My anniversary is coming up in two weeks. Me and my husband planned to do something nice for our 7th yr anniversary. My husband told me yesterday, that he going to go visit his family and spoil daughter, so I ask him so when are you going to leave, he say he leaving on the date of our anniversary. When I bought the date to his attention, he was shock and say oh right I forgot, so I asked him to change the date of his trip, to the next week he say I already got approved for the date to leave from my supervisor. He have the nerve to tell me oh when I come back we can do something then. Its not emergency where he really have to go. So what do you all think about this?
2007-09-06 05:03:34 · 6 answers · asked by dbrh_soto 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like his family and daughter is more important than your Anniversary. I know his daughter is important to go and see, but your 7th anniversary only comes once, unless you marry someone else.
Your husband can see his daughter and family another day. Maybe you should mention this to them and see what they
say. Maybe he has somebody else there he wants to see that's more important to him. Let him know that your Anniversary is important to you and then see what he say's. Guy's just don't think it's important. I just had our Anniversary July 2nd. Thirteen yrs. I have to remind my husband of this day or he won't remember it. Or just doesn't say it.
2007-09-06 05:50:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For most guys an anniversary is no big deal. It's just another day. Just because they have a nice dinner with you a week before or a week later doesn't mean they love you any less.
From my observation women take anniversary's far more seriously than men. Of course this is all just a sweeping generalization, but I'd say it is true more often than it is not.
I honestly don't see why it is imperative that you celebrate on a specific day. Why can't you do something special together the following weekend? Or the weekend before? Does it REALLY mean he loves you less if the celebration takes place on a slighly different date?
2007-09-06 05:11:30 · answer #2 · answered by ZCT 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, sorry to burst your bubble, but a story about a man forgetting his anniversary isn't exactly newsworthy. So he forgot the date- it's sad but true that many men have a hard time remembering dates like birthdays and anniversaries, but if you have a strong, happy marriage, you should be flexible enough to celebrate it a few days early, or when he gets back from his trip. It also sounds like you have some unresolved issues with his family, particularly his daughter. Just remember that while occasions like anniversaries are pleasant, real marriage means having to compromise and be flexible. Put yourself in his place- for argument's sake, what if you had been the one to space out the anniversary and book a trip for the same day? I bet he wouldn't have gotten bent out of shape about it...he'd probably just offer to celebrate before or after. I am not married but am in a long-term (5 year) relationship, and we have both had to compromise during holidays to make things work for ourselves and our families. Just yesterday was our 5 year anniversary, and because I didn't want him to spend any extra money since we're going on a trip to Vegas next week, I suggested a cozy night in instead of a big night out to celebrate. Forgive him for forgetting your anniversary, and be glad he wants to do something special when he comes back.
2007-09-06 05:12:42 · answer #3 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though you have been married 7 years, I feel hubby cares more for his family than you.
He could of easily seen his daughter during the summer months, couldn't he have? Maybe it's the families way of showing you their more important than you are!
Hell, go off on a vacation with yourself or better yet, fill his place with a good friend and have him flip the bill for it!
2007-09-06 05:23:28 · answer #4 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should respect him with his family and let him make it up when he gets back. act cool about it and try to be understanding-- he is human
good luck.. maybe whrn he gets back he will have something awesome planned or maybe he is just joking with you
2007-09-06 05:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's got something up his sleeve.
AND~~you think so too!
2007-09-06 05:11:24 · answer #6 · answered by ANewLife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋