Can anybody explain how this is going to work?

Question

I'm an RN and was divorced in 2001 and with 1 child in Michigan. The ordered child support payment to me was $303.00,I have missed some payments on it, because i lost my job,once i got money sent the payment directly to my ex wife and she gave me receipt . And when i moved to Texas and on some personal reason i started missing payment again, so my ex wife moved to texas too and went to the atty. general, and they increased my payment for $1,303 + $300 on back child support which i think is soo stiff, since i remarried on 2005 and my income is just barely sustaning me to survive and pay my bills (and bad credit from the divorce,since my wife decided not to return the van that we were still paying and she had it towed and she had some bills in michigan and still using my name on it)

..I moved to California with my new wife and decided that we may have a better life there because of higher pay, but it didn't work because of cost of living and some bills that keep incuring.

I got hospitalized. Now my wife is in new state and going to school, and here in california and we are paying 2 apartments ($1600 both) and still some bills. I just want to know if i can request to have my child support lower even if i still haven't paid my back child support .

BTW... they are garnishing my wages now. Should i moved to alabama and then request to have my child support lower and should i move the case in Alabama, because right now it is Texas who is handling the child support and they are just taking to much of my money.

I DON'T NEED ANSWERS FROM BITTER WOMEN.

I AM NOT NEGLECTING MY CHILD. I AM DOING THE BEST I CAN FROM THE MONEY THAT I AM MAKING WITH MY INJURY (SCIATICA) AND MY NEW WIFE WAS NOTHING BUT SUPPORTIVE OF MY OWN KID AND HAS SACRIFICE A LOT. I AM LOOKING FOR A STRAIGHT ANSWER HERE.

i am not moving from state to state to avoid payments i am very much happy to pay my child support i am just saying that my payment is too much for my income.

First of all my ex wife lets my child sleep in a cot ans she sleeps in abed, my child run away before.(but this is another case)

my wife is living off campus because it is cheaper and i am not even living in what you consider an apartment.

I am already away from my wife right now because i don't want to take a chance of moving to Alabama where my wages will go down. So don't give me the crap that i'm trying to give excuses not to pay my child support.

I feel sorry for my son, but he is a victim here, and if i can just be honest i wish i didn't have him, not because i don't love him but because i married his mother, who doesn't want to work and living of the money that is supposed to go to my son. My son only get's new clothes and shoes from his mother once a year, i have to send him clothes and everything he needs just so he won't look like his from that white trash family.

to colleen: i don't have a hard time getting a job, i have stable job, i was just behind because of some personal changes that i have the right to do.

My wife is in school right now, and her getting a job won't help much because i want her to concentrate on her school.I am not asking to lower my back child support just my current child support.

I am continually paying my child support i have my wages garnishes from it which is good so i don't have to send that money myself.

Answer 1

I would like to start out by saying that I feel for you. I really do. I have friends in similar situations. I would also like to say that the standards this country holds men and women to, when concerning children, is despicable. Men are held to such high standards. They are required to pay half the support of the child, regardless of weither they wish to be in the child's life. If this is the way it should be, women should also be held to the same high standards. They should not have the option of abortion or adoption. They helped to make the child and like men, should be responsible for the child until the age of eighteen, regardless of weither they wish to be or not. If you don't feel this is the way it should be with the mother, how can you expect it of the father? That being said, I feel the laws in this country need to change. Men are getting robbed by these mothers and their outrageous child support payments. Then you have people, like the angry people who have answered your question, who have no idea what it is like have to pay support, condemn you for falling on bad times, which can cause you to miss a support payment here or there. They make me sick, because everyone knows life doesn't always work out the way you plan. If I were you, I would move out of the country and out from under her thumb. This way, you could spend the money on items that you know would go to your child and you wouldn't have to worry about not being able to survive from week to week. People can and will give me a thumbs down for this comment and that is their right, but it doesn't make what I say any less true. I came from a single parent family and my father never once payed support. My mother made a choice to take care of me and she did. She didn't expect anyone else to foot the bill for anything. So I have a bit of perspective when addressing this subject. I hope everything works out for the best for you.

Answer 2

I think only a licensed attorney can answer your questions. You have a child and you need to support that child. I think the amounts you listed are very high. You should see what kind of arrangement you can make with your ex-wife. Moving from state to state is not going to make your case any better.

Something you can try do to is reduce your expenses. If you are paying for 2 apartments, something else is happening. If your current wife is in school, perhaps there is some student housing she can live in for a lot less money.

You may want to consult a debt counseling service and see what kind of arrangements can be made.

Above all, I hope you are keeping a good relationship with your child. Don't be just a monthly check to them.

Answer 3

Yes you can request the support be lowered. Take all information proving hardship.
So often people seem to think that they can even up because the other party owes for a vehicle, credit cards etc. This is considered a seperate issue and needs to be treated seperately from child support.
You should never have paid cash directly, however try to use the receipt given you as proof of payment and maybe this can be credited to your child support account. This payment is not showing up through the courts and you may be paying twice, as we speak. Never Never pay outside of the courts when there is an order placed. It could be considered a gift and you will not get credit for it.
Take her to court for contempt on the van...remember, the van is a seperate issue.

Answer 4

You don't get to lower your back child support owed. Moving to California was a stupid move considering the cost of living...pay may be better here but the cost of living isn't. Seems to me that you keep running from your obligation of back child support. The IRS is going to get involved and when they do you can kiss any income tax refunds good bye as they will be confiscated by the IRS to pay your debt to child support. The fact that you CHOSE to get married is your own fault I guess your current wife will have to get a job...or a second job since you seem to have such a difficult time getting one...oh and if the IRS gets involved with your child support you will find it even more difficult to find a job because employers do background checks and if you're far behind in support payments that isn't going to look good for you when you apply for a job. Eventually you will be jailed for non payment but that won't stop you from having to pay what you owe when you get out. And the longer it takes you the more you owe. Quit whining and figure out a way to pay your back child support or they will go after your current spouse for payment.

Answer 5

You should have stayed put and paid the dues
owed. Your moving around and getting re-married
did not change your support for your child by the
other ex. There is no escape, as you are respon-
sible for bringing the child into this world and so
you are responsible for taking care of it. The best
thing for you to do is go back to court when you
finally settle down, and even if you cannot pay the
full amount , pay something, so that when you go
to court they will at least know you tried to make
an effort. Documentation is very important in your
case as you will need all of it to back up what-ever
payment you could or could not make according
to your job. You definately have to have your
paperwork in order when going to court because
if you go just on your word-say and have skipped
payments before you automatically loose- so
get your paperwork in order and go back to court
so you can get the child support straight once and
for all. Good luck.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

yes u can n file in the state u plan 2 live in back child support will stay the same but u can pay as u can if u miss a payment again then ur going 2 screw yourself n they wont trust u again

Answer 8

I dont blame you for wanting to get it lowered. I think its ridicoulos the amount of child support men are ordered to pay. It leaves them nothing to live off of. yes they have to support their children, but they also need to live too. The ex wives alot of times dont even spend the money on the kids. I have experience on both sides of the issue. I am divorced from my kids dad, and received child support till they turned 18, and my second husband has to pay child support for his two. It gave me a whole new understanding of seeing it from a different perspective. These men are left with nothing to live on..meanwhile the ex wives are living it up off of their money. When my ex and I were divorced we agreed to an amount that was less than the state guide lines.It was crazy..the man would have had to live in his car, and the amount he gave me was more than enough!! It made the 10 years he had to pay me alot more amicable between us because he wasnt bitter and I wasnt constantly whining to him for more money!!

Answer 9

it doesn't matter what state you are in, they are still going to take the money. ask to have your child support reevaluated because of your current situation. a lot of times this will either get it lowered or it will dismiss some of the back support owed. this is what my dad did and it worked for him. also if you file for bankruptcy it will affect your child support too. talk to your lawyer or whoever helped set up your support they could answer your question in details.
good luck.

Answer 10

In Ohio, you will be asked for proof that you paid her once your child is of age (19, I think), so hold onto that receipt, you may get that money refunded at that time. As far as the price increase, it is all based on arrearages and your income. And by your income, I mean yours and your new wife's. I'm assuming that is the case throughout the U.S.