Any ideas on what I should do? A little bit about me, I've been married for 4 years, just started college 2 weeks ago, SAHM to 2 wonderful boys one is almost 3 and the other 15 months. Things have slowly gotten worse over the years. He has been very controlling since the beginning, I wish I had seen the signs. On Monday he head butted me right in the nose, "because he was upset", and "having a bad day". I didn't bleed but it hurt really bad, and was a little swollen for the rest of the day. I for some reason can't get over it. I got to thinking if he did it in a bar they would press charges. Ok let me back up. I've been a little quiet lately, so he knew something was wrong. Finally after he found out it wasn't school he said... is it because I head butted you? I said yeah i'm a little upset about it. Well then he mocked me about it. And after I said that about pressing charges about it then he tried to tell me he didn't. This sucks I just wish I knew what to do.
2007-09-06 13:51:38 · 9 answers · asked by justall4ofus 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its never to late, get out b4 it gets worse, 4 the kids and 4 yourself, Life is too short to have to worry about an older child!!!!! Or learn Martial Arts & put him in his place!!!! No, I'm kidding, 2 wrongs dont make a right, GET OUT!!!!!!!!
2007-09-06 13:59:24 · answer #1 · answered by trashman474 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is get away from him now because I'm telling you he will get more violent as the years go by. Your kids will pick up on this and if they see you putting up with it ,they will do the same in their relationships.How we hurt our kids when we don't mean to but you can put a stop to it now and that should be your first priority.Always put your kids before you or your husband, it's what a good mother would do.
2007-09-06 21:07:49 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he did it once what makes u think he will not do it again.but the next time he may really hurt u or your kids.do u want 2 take the chance of that happening.once they start they don't stop it just gets worse.u need 2 get u and your kids out of there.then if u still want 2 try 2 make it work tell him he has 2 get help learning to control his anger.if not then tell him u cant be with him.
2007-09-06 21:25:17 · answer #3 · answered by kim d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you need to sit down together and have some serious conversation about what is going on and what is acceptable and not. If you can't do that and he won't go to counseling, then you may have to consider taking yourself and your children to a safer place. Abuse always begins with control and then continues to move into more dangerous displays. Check with some shelters if he won't talk or take counseling.
2007-09-06 20:57:55 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When dealing with mental and physical abuse in a relationship you tend to ignore the signs and this has to be a wake up call.... no one deserves that and you need to just pack up and leave.... easier said than done but better than waiting to be used as a punching bag....
2007-09-06 21:34:07 · answer #5 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you say in a "bar".... It is unacceptable ANYWHERE for a coward to behave like that. you don't have 2 kids you have 3...get out now, it will only get worse, and harder to leave.
2007-09-06 21:00:27 · answer #6 · answered by monabow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time call 911 if u dont it will happen again
2007-09-06 20:58:37 · answer #7 · answered by mickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looser do u need me to come straten this out?
2007-09-06 20:55:15 · answer #8 · answered by big daddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is an easy one......take your kids and leave
2007-09-06 20:54:12 · answer #9 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋