A wise old lady told me this and she said it applies for women more than guys...
she said nowadays women will want to be with the guy "they love" but she said the man that loves YOU, is the perfect one for you because he will never take you for granted, he adores you, does everything, etc...you don't have to do a thing...and if you don't have feelings for him at first, you will eventually fall in love with him
w. women who pick the "man they love", she said it usually ends up no working because that hook the guy never had was gone...there was never that attention he gave to you in the first place and once he's gone, he's gone
TRUE OR FALSE - good old fashioned advice?
2007-09-06 16:25:45 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-09-06 16:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by Sarrafzedehkhoee 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion you should only marry for love. Marry the one who loves you and marry the one you love. If you are patient they will be one in the same.
You should never settle for anything less than love. If you do it is my experience that you will never really experience the joys and passion of life. You will eventually want to experience what real love is and in the end you will be the one who isn't happy.
I really think that the reason the United States has such a high divorce rate is because people now days marry because it is a trend, or for money or because they simply want to settle down. People arent' marrying for the right reasons and they aren't willing to work hard to keep the marriage fresh.
Here's another thought: look at it from the guy who loves you but you don't love. Would you want to be in his postition? Would you want someone to marry you because you love them and not because they love you?
Good Luck.
2007-09-06 16:48:32 · answer #2 · answered by CamdenSchacher 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hahaha My mom's advice is make sure the man loves you just a smidge more. Most women will give and give and give to a relationship until they are drained, but if the man loves you just a smidge more then it balances it out so you both are trying the same amount...I think it's great advice and VERY true! So yes I agree with you but you also MUST love the one your with. I'm sure there are a lot of male "best friends" that would love to hear this and a number of women who would rather end up alone then with that best male friend that has always loved them in a romantic way. :)
2007-09-06 16:46:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes,I think I will marry the one that loves me more, its hard to find mutual love, it maybe selfish but would you want to marry someone that doesn't really love you as you love him, you will get hurt more, i rather not feel the pain. These days guys are the ones that are love. Seems like most men are jerks. Is actually hard to find a nice guy. Woman feel more pain because they give too much but they get nothing in return except pain thats why most women divorce from what i have seen..If their was more mutual love, their wouldn't be so much divorces. Its hard to find balance in a relationship either that person likes/love you more or you like/love him more..so if your lucky you might find mutual love,so never let go
2007-09-06 16:55:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say 'follow your heart'
If you don't love someone, but suspect that you may eventually based on his love for you, it may not work out that way and you could end up exploiting a loving soul for no good reason.
On the other hand, if you love someone that expoits you, the pain still hurts.
My best 'good old fashioned advice' is to 'follow your heart' and give it your best shot. You can't control how someone else will feel about you, but you can be the best, most loving you that you can envision.
2007-09-06 16:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time with someone you don't love. Don't waste the love of someone who loves you but you can't love in return. Find the balance between the two. He must love you and you must love him. The odds are already stacked against you, why add a half-committed party to the mix.
2007-09-06 17:07:31 · answer #6 · answered by "wheels" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True only if you love him as much as he loves you. Love is A Two way street That becomes A lovers lane when both body and soul are as one
2007-09-06 19:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ypu have to find love first. The kind that makes you weak in the knees just to see him across a room and the kind that makes you feel that all the crap you went through was to make you appreciate what you have found. True love happens to both people not just one.
2007-09-06 16:35:50 · answer #8 · answered by tami j 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to marry the one you love and who also loves you!
2007-09-06 16:30:25 · answer #9 · answered by Elt 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Marry the one who knows you are the most special person on earth. If you don"t love him, however, don"t marry him. But if you do Love him then if you don't marry him you will regret it the rest of your life.
2007-09-06 17:46:42 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TRUE
Not to many guys love a woman the way they should.
How many guys have you seen that treat you well enough to deserve your love without wanting nothing but sex?
2007-09-06 16:38:46 · answer #11 · answered by nelppik 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋