My husband and I have been together for almost 7 years. We have a 9 month old son and he has and 11 year old daughter from a previous marriage. From the beginning of our relationship his ex-wife has been really flirty with him. When we are together she always brings up some story about the time the were married. I don't say anything to her because their daughter is around when it happens. My husband never returns her advances and usually ignores her. Recently she has started asking him to get back together and he ingores her. I asked my husband to just tell her that they are never getting back together. He says that he doesn't not want to interact with her when it doesn't pertain to their child. I also asked him to tell her just that. He won't do it because he said it will create conflict in his relationship with is daughter and I totally understand...but I am fed up and it is creating conflict in our relationship. I think I deserve more respect. Am I out of line?
2007-09-06 15:22:34 · 13 answers · asked by Ashley W 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First and fore most NO you are not out of line, The ex wife on the other hand is ,there is no reason she should be causing this kind of conflict. I personal think she's making an a** out of her self and it also seems she has no respect for anyone not even her daughter to do something like that infront of her. If I were you I would tell her where to get off I wouldn't allow another woman to act like that infront of me like that towards my husband
2007-09-06 15:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by wildone 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What part of divorce ( if you have kid's you pick them up keep them for your access then return them on said time and day as per agreed either in a court of law or verbally between the divorced parents) ,meaning the marriage is over dont you people understand?.
Once the paper's are filed and stamped by a court and it reads your NO longer married , that means no more partying together or having bbq's or doing anything .
You can keep it civil for your children spend their birthday's together if you feel you absolutely cant afford 2 seperate birthday parties , but other then that , people wake up .
I could just pisture my children's / step children's birthday parties , my 1st ex husband and his drug queen and her 3 brats from her 1st marriage , my 2nd ex husband , his 1st ex partner who is the mother of his daughter + her 4 sibling's from 3 other men and her partner , his 1st ex wife her weasel of a husband and their 2 son's and his son he has with her , me and my 5 kid's .NOT!!!!!
Get this woman out set boundaries and tell your husband to quit using his daughter as leverage to keep the ex in his life because I know she's using that girl as leverage to keep him close to her , HELLO she said she wants him back come off it .
2007-09-06 15:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're no longer over reacting.. in spite of the actuality that he has financial duty for his infants, it is going to stay purely that. of direction the ex spouse could opt to have him decrease back yet seek advice from him frankly and tell him which you do no longer like it. Honesty is the superb coverage. If he particularly cares for you, he does no longer opt to harm you by speaking together with his ex spouse different than financial concerns. Do you have an ex husband too? in case you do, ask him how he could experience while you're doing the comparable factor?
2016-10-04 03:13:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's being the more mature person by not interacting with her on this level. He chose you. He is with you. Don't ask him to handle something that he is already handling. I think he is 100% in the right here. He should only be talking to the ex about their child. By doing this he is respecting EVERYONE involved, including you!
2007-09-06 18:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you id pay her a visit with your husband or on your own if he refuses to go.do this while his daughter is in school tell her you know what games she is playing and its got to stop tell her to put herself in your shoes how would she feel then and its not fair on her daughter or your child its playing games with their emotions you must put an end to these head games now.good luck
2007-09-07 14:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't respond to her, why are you worried about it? He is right...if he does as you ask it may cause friction and have a harmful effect on their daughter. She does this just to remind you she had him first........its a game. Ignore her.
2007-09-06 15:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone... and let the poor guy off the hook already. She is his ex wife! Why do you let her have this much power over you?
Of course she is going to act like a *&^%! That's why she is his ex. What you need to do is just kill her with kindness and enjoy the fact that he is yours now.
No matter what she says or does, just smile and be polite. Believe me, it will kill her.
2007-09-06 15:32:24 · answer #7 · answered by box of rain 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
He is doing the right thing. He is only interacting with her on a parental level and anything other than that will give the ex delusions. This way there are no misunderstandings. You get over it. I know from experience.
2007-09-06 15:29:50 · answer #8 · answered by kyle g 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Tell her you had your chance, now he is mine and I want to thank you for loosing him so I could have him. He is the best thing that ever happened to me. Too bad you didn't realize that before it was too late.
But your loss is my gain.
2007-09-06 15:35:07 · answer #9 · answered by Hillbillee 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you are out of line.
He'll eventually have to tell her, or he'll get suckered in.
But I would be upset and expect/demand the same thing.
But on the other hand, I would straight out confront her myself~if he wouldn't! GOOD LUCK.
2007-09-06 15:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by BossLady 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋