Your honor, this is not who I said better or worse to! This is clearly a breech of contract!
2007-09-06 09:59:54 · 17 answers · asked by a2z_alterego 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, you're right, if only I didn't have that big church wedding! Otherwise, yes I guess it's just a contract.
2007-09-06 14:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you meet someone for the first time, and end up marrying them....as time goes on, you grow, you change, your needs change. You're suppose to grow "with" your spouse, not without them. Communicating is the key to growing together. Things don't stay the same as time goes on. Time changes, we get older, some get wiser, some not...If you're growing apart from each other as time goes on, that means somewhere down that road, something changed. Sometimes we forget how important it is to communicate to one another about how we feel, about what our needs are and respecting those needs and trying our best to meet them for the sake of love.
So this isn't a breech of contract...It's not a contract. Your spouse isn't something you 'own'. For better or worse includes these times when we change, and our spouses change, and the challenges we encounter along the way. What makes a marriage work is how you deal with it. It's not easy. It is a challenge. That's why it's important for you to make sure when you take your vowes, you do so whole heartedly. Just because someone changes, and you feel left behind because of those changes, doesn't mean a divorce is the answer. Ask yourself if you love this person. Ask yourself if you're IN love with this person. Loving someone is caring about their welfare as well as yours, but being in love with someone means that you'll go to the end of the world for them, and their welfare comes first before yours.
I hope this helps. I'm sorry you're feeling the way you are. I know it's tough. I've been down that road before. If your spouse is saying that she wants a divorce because she's a different person now, then her heart wasn't in the marriage in the first place and she wasn't 'in' love with you. She may have loved you, but most likely she was infactuated with the word, instead of actually feeling it. My ex was like that. He changed the night we got married. When I asked him to dance with me on our wedding night, he told me 'no'. Then I saw him dancing with his sister an hour later. Talk about a slap in the face. Well from the info you gave in your question, I say, "shame on your spouse".
I hope the best for you. I hope things work out no matter what direction you have to take this. :-)
2007-09-06 17:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by lady_bella 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Our mates are like the weather, one day you wonder where have they been all your life then the next its like what in the world have i done? But, remember that is part of the process of learning each other , I'm not sure how long have you been in the marriage its much work involed. Look for a seasoned couple of age and you will find that it has been years of work to get to where they are now can't imagine living without the other. Be Bless and Pray of this concern.
2007-09-06 17:22:36 · answer #3 · answered by ylife 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Exactly, you file for divorce 'cause is not the person you married. You don't want to live with a perfect stranger. Do you? LOL
2007-09-06 17:05:12 · answer #4 · answered by NA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a sound argument but everyone changes. Some for the better, some for the worse.
2007-09-06 17:02:55 · answer #5 · answered by Folie a deux 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because the government wants their piece. As long as he/she is cloaked in the same skin as the person you married, you have to pay them to get rid of the impostor.
2007-09-06 17:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Cause you have to prove it. Hypothetically speaking you may be right, but unless they have changed their DNA they are still the person you signed up for.
2007-09-06 17:20:14 · answer #7 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because if you didn't file for divorce, you will still be married to them!
2007-09-06 17:27:25 · answer #8 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are the same person, but personality characteristics may have changed. They don't morph into someone else sugar...lol!
2007-09-06 17:04:18 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bear, Unfortunetly they just go by the names signed on the papers ! I too was in your shoes.
2007-09-06 17:06:31 · answer #10 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋