Marriage & Divorce - 14 July 2007

well I've been married for 2 years now and i love my husband but the thing is he has a very bad temper. I mean when we get into arguments that don't seem like a big deal, well he either throws our stuff around or just smashes it into pieces and he also never really wants to talk about the problem. i know its hard to talk right then and there when you have so much anger but he just puts it aside for days and tells me to my face that he doesn't care what happens. then after days go by he feels well and starts hugging me like nothing ever happened and he still doesnt want to talk about the problem. he has never laid a hand on me but im afraid if i stay with him and he doesnt change he eventually will. im afraid to end my marraige and say to my family that it was a failure most of all im afraid i will never find a love again. he always disconnects the tv when he's mad and says i cant watch it i mean is that wrong what should i do?

2007-07-14 17:05:47 · 7 answers · asked by yuyu 2

Me: 23. I'm a wonderful, warm person and attractive.
Him: 31 y/o guy who is cheating on his girlfriend with me (I am not advocating it! and I didn't know at first).

Hooking up about once or twice a month. He's affectionate, generous, kind to me. Says he's unhappy with his gf. Am I only being used? Are these all lines?

2007-07-14 17:05:14 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

if he says he wants the excitement, the new desire, wants to also find women who are into fetishes he likes. can he honestly love me and still want to do this or is he just too chicken sh!t to let me go and wants his cake and eat it too?

2007-07-14 17:04:17 · 16 answers · asked by viper pilot 2

how do you know when it is time to cut your losses and walk away? how do you know it is the right thing to do? please, no one word answere i need real advice. thank you

2007-07-14 16:59:04 · 13 answers · asked by viper pilot 2

been divorced for 6 yrs with joint custody of 2 small children.My exwife did not take the divorce well and our children are "her life"now.The problem is i just got remarried(which she did not take well) and don't want any "problems" for my children.What i mean is my ex is very possessive and i don't know how she will react to anouther women with our children.So my question to all you moms is how should my new wife behave with my children?should we raise them together when we have them or should i raise them with my exwife and my new wife just take a backseat?What would piss you off as an exwife?

2007-07-14 16:53:39 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

other since March. Right before we started dating way back in 1988 he had a serious spinal cord injury, since then he's lost his leg. We have been sharing memories and funny stories and just chatting here and there; some of our memories are personal and stirs up some mixed emotions. I will always have a special place for him and have thought about him off and on over the last 15 years........I also feel as though we left each other hanging and I have some unanswered questions and what if's. Should we continue talking or are we heading for a disaster? I live several states away from him, so there is no way we would see each other. My husband knows we email each other, his wife does not. Please any advice......I am really enjoying our chats and plus going down memory lane is great, now my husband and I have been talking about how we met and started dating!!!! Help me, can you really ever just be friends with your first love??????

2007-07-14 16:43:17 · 13 answers · asked by CHRISTINE K 1

My boyfriend and I got married in Brazil. Is our marriage recognized in the US?

2007-07-14 16:27:27 · 8 answers · asked by MeggieP 1

Does this go for marriage also? I don't know...but it doesn't make any sense to me. I truly don't beleive that love should hurt.And if this applys to marriage also, where do you draw the line?

2007-07-14 15:56:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Or maybe, yours was really great, care to share?

2007-07-14 15:28:26 · 5 answers · asked by beth c 2

2007-07-14 15:25:23 · 19 answers · asked by lala 1

I have a 3mo. old son and the father is married and stationed in Iraq. He has not even called me to even find out if the birth went ok. He has made it clear that he doesn't care about me at all and that he just wants to make things right with his wife. Now mind you, I had no idea of his situation before I got pregnant. I called and told his wife the situation because he was stalling, and she forgave him and stayed with him. That's all fine, but he doesn't even call to check on his son. Mainly because I believe his wife threatened to leave. I can't even get in touch with him. If anybody has any suggestions, please let me know, I would greatly appreciate it.

2007-07-14 15:11:17 · 17 answers · asked by Hottie 2

I suffer from illnesses,and due to some reasons,was ineligble for disability,but im not able to work.I have been in a bad abusive marriage for 4 yrs.I am legally blind,cant drive and am totally dependent on my husband.I have no family to help me out,he wants me to leave and move to my mothers but i have a terrible mold allergy and my mothers house has tons of mold and last time i got terribly sick there,plus i have a slipped disc in my back and when its at its worst i cant walk.no one is there to help care for me,and my husband has abused me,now he saying he doesnt want me anymore cuz I cant do anything and he hates me he wants to live alone,.we fight daily it has become physically abusive,and ive nearly had a nervous breakdown,i do not want to live in a shelter for homeless people,im scared,confused,cant stop crying and above all else my health problems have become intol

2007-07-14 14:57:14 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay so the other day me and my friend were talking and we got into asking questions like these to each other, if your married, can you answer some of these?
1.- If you are married to a man but you don't have any kids do you still get him a card for Father's Day?
2.- If you are pregnant and married do you get your husband a card for Father's Day?
3.- Why does everybody hate their mother-in-laws?
4.- why do you put the ring on the left hand if the person is right handed or even if they are left handed too?

Well that all and I am really puzzled over them, answers?

2007-07-14 14:54:42 · 58 answers · asked by ~*~<3~*~ 3

Especially if you want to make things better in your marriage, can't being too truthful end up hurting more than helping? I still do love him, but he just has been so insensitive this past year and I am tired of sounding like a broken record. You can only have so many 'talks' with someone--I'm starting to think that he'll just never change. I'm tired of being w/ the kids 24/7 while he's off doing other things. He is a good dad, but he just doesn't truely appreciate all that I do. Example: it's Sat. night and I am home alone w/ the children while he's out fishing...again. I guess I just don't feel #1 on his priority list and I'm getting to the point where I am caring/crying less and less about the whole situation.

2007-07-14 14:48:47 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my husband for 13 years married for 12 and the sex has steadily been going doewnhill, he has to be in one postion, and it freaking hurts, having sex with him is very very painful, so I have to use lotions so he can get to the point where he can do his business so he does not rub himsellf raw as it is quite painful, and nothing is going to accomidate him, when I am in pain, I have tried to get him to go in other positions and it does not work, so we end up in the same one, so I put off having sex for like months at a time, and he is constintly asking for it, I use every excuse, HELP!!! I don't want to hurt his feelings!!

2007-07-14 14:48:37 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-14 14:40:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married but separated from my husband 15 yrs ago, we were married in Calif. we were married for 20 yrs. before we separated. I want to know if he can get a divorce from me without my signature or me even knowing?

2007-07-14 14:30:36 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I say 85%.

2007-07-14 14:22:13 · 23 answers · asked by YBMEUBU 3

i was thinking if its genetically unique i might be hott in the adult entertainment industry...

2007-07-14 14:20:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-14 14:01:22 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have been with my husband for 2 years, we have only been married for 1. when we first starting dating he told me i was the 4 girl he was to have sex with. recently (after being married for almost a year) he came forward and said that when we started dating he had lied and i was actually his first.which he was my first so he knows it always bothered me that i was not his first and we had talked about it alot during the course of our relationship before we got married but it was only recently that he said he actually was a virgin until we had sex. tonight we had some friends over for dinner and were talking about sex for some reason and my hubbys friend started talking about a "whale" he had sex with and my hubby laughed and said you would never guess who i did... so i was like so you did have sex with someone else? and he was like no i woke up with her making our with me and i was naked but we didnt have sex?
im so mad. i feel like he is lieing and i wasnt his first...

2007-07-14 14:01:02 · 11 answers · asked by Christa 2

she always puts him first before me & she doesn't seem to care that i'm not ok with that & that it hurts my feelings very much! he still buys her things like expensive jewelry etc... and she seems to think that it shouldn't bother me at all! when i tell her that i'm not ok with it and that it hurts my feelings she always tries to turn it around and try and say it's my fault or she will try and find something that i've done wrong etc.. i love my wife very much so how can i make her see just how much she is breaking my heart and that what she is doing is wrong?

2007-07-14 13:39:41 · 30 answers · asked by dmaan40 1

2007-07-14 13:38:20 · 5 answers · asked by Caroline 1

Okay my best friend{josh} got married 5 months ago. He is the best guy next to my husband. He deserves the best. The girl he married{holli} moved in with him and his dad for about 4 months. She then decided to move back in with her mother because Josh was on the computer constantly. Holli told him that she needed him to get his life in order and get a job and a car and go back to school. Holli barely graduated and neither one of them had jobs when the got married. After she moved out Josh got a job a car and went back to school to get his GED. She got a job and so did josh. However her mother said she won't pay or give her daughter anything else if she doesn't divorce josh. Now she wants a divorce and to start dating josh again. Josh isn't happy with it but will do it for her. WHAT IS THE REAL PROBLEM HERE? IS IT HER PARENTS? OF IS SHE BEING A LITTLE SELFISH AND STUCKUP. Josh isn't that set{money wise} and her parents are and she doesn't want to give that up. Josh has got her everyth,

2007-07-14 13:04:09 · 21 answers · asked by A.J J 2

We are legally married and I found out he is living with a guy inside besides using utilities, my car, all! I want to send my sister there with a power of attorney to rent it. The utilities are in bouth names myne and his name. Can she call police and with the power of attorney, get my car back, take out all my belonings, and rent the place out. The house was bought by me, before I got married to this freeloader from Michigan (Er nic Cash DeBord) and we have a prenuptial agreemente mine is mine, his is his. Please help were I can found my rights, a phone I can call from`4 overseas or better right to them and a free power of attorney sample. Thanks.

2007-07-14 12:53:45 · 12 answers · asked by Fast Pace 4

My wife discovered some emails from another woman that I did not solicite but I did not discourage either in April. Now 3 months later she has managed to grow more and more distant with each passing day. Initially after her discovery she was still sharing a bed with me and has since begun sleeping in one of our guest rooms. She has begun applying for other jobs accross the country and hasn't invited me to go with her but still says she is unsure about the future of our marriage. Am I dumb for thinking that she is planning on leaving me? Of course I feel she is just using this isolated incident to have an excuse as to why it's ok for her to leave. I didn't cheat and nor did I have any intent on doing so. She has told me at least one other time that she doesn't love me anymore and asked me to move out of our house in our 3 year marriage. She has also repeatedly lied during our dating years. Our current lease is up at the end of the month, should I begin looking for my own place?

2007-07-14 12:52:54 · 16 answers · asked by James LA 1

I'm a mother of a 3yr old and 4month old.All my husband does is go to work 4days a week(literally).When he is here he eats ALL the food(that he doesn't pay for and can't afford to buy more of),makes ridiculous messes ,picks fights about the pettiest stuff("why is the lid to the peanut butter halfway off?"(he leaves it that way),and tries to cause dissention between me and the kids(he recently said to me in front of them,"You don't have any authority over anyone in here but yourself) and.."Your mother says you can't have it but I don't mind..she's nuts,don't mind her.".On top of this,he constantly says all day"I can't believe I'm taking care of YOU".."I hate having kids.".."look at you".."Why am I taking care of you guys?".."If I wasn't taking care of 3other people,I'd have this that,etc.,".........I told him after his latest comment about authority that he is more than welcome to leave anytime and I meant it.Does anyone else deal with this type of thing?What should I do?

2007-07-14 12:46:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-14 12:46:13 · 19 answers · asked by Page 4

2007-07-14 12:44:26 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay, on the 4th of July I found out that my husband had been talking to a girl that he works with. I also found out that he was lieing to me about who he was talking to (I am a very cool wife, and don't care what he does or where he goes as long as he is honest with me) So haveing said that it looked really bad that he was hiding things. After a huge fight, I got to the bottom of this, but my husband said ALOT of very hurtful things, including that he wanted to seperate (in which I told him to hit the door) Now less then two weeks later, he acts like nothing ever happened. And he is amazed that I don't trust him right now. Am I wrong here, or is he nuts?

2007-07-14 12:39:52 · 15 answers · asked by Brandi 5