. On the other hand if your partner is secure on himself, then you shouldn't have a problem.
2007-09-06 09:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think levels of education are a good barometer of compatibility, as there are many people who I would consider a lot more intelligent by life lessons than by higher education. I think that is in how you use your education or intelligence that has a bigger impact, but what I do see a problem with is different levels of ambition. Sometimes this may correspond with levels of education, sometimes not.
2007-09-06 09:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There isn't a simple yes or no answer. It really depends upon the people involved, their friends and their life styles. I think men especially have a problem with a woman being more educated than they are (especially if the woman makes more money that he does).
I think it also matters if she has many friends with a better education who might look down on him for not or he might feel out of place during discussions etc.
If he is a secure man and very comfortable with himself and has good self esteem, you should be okay.
2007-09-06 09:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is someone is always going to "smarter" than the other in something. If you both had the exact same educational level and knew the exact same things, wouldn't that be boring? You never know what you will learn, in fact you might last longer than most because you have more to learn from eachother.
2007-09-06 09:51:02 · answer #4 · answered by anne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to confuse "intelligence" with "education"...Some of the most intelligent people in the world never finished college - like Bill Gates.
In answer to your question, yes it is possible for 2 people of different educational levels to have a very dynamic and positive relationship...As always, it takes acceptance and effort.
Good luck
2007-09-06 09:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by thud.fan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the incredibly some others referred to, the Pharisees felt that education could have lots to do with faith, however the 1st century Christians have been unlettered and person-friendly. yet, as a manner to fulfill your interest: i'm 17 years old. I graduated intense college final year. i'm now in a profession direction, till I be certain what i decide for to be. i'm a Jehovah's Witness. yet, i will assist you to be attentive to, i be attentive to education has no longer something to do with non secular ideals. i be attentive to different JWs who did no longer end intense college (some even center college); i be attentive to others who've long previous to regulation college or med college. some have long previous to commerce college. some have long previous to 2 years of faculty. Others have accomplished 4+ years. It purely relies upon on the guy. there is not any specific answer for us--it purely relies upon on the guy.
2016-10-10 02:07:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the love and respect you have for yourself and your other half. If it is bothering you now,take a step back and try to figure out what makes you love him so much? Will this bother you later on in life?Do you want to achieve a level in society that will make him feel out of place?Or for that matter you? How much do you love him?Remember that when you get married, you are working together as a team! Working together, no matter how much money either of you make. It is a marriage for better or worse.Married 26 yrs....Good luck.
2007-09-06 12:20:23 · answer #7 · answered by *ELiZaH* 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, being more educated does not mean they are smarter. I know people with advanced degrees who cannot perform simple tasks around the house, such as fixing a washing machine or repairing plumbing problems. I know people with advanced degrees who do not even know what is happening in the world around them. Be careful not to judge the non-advanced degreed person. They may be smarter than you....
2007-09-06 09:49:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it can. I know lots of couples that are still together where one has a college degree and the other doesn't. It's not the education level that makes or break a relationship.
2007-09-06 09:46:10 · answer #9 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a Master's while my wife still had only a high school diploma. I have always respected her intelligence and perceptiveness. Things have changed -- she now has a BS in Nursing and is preparing to take the GRE to go get a Master's, but the disparity never hurt anything. We are happily married after 21 years of marriage.
2007-09-06 09:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋