Marriage & Divorce - 6 September 2007

He is an alcoholic and is verbally abusive to all of us. He comes home from work, changes and goes outside to get drunk. If he comes in before the kids go to bed, he's yelling at one or all of us. He keeps a very good steady job and I'm able to stay home with my kids, but I don't know if that is the best thing or should I leave and stop walking on egg shells? He used to be very good with the kids, but now it seems he doesn't want to be around any of us. What to do?

2007-09-06 16:44:05 · 70 answers · asked by kidzrme 1

I am a 19 year old college freshman and my girlfriend is a high school senior. We have been dating for a year know and I really see myself ending up being married to her.

The only problem that I see is getting married while we are still in college. What are some of your opinions about married couples who are both in college?

2007-09-06 16:35:52 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

We lived in Ohio and were married for 11 years. Am I entiteled to any part of his pension? There was nothing in the divorce papers to specify whether or not I would get part of his pension. I did remarry one more time for 3 years but had no children with the second husband.

2007-09-06 16:33:23 · 23 answers · asked by driftydaisy 1

we have a 6 month old together and i have FULL custody. I have put down rules about where she can go and who she can be around, he constantly agrees but then i catch him with that wrong person or in the wrong place. what can i do about this. he is a compulsive liar!

2007-09-06 16:26:10 · 34 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4

A wise old lady told me this and she said it applies for women more than guys...

she said nowadays women will want to be with the guy "they love" but she said the man that loves YOU, is the perfect one for you because he will never take you for granted, he adores you, does everything, etc...you don't have to do a thing...and if you don't have feelings for him at first, you will eventually fall in love with him

w. women who pick the "man they love", she said it usually ends up no working because that hook the guy never had was gone...there was never that attention he gave to you in the first place and once he's gone, he's gone

TRUE OR FALSE - good old fashioned advice?

2007-09-06 16:25:45 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm a married stay at home mom of a 1yr old. Since the baby, I've stayed home. I've been asked to come back to work on a part time basis, I always said I'd go back in a "heartbeat" if I could do it part time. And so my delimia is, will this greatly affect our child if Mommy's gone maybe 3 nights a week? Short 4hr shifts. Im a nurse and the hubby's an engineer during the day and a firefighter/paramedic at night. He makes more to pull a straight 12hr shift at the station, but I bounce back and forth as to what's best for us.... I'm definately praying about it, but would like some advice too. THANKS!!!

2007-09-06 16:24:26 · 9 answers · asked by marcie1997 3

Since a while, it seems like my husband wants to spend a lot of time with his friends. I am not sure if he was just like that since he was too busy the first 3 years of marriage. Now the forth year of marriage and he wants to be with other guys friends. He goes 2-3 days a week. If he can't go, he makes it seem like its because of me he doesn't go. I stay at home and take care of our 2 year old. He has nothing to worry about at home. last two month, he had to leave away from home due to his job change. We had some financial crisis, so, this month I am working. For work, I have to go to my mom's house. But it doesn't matter to him how long I am gone. 2-3 weeks and that's fine, although I need to be there no more then 1 week and we have already stayed away from each other for 2months in last 3 months!! Is there a logical explanation for this? or am I being too emotional about him? When I talk to him regarding this, he says 'he doesn't care if i go'. I feel worthless no matter what i do.

2007-09-06 15:59:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am tall but a little overweight i want to do a streptease for my husband but i am afraid he may not like it so i am asking should i do it or is it only for skinny girls?

2007-09-06 15:59:03 · 29 answers · asked by rebecca h 2

My husband comes home with his pay and he doesn't take any money from it, but whenever he goes and gets his pay he always comes home with stuff that he buys but it's not the money from his pay. I asked him where he gets the money from, his response is...why you ask? did you loose any money or it's my money. I'm always angry because he's not honest with me. I'm curious to find out but he keeps on doinng it but never tells me where he gets the money from. Please help me i need for him to tell me the truth. Can you help me?. What should i do?.

2007-09-06 15:54:03 · 8 answers · asked by MADALENE C 1

I've been told that I need not to lie anymore to improve my life. I must tell my daughter the truth about me and my ex and why he is not home anymore after 1.5 years of lie that her father has been working all these times... How do I tell her and not to harm her too much? Thank you.

2007-09-06 15:53:45 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous

2nd marriage for both, we have have been married almost 13 years. She had sex with a large number of men before we married, I enjoy hearing details when she will give them

2007-09-06 15:38:36 · 13 answers · asked by boxthad 1

My husband and I have been together for almost 7 years. We have a 9 month old son and he has and 11 year old daughter from a previous marriage. From the beginning of our relationship his ex-wife has been really flirty with him. When we are together she always brings up some story about the time the were married. I don't say anything to her because their daughter is around when it happens. My husband never returns her advances and usually ignores her. Recently she has started asking him to get back together and he ingores her. I asked my husband to just tell her that they are never getting back together. He says that he doesn't not want to interact with her when it doesn't pertain to their child. I also asked him to tell her just that. He won't do it because he said it will create conflict in his relationship with is daughter and I totally understand...but I am fed up and it is creating conflict in our relationship. I think I deserve more respect. Am I out of line?

2007-09-06 15:22:34 · 13 answers · asked by Ashley W 5

My parents went through a nasty divorce when i was 5 and i blocked everything out so i really dont remember to much. But growing up i always heard my mom talk about what happend but never ever my dad. The other day i asked my dad what happend and he told me his side of the story. My moms side of the story was that my dad bought another mans wife a car and not her, this other mans wife just happens to be my moms brothers wife. And apparently thats why my mom left my dad. My dad told me that he found my step dads card in her purse and around the time he found that he said my mom used to get all ready to go to work and she would come home and be in a bitchy mood and one day my dad offered to take my mom down and buy her a car and my mom said she didnt want anything from him well he than took that money and just bought his brother in law's wife the car and thats when my mom left him. I didnt tell my mom what my dad said but i wonder if it was my mom all along ?

2007-09-06 15:21:20 · 9 answers · asked by mommyandbaby 4

OK - Am I the bad guy or the fool? - just not sure. About 1x per week my wife will start picking at me - you didn't do this, you are bad at this, you never finished this, you need to do this, why have you not done this, when are you going to get to this. Seriously, there is barley a breath in between the questions sometimes. Mostly she is great! About 3 weeks ago I fixed her computer that was consistently crashing - she had 4 different MY PICTURES folders on 2 drives? I consolidated them - tonight she couldn't find some pictures. "This thing hasn't worked right since you "fixed it . . .it was so organized before you touched it." About 30 min. into the constant barrage (with only a calm please settle down from me) - I shouted - STOP - PLEASE - STOP - I CANNOT TAKE IT ANYMORE - which only fired her up "stop being a baby"- then I screamed "Shut the F-UP" and violently rolled my office chair across the room . Of course, I lose. Now she is in her office "afraid" of me. At a loss..

2007-09-06 15:16:34 · 21 answers · asked by David W 1

2007-09-06 14:54:38 · 19 answers · asked by da govna 2

2007-09-06 14:54:08 · 8 answers · asked by James 4

He said he is leaving me, but he is a preacher. Can I get alimony since he make more then me?

2007-09-06 14:36:51 · 8 answers · asked by lzbthsykes 1

My wife and I were married 3 months ago. We both have myspace, and I just recently found through a roommate of some guy she likes that they were together and they said they were sleeping together. I confronter her about it, pretty upset but not angry ... dissappointed. She admitted to being there, but nothing happened. Then we talked the next day and they layed together. I was still even more dissappointed, even though. she says she is confused and still has feelings, but its due to them never getting to date and she'd get over it. We talked and things seemed to get better, but then I had to go and ask for more info. Then I find out she brought over wedding cake a day or two after our wedding, and they really do believe they slept together and he was bragging about it. I totally want to work it through, but have no one to talk to and dont want her or my family to be upset with her ... but Im feeling like she just got married due to the size of the wedding. Any opinions appreciated.

2007-09-06 14:35:54 · 10 answers · asked by Danny 1

This means he will pay for the dialysis, etc, and I will have to look after her and husband for a month. We have just recently been through very stressful times ourselves, with family and health issues. I can't beleive this, and our financial status is tight as well. It will be me that the day to day cooking and etc duties will fall on. What should I do and say? am I a ***** for not being more caring about his aunt's situation?

2007-09-06 14:32:44 · 5 answers · asked by happybaker 2

I'm an RN and was divorced in 2001 and with 1 child in Michigan. The ordered child support payment to me was $303.00,I have missed some payments on it, because i lost my job,once i got money sent the payment directly to my ex wife and she gave me receipt . And when i moved to Texas and on some personal reason i started missing payment again, so my ex wife moved to texas too and went to the atty. general, and they increased my payment for $1,303 + $300 on back child support which i think is soo stiff, since i remarried on 2005 and my income is just barely sustaning me to survive and pay my bills (and bad credit from the divorce,since my wife decided not to return the van that we were still paying and she had it towed and she had some bills in michigan and still using my name on it)

..I moved to California with my new wife and decided that we may have a better life there because of higher pay, but it didn't work because of cost of living and some bills that keep incuring.

2007-09-06 14:28:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Be mature*
Seduction can be a wonderful thing, when done under the proper circumstances. There's an older man (meaning I'm quite younger... yes, I'm legal) that I've known for a couple months, he's in law enforcement. I met him at a type of luncheon for emergency personnel (I'm an EMT student). At that time, he was separated from his wife, and had been for quite some time. Since then, the divorce has been finalized. Considering that this man has much, much sex appeal, I've noticed it's not unusual for women around him to wink, smile or do little things like touch his arm. However I'm afraid he has no idea I'm interested, and the reason is more than likely because of my age, plus I tend to take my time with these types of things so it's not exactly out in the open.
When I say seduce, I don't technically mean straight to sex, but of course I do mean a sexual relationship... How can I go about doing this? I don't want to mess it up, so I'm just looking for some different perspectives.

2007-09-06 14:19:26 · 14 answers · asked by Unknown 2

I recently got married but have now realised it was the biggest mistake i ever made! I'm stuck, i can't change it, believe me i have tried! He is awful, a selfish arrogant man who becomes worse by the day! He was not like it in the beginning, not at all, perhaps a few things that niggled me but we all have our problems! Things are getting worse, i'm being ground into the dirt on a mental and emotional level and i can't take this! He is living in my home that i worked hard to pay for, and he doesn't care for anything, his excuse is that his name isn't on anything therefore it has nothing to do with him! He doesn't mind using everything though, my car, my motorbike... I loved my life before, but now i can't see a way out! I am starting to hate him and how he treats me, if he has been horrible in any way, it is me that sleeps in the spare room or on the couch, he must always have his comforts! I hate it, i hate him! What do i do? He has no intention on going anywhere!

2007-09-06 14:18:16 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous

across the street and I have caught her more than 3 times just watching my husband with a luring look and it bothered me not because he responded but because we live there with our family and if he wanted to because of her behavior she would carry on an affair with him right in my very close presence I have no respect for her and everytime I see her or she parks her veh in front of my house it annoys me and I tend to be mean to my husband and he says I dont spk to her and want nothing to do with her. How do I handle my anger.

2007-09-06 14:17:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-06 14:15:58 · 6 answers · asked by branlorlamb 1

My husband and I had a huge blowout 3 days ago. Actually he just went off about how sick and tired he is of being here with me and the kids. He said he was leaving but he keeps coming home. We have been talking about seperating lately so I have ever reason to think he is serious. It isn't about the money because we have an empty rental property he can move into and he has plenty of cash in his seperate account. He has apologized but when I asked him why he is still here he says, don't worry he is leaving. My question is whether this behavior seems normal? If he is going, why does he keep coming back looking sad? And is it too soon for me to be shopping around for a divorce attorney?

I never said I wanted him to leave but I am sick and tired of everytime he gets upset he threatens to leave. A person can only take so much. Other than his lack of control over his anger, we have no other issues.

The fight had nothing to do with me (as usual) he was upset about something at work but I am always his whipping post when he is upset.

2007-09-06 14:14:31 · 9 answers · asked by PharmNerd 4

My husband and I are on the vurge of divorce. We've been married for 4 years and have 2 small children. I just can't believe that at 21 I'm going through this. All these emotions are so overwhelming, almost to the point to where I start to feel a little numb. I don't want to be alone. I don't want a custody battle. He just doesn't love me anymore, and honestly I'm not sure I love him anymore either. He says that all I do is yell at him and treat him like a child. And all I can say is then don't act like one. He thinks I'm acting like his mother because I tell him to pick a dirty diaper off the floor that he cahnged! I shouldn't have to ask him to do that, who would just throw a dirty diaper in the middle of the floor? He does the same with his dirty clothes and his dinner plates, just leaves them on the floor, left over food and all. He says all I do is nag him and treat him like a child. Don't get me wrong I am by no means perfect but he only wants me to change. Anyone understand?

2007-09-06 14:08:57 · 15 answers · asked by Violet 5

I am going to ask the age old question.......How do I get my wife of 10 years interested in sex? When its good its good. Sometimes i get so frustrated though. I would like some opinions form married women why this happens and what to do to turn it around.

2007-09-06 14:01:23 · 22 answers · asked by Marshall 1

I was going to send my husband a vase of roses with baby breath hoping he will forgive me. He's mad because I went to dinner with another man when he was out of town but it's been 3 long days since he's come back and he still won't talk to me. It's driving me nuts! I was hoping he would be over it by now. Usually when we have a fight we usually kiss and make up in like a hour. I tried putting lingerie to seduce him but he just looked at me and walked away! I was hoping maybe giving him rosese will help so do they have the same effect on women as they do on men?

2007-09-06 13:56:06 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

Any ideas on what I should do? A little bit about me, I've been married for 4 years, just started college 2 weeks ago, SAHM to 2 wonderful boys one is almost 3 and the other 15 months. Things have slowly gotten worse over the years. He has been very controlling since the beginning, I wish I had seen the signs. On Monday he head butted me right in the nose, "because he was upset", and "having a bad day". I didn't bleed but it hurt really bad, and was a little swollen for the rest of the day. I for some reason can't get over it. I got to thinking if he did it in a bar they would press charges. Ok let me back up. I've been a little quiet lately, so he knew something was wrong. Finally after he found out it wasn't school he said... is it because I head butted you? I said yeah i'm a little upset about it. Well then he mocked me about it. And after I said that about pressing charges about it then he tried to tell me he didn't. This sucks I just wish I knew what to do.

2007-09-06 13:51:38 · 9 answers · asked by justall4ofus 2

My girlfriend suggested a three-way. I said 'yes'. She jumped up and ran out the door. It's been a week now since I've seen her.

2007-09-06 13:49:37 · 9 answers · asked by Sarrafzedehkhoee 7