Would you consider this cheating?

Question

Ok I’ve heard people say that looking at porn and creating online relationships are considered cheating but I was wondering about something that’s not so clear cut. Would you consider having a wet dream a form of cheating? I think it has the same merit as a person looking at porn except that they can actually get the same feeling as having sex with another person. With men you could have proof of this is they have a wet spot on the sheets with women it’s impossible to prove unless they tell you.

The reason I ask is because it goes in line with the reasons people think looking at porn is cheating. Your spouse isn’t giving serving your needs for whatever reason so you get gratification from somewhere else. Does anyone have any thoughts? I’m just curious.

Well there is this form of dream called lucid dreaming and in a nut shell you can create your dream world because you are aware that you are dreaming.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lucid_dream

I Lucid Dream quite often and it can be a liberating experience. I mostly fly and find creative avenues thought this. But you can fulfill any desire you want and the thing about it is that it feel very real. Makes you wonder what really constitues reality.

This question has really diverted. i guess the point i was trying to make is if you think looking at porn is cheating then a wet dream would be to.

Answer 1

No its not a form of cheating. wet dreams are important components of your physiology, It's a healthy way for your body to tell you that it has reached the proper requirement of minerals/etc., and while it needs to relieve itself it goes out in the form of wet dreams.
Though it's another matter to have your partner talk about it, some people feel its ok for their husbands/boyfriends to have them and some don't, so it depends on how they view this.
though i would suggest that one have intimacy with the ones they love in reality, rather than resorting to wet dreams.

Porn and online relationships? could be, but then again, a book i read said, "let everyone be convinced of his own mind." if you feel it is 'cheating', then it is.
Otherwise, get in touch with the one you love, its better when your partner is there physically.

Answer 2

If looking at porn, fantasizing about other people, masturbation, and nocturnal emissions are a form of cheating then perhaps 95% of the adult population of the world is guilty. The other 5% doesn't know what they're missing.

If a partner or spouse isn't getting their needs fulfilled, and they resort to self stimulation of any kind, it's pretty much expected. In a perfect world we'd all be satisfied 24/7 but it just doesn't work that way.

Having said that, an over-reliance on external sexual stimulation is a bit much. It's all about balance.

Answer 3

Wet dreams occur unconsciously...you can't control your dreams enough to be able to NOT have a specific dream. I have had some crazy dreams that are totally unexplainable as to why I had it. Sometimes it can be seen as a lack of being pleased in everyday life...but I wouldn't go that far in most cases. It is just the mind winding down through dreaming, whether it makes sense or not. I would not consider it a form of cheating at all.

Answer 4

I don't consider looking at porn cheating. I'd rather my Husband do that..than go out in the streets and screw some chick. And, that's just real. It's not about me not serving his needs. We've been known to watch it together. What's the harm? If he enjoys it.. then of course as his wife.. I'd like to see what all the fuss is about. So, it doesn't bother me at all if he looks/watches porn. As far as the on line relationship goes.. that's cheating. Anytime you seek comfort outside your relationship, whether it be via chatting etc.. it's wrong. There's nothing wrong with having "friends" on line that you talk to here and there. But, as a grown up you have to know where to draw the line. Especially if you are doing something that your spouse would deem inappropriate.

Answer 5

I guess I can't consider it cheating, how are you supposed to knowingly go to sleep and say... ok... tonight I am going to dream about "x" and have a wet dream. Its not something that can be controlled... its not something you said I'm going to do this. Yes, there is lust there about something, but nothing that you can control. As for porn or on line relationships, you chose those over your spouse. You can't choose to have a wet dream over your spouse.

Answer 6

Of course thats not cheating. None of that is. Cheating is when a guy and woman sleep physically together. Anyone who said watching porn is a form of cheating is either jealous or plain crazy. So is this wet dream stuff, who can help what they dream. ARE THEY CHEATING? ah no their not.

Answer 7

a wet dream is not cheating. First its a natural occurrence second there was no physical contact of any kind between you and whomever your dreaming about...How can that be cheating....If that were the case then every women/man people look at and make a comment like nice she has nice body or he got a nice body would be cheating

Answer 8

I do not think looking at porn or having a wet dream is a form of cheating or unfulfilled desires.

Answer 9

I think cheating depends entirely upon your others idea of cheating. For example, if you knew your girl thought kissing another person would be cheating, then kissing is cheating wether or not you think it is cheating.
Of course, if you asked some girl for a kiss it changes things-you deliberately cross the boundaries and cheat simply by definition.
Dreaming isn't cheating, you can not completely control your thoughts. It is when you purposely more yourself to action that creates the infidelity.

Answer 10

while you're questioning, it probable is. each time you experience an emotional connection with somebody else, any variety of touch that feels intimate - ought to be purely speaking or texting, yet feels close, brings you closer to that person - is cheating. while you're actually not emotionally in contact, then those self same issues are purely friendly. additionally i'm assuming via kissing you recommend a kiss on the cheek, because of the fact on the mouth or deep kissing is unquestionably around the line.