we have a 6 month old together and i have FULL custody. I have put down rules about where she can go and who she can be around, he constantly agrees but then i catch him with that wrong person or in the wrong place. what can i do about this. he is a compulsive liar!
2007-09-06 16:26:10 · 34 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I say we hang the bastard. Put your foot down and set your rules and if he doesn't abide by them, then refuse to share your daughter with him and the people you don't like.
I hate liars. Time to find yourself a honey to make him jealous, and maybe he will not like that your daughter is around a better man? Good luck woman.
2007-09-06 16:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Your rules sound a little unrealistic. He is your ex right? You are going to have to face the fact that he will eventually have and meet other people even a new lady. His daughter is his world. Does he pay support? If he does then he has rights. As long as he does not put her in any harm or expose her to any danger while he is commuting with her then let it be. You two are not married any more. You both have different worlds now. Your daughter will be exposed to different people, behaviors, ideas, and values. This is tough. Since you have full custody maybe try to get visitations at your home only if you are so worried about the exposure she will receive when she is with him. This is the only other option I can think of.
2007-09-06 16:40:24 · answer #2 · answered by ANJANETTE C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So you're saying that you have an EXhusband that you can not trust and you have FULL custody? I would say stay away! There is no reason why he has to be around. I understand that you have a daughter together, but it seems like he's made his decision here. If he wants to be a liar than he's the one that's going to miss out. I'm sure that you don't want your child to be around that and have it set as an example. Wait til she gets older and let her decide what she wants to do about her father. That's what my mother did and I think that it was the best thing for her to do.
2007-09-06 16:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by Ericka H 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Full custody or not, you cant say where he can and cant go with your daughter UNLESS this is in a judgment stating it. If he has visitations, then he has the right to go where he wants. As far as him being a liar, just ignore the bs....honestly, he wont ever stop, and you are better to just let go of it.
2007-09-06 20:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by You can do it!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, even though you have full custody, you sound over bearing. I don't think you should be able to tell him who he can and cannot have the child around. If he doesn't have a drug problem...you should trust his ability to keep his child (she is his too) safe until you see otherwise. You're trying to control too much as if you still have feelings for him...just my opinion! In this case he lies to keep the peace and leave with his daughter...
2007-09-06 16:32:26 · answer #5 · answered by BossLady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but I disagree with you completely on this one. How would you like him telling where you can go and with who when you're with your baby?
That's just wrong. You assume he's just stupid with his baby and that is a stupid assumption. Unless you get the baby back and a bottle is up it's butt instead of in it's mouth, leave him alone.
I hate the whole, "my child" mentality. It took 2 to make the baby and he actually wants in on his child's life. That's more than I had from my father and more than many fathers put effort into.
Relax a bit and stop putting unnecessary rules on his time with the child you both made together. He might get upset and go for custody. Do you really want THAT nightmare and to put your baby through that?
2007-09-06 16:37:50 · answer #6 · answered by chaoss13 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You were kidding yourself if you thought you could lay the law down to him about where he can take his child and who his child can be around or not be around .
As long as the child is fed , bathed and sleeping the right amount of time and not abused physically you have NO say in what happens when he has the child on visitation unless you can prove him unfit and have the visitations supervised by a court of law agreement.
2007-09-06 17:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being that he is your ex--the wrong person is not really the wrong person and the wrong place is not really the wrong place unless they are putting your child at risk for anything--drugs, alcohol, poison, etc.. Y'all are broken up now so you can't really tell him where to have your child, as long as she is safe. Just be straight with him. He will either see his child at the set times BOTH of you agree on or you will quit trying. If he is not trying then why should you.
2007-09-06 16:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What places are you restricting him from going and what people is he not allowed to take your child around? Sometimes we have to just be more flexible with the opposite parent. It is his child too, of course and he should have the right to take her wherever he pleases within reason. As long as she is not being harmed in any way, shape or form. The best thing to do is make it where he does not have to lie to you about where he is taking her. At least then you will have more knowledge about what is going on.
2007-09-06 16:31:16 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the rules are not met you should be able to talk to the judge and he should set the rules down legally. But if your trying to make it so his girlfreind you dont like isn't around the baby then really thats childish. But if its like a gang he is in or something like that I would talk to your lawyer about it.
2007-09-07 07:12:58 · answer #10 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can stop him seeing the child. Then explain to the child in 10 years how Daddy wasn't around because he wouldn't obey Mommy. He's an EX and doesn't owe you the time of day, whether it be truth or not.
2007-09-06 16:34:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋