I'm a married stay at home mom of a 1yr old. Since the baby, I've stayed home. I've been asked to come back to work on a part time basis, I always said I'd go back in a "heartbeat" if I could do it part time. And so my delimia is, will this greatly affect our child if Mommy's gone maybe 3 nights a week? Short 4hr shifts. Im a nurse and the hubby's an engineer during the day and a firefighter/paramedic at night. He makes more to pull a straight 12hr shift at the station, but I bounce back and forth as to what's best for us.... I'm definately praying about it, but would like some advice too. THANKS!!!
2007-09-06 16:24:26 · 9 answers · asked by marcie1997 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am the answer to your prayers. It is not going to harm you child to go back to work part time. It also will not harm him any if you don't. Remember to focus a little attention on you own happiness.
2007-09-06 16:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I felt that way after our daughter was born so my wife stayed home for the first three and a half years of our daughters life to get her started.
Our experience was, our daughter enjoyed a good daycare after age 3,, more of a preschool all day. Learned more there than I could ever teach her, and she has plenty of friends to invite over each weekend at age 5 now.
It gave us a chance to teach her what was right and what was wrong from the beginning because she had a chance to experience more.
My wife returned to work and enjoys it, my daughter is happy, and we all have things to talk about these days at the dinner table.
Honestly, if you could find a great daycare and go back to work full time, you and your family will have a chance to be around each other more often. Maybe get lucky enough to eat dinner together, go to a park, get some ice cream, and your husband wouldn't have to work all day long.
That's my opinion anyway.
2007-09-06 23:32:36 · answer #2 · answered by nelppik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it all depends on who is going to watch your child.
If you have to leave your baby with someone you don't know then I say STAY AT HOME. But if your husband or either of the grandparents are willing and WANTING to do YOUR job as a mother, then I think it would be ok. But remember, you are a MOTHER now. You don't have to go back to work, but YOU DO HAVE TO CARE FOR THAT BABY, FOREVER. THAT IS YOUR JOB NOW.
Is the outside world worth more than the security of knowing your baby is safe and being loved? I don't think it is, personally. I wish more people felt this way. There'd be a lot less of everything except happiness.
2007-09-06 23:39:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are HAPPY staying at home and hubby is making enough...then I WOULDNT change anything but if something deepdown gets you excited by this thought of going back to work then you should and make arrangements for the kid. accordingly.Im a mum myself and stayed home untill 1 year and 10 months,around that time I just needed to get back work and I QUESS I wanted to feel more worthy than only being a mother,I mean i worked all my life so....I just missed it and I remember when I picked up my kid from daycare i was overwhelmed and had lots of energy as sometimes in my staying-at-home-days I got tired and a bit bored so IT DEPENDS on your needs and character as a woman aswell besides your responsibilities as a parent ofcourse.But dont feel quilty towards your child,I believe a child learns from many other peolpe in her close surroundings and maybe even more than staying at home.My daughter is 10 now,iM still working as a teacher and my kid is very independent,strong ,energetic and full of strenght,power,interest and always takes every challenge which comes along ,Im SOOOOOOOproud of her and seriously i think because she sees me as a working mum its better for them too.think about it
2007-09-06 23:44:21 · answer #4 · answered by ajal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a need for you to work? Do you want to go back to work? Do what it is that is best for your liveliness. The baby will be okay. Four hours is not a long time, especially at night. The baby will be sleep hopefully during this time. If you don't want to go back and there is no financial need for the family, then stay at home! I am a stay at home mother as well and I enjoy it. I enjoy being able to oversee everything aspect of my child's life.
2007-09-06 23:35:11 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
honest, if you dont need the money, stay home, raise your child, watch him are her grow,, be their to see the first step,hear the frist word,,,,for these thing can not be bought,,, so if you happy at home, ,, spend it with the child,,, for one day the child be grow, an you want to go back an do these thing,
2007-09-06 23:31:43 · answer #6 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go back to work whenever. Your baby will only be a baby for a few more years.
2007-09-06 23:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go back to work. You weren't the one asking for your job back.
2007-09-06 23:55:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work fulltime and so does my husband, I haven't seen any ill effects with my kids.
2007-09-06 23:34:39 · answer #9 · answered by MyMichelle 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋