what should i do? he thinks i don't get anything done around the house. he pays for all the bills out of his trust money. he has no job i have no job. he makes enough to where i can stay home with our son. i try getting things done but i get side tracked. i don't want a divorce. this man is my soul mate. but he also drinks beer. so what should i do? i love him with all my heart and could never imagine spending the rest of my life with someone else. he does love me i know that and he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. it's just he gets upset if he thinks i have done something wrong. please let me know what you all think. thanks
2007-09-06 09:59:54 · 12 answers · asked by queenhughes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your husband is truly considering a divorce because he doesn't like your housekeeping skills, he's looking for an excuse. If he loves you as much as you claim, why would he consider divorce for such a trivial matter? Get to the bottom of it. It sounds like he has more issues than you're aware of.
2007-09-06 10:05:08 · answer #1 · answered by Folie a deux 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First both of you needs to get a job as being home 24 7 together in each others face with no money has all the ingredients for divorce, so first go out and find work ,at least it will give some breathing room and help the pocket book abit, then you can take the next step, you will see if things improve and if not maybe a divorce is a good step.
2007-09-06 10:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there is more to the story than you but since you mentioned he wants a divorce because of chores. On the other hand since you are babysitting your son and your home all the time...I'm sure it won't hurt you too do some chores here and there. Then again he has no job so he can help you out as well! This marriage can be saved if you both communicate to each other and seek help.
2007-09-06 10:29:56 · answer #3 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
intercourse is in lots of circumstances a weathervane in a marriage- if there is not any scientific clarification for his non-existent force, then there's a concern. you may desire to communicate with him, to have a extreme, grownup communication that doesn't force him right into a rage... that's basically not undemanding to do. ultimately, communicate approximately your self, your perspectives. Use language like "i think" and "i ask your self," that are actually not extremely so aggressive as different techniques. don't be accusatory. the single element i don't see on your question is concern for him. there is not any point out of you being apprehensive or worried for something yet your very own delight... Marriage is meant to be a set attempt, and your question does not mirror that... basically a concept. So, could desire to the concern be actual, psychological, or different? Is the concern a symptom of your marriage dynamic, his happiness, or some thing which you the two contributed to? could desire to he be sick or depressed? anyhow, I comprehend that your question is constrained in scope. you may desire to mirror on the final thank you again to a determination this. do you decide on greater intercourse and intimacy, or do you decide on divorce? What you come back to a determination will confirm which you will paintings in the direction of.
2016-10-18 04:00:34 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I can make out of what you are saying I would suggest you both need an outlet, an interest separate from each other.
It sounds like you are both in a rut and getting possibly bored of each other?
I hope I am wrong but try and see if there is something you can do as a n outlet if not separete together not just drinking
Good Luck
2007-09-06 10:06:04 · answer #5 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust money? Seems like you have a free ride, and he's sick of it. If you don't have a job, how do you get side tracked? I realize you have a son, but you CAN clean the house and take care of your son at the same time. You're just being lazy.
2007-09-06 10:06:38 · answer #6 · answered by ron-D 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have a job outside of the home, and you have one child; I'm not sure why you don't have a clean house. If it is his wish to have a clean home, just make it a priority. Set goals for yourself, and try to reach them every day. Make a plan, and try to stick to it. "Tomorrow I will make my family a beautiful breakfast, and clean the kitchen from top to bottom afterwards." Start with something simple, and add to your list each day. If you don't reach your goal for the day, finish it the next day. It just sounds like you need a little motivation.
2007-09-06 10:26:13 · answer #7 · answered by Maggie Mae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He loves you, he wants to spend the rest of his life with you...but he's thinking about divorce?
Is there something here I'm not getting or I'm stoned or somthing, but doesn't that sound a little contradictory?
2007-09-06 10:11:04 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to start showin him that you care and you need to find yourself a job if you want this marriage to work....drinkin beer isn't a problem and i think you should start taking care of your family and you home.....if you think he loves you then why would he divorce you...it makes no sense....have you really done somethin wrong?....if you haven't then you need to prove it to your hubby
2007-09-06 10:06:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your only and last hope is counseling. see if he will do it with you. if not... well he can file for divorce.. it doesn't take 2.
2007-09-06 10:04:44 · answer #10 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋