Ok so I don't get along with my sister inlaws (6 of them) AT ALL! They don't like me and vice versa.
My husband has never stood up to them for me which makes me mad.. finally I just cut them loose (about a year ago). He said I don't have to go to any family things.
Well yesterday I went off on one SIL (just couldn't hold it in) not the right thing to do, but its done...and would rather not deal with anything (them) anymore. NOW, she is getting married later in the fall . My husband doesn't mention it to me at all, he is waiting to hear from me We have not made any plans, nor discussed it other than me saying so we're not going to talk about it...
Knowing they have been talking about me for years, knowing I will get bad attitude and smirks all night long... what should I do? What would you do?
2007-09-06 04:26:40 · 12 answers · asked by meme 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey I do understand, been there done that and now its over. You got to be the bigger person, as hard as that might be you'll win in the end. My sil fought me all the time and I would just hold her back or down so she couldn't and let her mom handle it. Then they both started lieing on me and trying to break up me and him and he seen for himself, because i tried to always be nice. He eventually cut all ties and I am the one that had to make him go see them. I did this because as much as they did to me it is still his family. They now respect and are sorry for how they treated me. Good luck
2007-09-06 07:14:19 · answer #1 · answered by teddy_bear_says_os 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since this is his sister who is getting married I would think he wants to go? If I was you I would go decked out and dressed to impress have a good time with your husband. You don't have to spend your time sitting at the table. Get up and dance, talk to other family that you get along with. Hang out at the bar. But, I would not give them the satisfaction that there smirks, comments, remarks effect me.
2007-09-06 05:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably won't have to worry about it...I doubt they'll even invite you.
If you guys fight that bad, I wouldn't go to the wedding, just out of respect for the couple. If they focus their attention on you that much, it'll take away from the wedding, and cause even more trouble. I would tell my husband he can go if he wants (since it is his sister) but that you would prefer to stay home.
He does need to stand up for you, though, being your husband. I would still talk to him about that (unless you've done something awful that deserves their bad feelings). He needs to let them know that he married you because he loves you, and they need to get over whatever their problem is. Good luck.
2007-09-06 04:38:24 · answer #3 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are members of my husbands family, that I really don't want to be around, but for his sake I go. I'm sure there are alot of other people you run into that you don't care for, and you manage to be civil to them, that's the least thing you can do for your husband. Maybe your husband doesn't stick up for you because he doesn't agree with you. I believe he has that right. You might want to stop thinking ME, ME, ME, and think of someone else for a change. You ask what we would do, but you have already said you won't talk about it, so you have already made up your mind. Did you ever think that you are not all that important and they don't care what you do, and would probably rather you didn't come around because you are nasty to them and they don't want to fight.
2007-09-06 04:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband should go to his own sister's wedding. WITHOUT YOU! 'If' his sisters act so rudely towards you (and it's not a figment of YOUR imagination) maybe you should 'be the better person'. You dont curse your husband's sisters out. Whats wrong with you? Are you 18? In highschool or something? I dont care WHAT his sisters does....you should behave better than you have and LEARN to be the better person in the situation and not stoop down to childish behaviors as the sister allegedly have. Your husband ought to be a lil disappointed with you. No wonder he doesnt stick up for you.
2007-09-06 04:49:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
People go to weddings to support the people getting married. If your sister-in-law is going to have most of her time being dedicated to her new husband and not fighting with you, why would you not be supportive of this?!?
You should go and be very happy there. Support them all the way and maybe.... think about supporting your husband too.
2007-09-06 04:54:18 · answer #6 · answered by Vitiran 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What would I do? Same thing that I'd do for all family functions: Suck it up, put a smile on my face and not lower myself to their level. It's one day and you don't have to be the matron of honor. Mingle with the guests. While they shouldn't mistreat you, and you don't need to pal around with them on the weekends, do remember that these are his sisters.
2007-09-06 04:43:14 · answer #7 · answered by Maria C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
have you thought about your hubby's feeling, honestly you should at least be with your hubby at every/most of the family things, i too don't get along well with my sis in law but i'm always with my hubby, smile and greet them but don't talk much even after many years, but my hubby knows the problem and always there for me cause i show respect to his family!!!!!!
2007-09-06 04:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by bec 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Taking care of your own life progressively. They have their own lives too. Let them know, that you will be successful in your own life soon.
2007-09-06 08:39:02 · answer #9 · answered by Seph2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would 6 people not like you? Personality? looks? culture? That's very strange. You must be the most unlikable person I know.
2007-09-06 04:42:57 · answer #10 · answered by Your #1 fan 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋