I am emotionally devastated,ill and a total wreck someone out there can you please give some good advice?

Question

I suffer from illnesses,and due to some reasons,was ineligble for disability,but im not able to work.I have been in a bad abusive marriage for 4 yrs.I am legally blind,cant drive and am totally dependent on my husband.I have no family to help me out,he wants me to leave and move to my mothers but i have a terrible mold allergy and my mothers house has tons of mold and last time i got terribly sick there,plus i have a slipped disc in my back and when its at its worst i cant walk.no one is there to help care for me,and my husband has abused me,now he saying he doesnt want me anymore cuz I cant do anything and he hates me he wants to live alone,.we fight daily it has become physically abusive,and ive nearly had a nervous breakdown,i do not want to live in a shelter for homeless people,im scared,confused,cant stop crying and above all else my health problems have become intol

*


I suffer from illnesses,and due to some reasons,was ineligble for disability,but im not able to work.I have been in a bad abusive marriage for 4 yrs.I am legally blind,cant drive and am totally dependent on my husband.I have no family to help me out,he wants me to leave and move to my mothers but i have a terrible mold allergy and my mothers house has tons of mold and last time i got terribly sick there,plus i have a slipped disc in my back and when its at its worst i cant walk.no one is there to help care for me,and my husband has abused me,now he saying he doesnt want me anymore cuz I cant do anything and he hates me he wants to live alone,.we fight daily it has become physically abusive,and ive nearly had a nervous breakdown,i do not want to live in a shelter for homeless people,im scared,confused,cant stop crying and above all else my health problems have become intolerable,im weak in allot of pain and tired most of the time.....I CANNOT THINK WHERE TO

YES ITS FOR REAL...please do not make fun of me im having a hard time...please do not make me sad...

Answer 1

Is this for real?

You say you have no family, but he wants you to move to your mother's house? That doesn't make sense.

Contact your mom and get out of there as soon as you can. The abuse will not get any better.

Answer 2

I am sorry to hear about your hardships.

However, you need to get up and make a change. As disgusting as this sounds, you would have a much better chance of qualifying for Government Programs if you were not married. Look into ways to file for divorce as cheaply as possible. Most states allow couples to file their own divorces. If your husband is so hell-bent on leaving you, ask him to get the paperwork started and/or hire an attorney.

If your husband is currently working and you aren't, there is a great chance he will have to pay you maintenance payments (alimony). If you both own the house you live in, he will have to buy out your interests.

Play your cards right and you will be out of this abusive relationship in no time. Then you will have time to focus on your health and happiness.

Answer 3

First of all, if he is abusing you, turn him in and have him arrested for abuse. They may keep him a while as he must be psycho thinking that you are the one that should move out. If you are ill, and in most seperation cases, the male is the one that moves, not the woman, especially if you are ill. Make sure you know your rights, but first and utmost, call the police right now and have him arrested for being physical abusive. Then, file a restraining order on him so that he cannot come to the house as this is your protection. You shouldn't leave because you are not harming anyone, he is. Good Luck to you and please cheer up - things will look up for you......I know they will!!!!!

Answer 4

If you call a lawyer that handles disability cases he will get disability for you.If you have been turned down once the lawyer always gets it for the client. That's the first thing you need to do second does anyone no about your husband and what he has been doing to you and if so get it documented.You need to start writing everything down he does to you,times dates very important and tell someone and write that down to. Your husband can not I repeat can not make you leave your home and don't let him fool you into think that. I'm sorry you have no one to turn to and your
A S S whole of a husband is being a prick to you.Tell him to leave if he doesn't want to be with you.Remember if this man is hitting you you can have him removed from your home.

Answer 5

First of all, let me tell you how sorry I am about what you are going through. You need to contact a shelter for battered women in your area. They can give you a temporary place to stay and eat. They can also direct you to a lawyer who may be able to take your case pro bono.

Once you have a lawyer, file for restraining order against your husband. If there is a way to get him out of the house so that you can live there and he has to find another place to live, the lawyer may be able to help you do that. Also, talk to him about the disability. It is notoriously hard to get on disability the first time you apply for it. Keep going back to your doctor and keep working to get on disability. You may also be able to receive alimony after you file for legal separation, but it depends on the laws in your area.

When you contact the shelter, they may also be able to connect you with a therapist. You desperately need someone to talk to now. they can give you a hearing ear and some good advice on what to do next.

Please do not feel alone. Too many women in the world are faced with the same things you are going through. If you can turn to them now, they can support you through this very difficult time in your life.

Answer 6

Try talking to a local agency who might be able to help answer your questions or help you move out. The best places to start would be your local human services office and if you are being abused, talk to a local agency against abuse. It sounds like you need out of there and can't do it on your own. So go find some agencies that can help you get out and maintain a life on your own. Good luck.

Answer 7

If you are legally blind how are you reading the replys?

#2. Being blind and having a bad back you should get disablity. Maybe you need a lawyer.

This man you are with is no man, leave him. Go to a homeless shelter.

Answer 8

You have to find a way to leave him by what u say he sounds as a worthless bum, and u deserve alot better. do you have any close firends u could stay with for a while. even ur church could help u. as a last resort ucould go to the police and report ur husband for domestic violence, if u live in place that is urs u could kick him out. u need help from someone, ask ur mom to come live with u while u get on ur feet but get a divorce, ur marriage isn't healthy for u. not to be funny but u could go on oprah, write a letter to a tv show asking for help
i sincerly hope ur situation gets bette

Answer 9

I believe your help can come from a priest or a pastor.

If you have any true friends, maybe you could move in with one of them.

Your health issues should be addressed immediately.

Through a reputable religious foundation, you may find what you need most...quality health attention that will get you operating as normally as possible.

Please check into this immediately because the conditions you describe are detrimental to both yourself and your husband.

Answer 10

You definitely need to get away from the abuse, even if it means going to your Mom's. Try contacting an attorney that takes disability cases and see what he has to say if you truly feel you can't work, it might just be you need to find a good lawyer. Hope that helps and best wishes.