when sex is boreing?

Question

what to do when the sex is boring to your partner? how do you spice up your love life. we have tryed almost everything but still she say its still boreing to her. can you have a sexless marrage? i have a very high sex drive and should i put that on the back burner and just not have sex?

she said that the same old ways are boring to her we tryed many positons and have toys but that is not working i think that she just dont want me anymore and dont want to tell me that.

Answer 1

Yeah you may want to try a little bit harder. If sex continues to be boring for her then she may start looking else where for that little excitement.

Here are some suggestions either you take it or leave it....

1. Pretend you just met him
"When our sex life started to slow down, I started thinking about how another woman would see my husband if she just met him -- and this made me want to impress him. I did things like buying new lingerie, getting up just a little earlier than usual to join him in the shower or making time to play later in the tub. We totally rediscovered each other's sexiness after that." you could do this vice versa maybe buying her lingerie, trying new places..
2. Tease each other
"Sometimes, when my husband and I wake up and hear our daughter, we start kissing and caressing anyway. Of course we don't continue, but we get all worked up and then go all day stealing little looks and kisses. Sure, we could duck away and end the torture, but I think that secretly, we both enjoy this little dance. It definitely keeps things exciting!"
3. Act on your moods
"My problem was that even if I was in the mood when my husband was at work, by the time he got home I'd be too exhausted. It started to get so frustrating! Then, I figured out a plan. Every time I get in the mood during the middle of the day, I put a blindfold or something suggestive under his pillow. Even though I may be too tired to initiate sex later, he finds my little clue and definitely gets the message."
4. Get high-tech
"I've started emailing my husband sexy fantasy scenarios on his personal email account. This really helps me to get brave. Because sometimes, I just feel silly showing him my sexual side when we're face-to- face. Plus, getting his mind going like that has certainly has paid off."you can also ask for sexy photos of her, maybe nude/erotic..
5. Rent an "adult" video
"There are so many helpful sex videos available that are not intimidating at all. The one I like is narrated by a sex therapist; it's instructional in nature. You learn how to effectively stimulate someone, but on a really nonthreatening level."
6. Take real life and shove it
"My husband and I were always too busy for love. Finally, one night we were getting serious about fooling around and what happened? The phone rang! Even though he picked it up, I decided to take matters into my own hands, and kept right on kissing him, all over. I loved that power, and he went wild too -- when he finally got off the phone."
7. Be at each other's mercy
"Once I whispered in my husband's ear to take hold of my hand. Then I told him I was going to close my eyes and he had to place my hand anywhere on his body. Then I massaged whatever area it was. He was kind of in control, but ultimately I controlled the pleasure."
8. Surprise him -- and yourself!
"One time my husband came home from work, the house was spotless, his favorite meal was made, the lights were dim, candles were set on the table and i was sitting there waiting for him wearing nothing but some high heels and a tie."
9. Heat up the outdoors
"We like to pack a picnic and head to our favorite secluded spot where they have these hot springs and we love to go skinny dipping together, just having that nice relaxing evening together, we have even broughten sleeping bags and stayed overnight.
10. Be aggressive
"Telling my husband what to do in bed is very erotic. Although I wouldn't want a puppy dog for a husband all the time, it is so much fun to say what I want, when and how. Then there is seeing his response! He might get even more turned on than me."
11. Share (racy) compliments
"Once my husband and I were going to fool around in front of a mirror. He stood behind me and slowly undressed me. But as he moved along he told me how beautiful each part of my body is. Let me tell you, I didn't mind a bit. Compliments are a wonderful way to heat up any situation. The next time we made love I gave him a few of my own!"
12. Have her do a little dance for you or maybe you give her a little dance. C'mon guys can do it too.
13. Go to a "toy store" together.
"My husband and I had planned a real date, just the two of us. We dressed up and hit the town. After dinner, I was sure the night was finished, but he had a detour planned. We pulled right into a sex store! . Wewalked through the whole store -- and it was very exciting my husband even helped me pick out some toys:)
14.spend intimate time together
"Read a chapter of a book together every night. You can eat grapes, drink wine, even incorporate adult toys or choose to read erotic literature to each other. But for my husband and me, this is all about making an effort to touch, cuddle and spend intimate time together. That leads to an exciting evening no matter what!"
15 Get -- and give -- sneak previews
"What I like best is when my husband describes what were about to do to eachother befor doing it. As he talks, i can practically feel what is happening to my body. Talk about a double wammy. When he finally does it, i go through the roof."
16 Make a bedroom rule "There is one standing 'rule' in our bedroom. We are not allowed to use the same position more than once in a week. Of course we break the rule, but not often, and it generally keeps us from getting into a boring sexual routine."
17 Make a game of it
"I challenge my husband to a game of strip basketball/poker. Whoever wins gets whatever he/she wants. It's always fun to make it full body contact"
18 End boredom with a routine
"We always celebrate the new year with sex! We've tried to time our orgasms so they both strike right at midnight, but haven't been able to yet. The good news is that we just get to keep trying next year!"

There are so many things you can do to spice up your sex life but both parties have to be willing to try new things, i'm sure you can use your imagination and think of something fun and different to do to eachother or with eachother. There are always new positions you can make up, my husband and i love doing this.
Always make sure that you never orgasm befor she does.
FOREPLAY, FOREPLAY, FOREPLAY
maybe try doing it in public places where you have that chance of getting caught, it always makes things very excited:)

hope i helped!

Answer 2

When you first meet your partner you would try everything you can to spice up the relationship, in being romantic that would gain continued interest which would then lead to marriage. Now when in a marriage you need to be even more romantic and find more inventive ways of making sex fun. Do something outrageous like running around the house naked and having food fights with whip cream and ice cream to name a few. Try different sex positions to show variations. Music can also add some romance to your sexlife and bring her into the mood. Do not have a sexless marriage- it wont work!

Answer 3

trying everything does not mean you have done it all right. Instead of trying everything, try a few things and spend some time perfecting them. Sex in an art, it might take may strokes of a paint brush to get it right.

Having a high sex drive has nothing to do with good sex. If you are only interested in satisfying yourself and done in 2 minutes then definitely it is boring for her. When you start you car in the winter, you let the engine warm up before you start driving it. Same concept, you need to warm her up.... foreplay, foreplay, and lots of foreplay..... good luck

Answer 4

What does she find boring with sex? You first need to pinpoint where the problem is. It's probably not the whole thing it could be something else? Does she have issues with maybe having an orgasm? If that is the problem sex can seem like sweaty work, not fun and exciting. You and her need to have more honest talk, find out what is the main problem and work from there.

Answer 5

It was a hurtful thing for her to say but she is sure to be preoccupied with your new child. Try to make life a little more romantic for her and don't force it. Cuddles and kisses are far more important to most women than sex is. Try to cuddle her without it leading anywhere for a while and help her out as much as you can because she is probably also tired and maybe even a little depressed. All of these things are common after childbirth. Please don't throw away your family without giving it every chance you can. Think of your little child and the love that he/she needs from you.

Answer 6

Find out what the F U C K her problem is.. what would make sex more exCITING for her.. maybe she has some dk fetish. no man or woman should have to not have sex; expecially when they have a high sex drive. Your married? comprimise, talk it out, what does she want to do to spice up the sex? then do it.. if she doesnt know, put her in a straight jacket, divorce her n find someone w/ a sex drive like u

Answer 7

Ask her to make the bedroom plans for what she finds exciting. Maybe put her in the drivers seat and see what she comes up wtih.

Get her to a web site like adam and eve and tell her she has $200 to spend on anything she finds exciting and see what she chooses.

Answer 8

I would say she has deeper issues, work on those first and maybe you can reach the root of the problem, and be able to fix it.
I am 45 and sex has never been boring!!!!!

Answer 9

when my husband and I sex life gets boring we have fun by having public sex or toys lots of foreplay right now i am because I'm not having sex because I'm in Texas and he's is in Arizona

Answer 10

You should both study tantric sex. If she's bored - you aren't doing it right!!! You can have a sexless marriage - but who wants to?

Answer 11

talk to your girl find out how she feels about how it goes down. maybe she has suggestions on what to do to make things more exciting. try to learn new ways to do things. sometimes you gotta get her in the mood well before you do things. it is my experience the more a female is worked up for sex the more they enjoy it