I am a 19 year old college freshman and my girlfriend is a high school senior. We have been dating for a year know and I really see myself ending up being married to her.
The only problem that I see is getting married while we are still in college. What are some of your opinions about married couples who are both in college?
2007-09-06 16:35:52 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No one can tell you if you should or shouldn't get married. Getting married is a decision to be made only by the potential bride and groom.
As a mom, I will tell you I feel you should wait until you have finished college - if a baby comes along and you aren't really prepared, someone will have to leave college to work, and you might regret that choice later. If you are serious, prepare yourselves for the reality of marriage, plus college, plus possible parenthood. Not an easy task, believe me - I've been there.
As someone who has "been there - done that", I say it's your choice. If you think you are up to all the challenges that marriage, college and parenthood bring, go ahead and get married when you are both truly ready. Just don't go into it blindly thinking love will get you through it all ... trust and communication are vital to any relationship, and 10 times more so in a marriage.
Be prepared to work at holding your marriage together through all the stresses that college (think of all those mid-terms and semester finals) can bring. Add in part time jobs, or parenthood, or even just partying with the guys/girls, and there's a myriad of issues that can cause marriage troubles. That's where the work, and trust and communication come in to help hold your marriage together.
I truly wish you both the best.
2007-09-06 16:54:25 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Ariana 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take it from someone who got married at 18. I got married 3 days before I graduated from HS. Your way to young, young marriage do usualy end in divorce. Their will be things you are not old enough to handle as a couple. Why hurry to get married? I would say for sex as sex before marriage is morally wrong, but in today's society, no one waits anyway. Keep dating, get your education, so you can support yourselves with a home & a family. Use good birth control, you don't need that confusion while in school. After you both have your education & if you are really in love & want to grow old together married then great! Enjoy life while your young & single, date, be happy, laugh, play & then see where it leads.
2007-09-06 16:45:52 · answer #2 · answered by simplysweetnsexi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I met while we were seniors in high school and it would have been great to get married while he was in college and I worked full time, but now back to reality, how do you plan to support a household while in college, does she have plans to go to college. You should both enjoy the college experience, work for a year or two make wise investments so that you can live in the lifestyle you are both used to and would like to raise a family in. I don't want to sound like your mother, but I've been there. Did I mention we married 6 years after meeting. We have 4 great kids, a home that is ours and will be celebrating our 15 year anniversary in October, all due in part to planning and waiting. It not just fun and games and playing house. I wish you both much happiness
2007-09-06 16:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to wait until after college. People change during college years and you may find two years down the road that she really isn't the one you want to be married to for the rest of your life. also: How do you plan to support her, pay for an apartment and all the bills if you are in school full time? And what about her education? I suggest you wait.
2007-09-06 16:40:06 · answer #4 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think that being married while still in college is fine and actually can be good for your studies, but not at your age.
I think while you may see yourself getting married to her, you should wait a few more years.. Figure out what you want and how your girlfriend plays a role in that, she should do the same for you and then if you're ready to commit and if you're still in college at that point, that's okay.
It's important that you don't have any children while in college because this will certainly make it more likely that one of you, probably your girlfriend, would have to drop out of college to take care of the kid.
2007-09-06 16:43:20 · answer #5 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would wait for a few years, at least until you're close to graduating. Maybe w/ a year left. That way you have gotten past the liberal courses you need to take and you're well on your way to that degree. I'm currently engaged... We've been engaged for a long time now and believe me, trying to plan a wedding is NOOO picnic! Make sure you leave a lot of time for planning and try to make sure the planning doesn't get in the way of your studies b/c the most important thing right now is getting a degree so you'll be able to provide for your future wife and family better. Good Luck with your schooling AND with your future!
2007-09-06 16:40:16 · answer #6 · answered by Libby 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well most will tell you to wait until you are out of college. But my husband and I couldn't do that. Hell, one or both of us have been in college for the entire duration of our marriage. (7 years)
How about this. When your about to graduate from college with your 4 yr degree get married then. Think of it as your graduation present.
2007-09-06 16:56:35 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did get engaged in college and found it to be very stressful. It was hard to manage getting grades and planning the wedding. Within a year, I broke it off b/c I could not take the pressure. Wait until you are both out of college.
2007-09-06 16:40:37 · answer #8 · answered by Computer Geek 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My recommendation is you allow each other to go through the entire college experience before getting hitched. I see no sense in taking on more responsibility than college already presents. What if a baby comes along? What if you have to be in different colleges? So many what ifs . . . take your time. You have the whole future ahead of you. Take it a step at a time.
2007-09-06 16:42:17 · answer #9 · answered by JADE 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
married is a full time job,. thing may be going good now, but with you in college, an her about to start, it going to put a strain on both of you,, 2th when you married ,the rules change,,, i been married to the same old girl, 34 years, an i not change any thing,,, , but married id like a garten, you got to work at it every day, ,, i say wait till you out of collage, , then tie the knot
2007-09-06 16:43:19 · answer #10 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋