My Boyfriend and i want to get married were only 14, what do we do?

Answer 1

14?!?!!
wait til you are done with high school, get engaged
if it's truely meant to be, you guys will wait

Answer 2

The only thing you can do is wait. In some states you have to have parent's permission until you are 21 to get married. And no offense but if your parents are smart they will make you wait until you are atleast 18. Don't rush, I know you may think you are in love, but as you grow older you change. You don't even know who you are yet, how can you possibly know what you want out of a marriage. Plus, marriage is hard, tough work. Things are not always perfect like the Walt Disney movies make you think. Plus think about this question, how would you make it financially. Neither of you are out of school yet, and the truth is that to make ends meat in this world now you truely need two people who have graduated from college and have good careers going. Please don't rush. Enjoy being a teenager, and stop trying so hard to grow up so quickly. Life as a grown up is not fun. It is stressful and hard. Enjoy those years while you can.

Answer 3

I woul say, set your priorities straight. Finish school, and establish a career first (very important) in order for you guys to have a good life. Save some money, and then if you guys are still crazy in love with each other after 12 years , THEN and only THEN should you guys think about getting married. You guys are so young, and you guys have your whole life ahead of you. Honestly, WHAT'S THE RUSH???? Enjoy your youth ! Trust me, I would give anything to be 14 again. But in life you there are no Do over, remember that.

Answer 4

W-A-I-T!!!!! You are only babies, not even close to knowing or understanding what it takes to have a marriage. There is more to being married than a peice of paper and sex. It is alot of work on both parts, and your not mature enough to understand that. You would only be distroying your lives if you do. There are people that get married in there 20's,30's, and 40's and cant make it work, and thats with alot of maturity to help them. What makes you think you could do it?? You really need to think twice. But if your parents say no, then you must wait for another 4 years.

Answer 5

Whats the rush? Oh my gosh if I got married at 14 I wouldnt have had as much fun as I did. Trust me you're gonna meet a bunch of hot guys who are gonna drive you wild, you'll wanna do wild things and you would'nt be able to because you'll half to say oh i half to stay at home with my husband he dosent want me going out with other guys. If you want to date thats great, have fun go to parties, have fun at the lake do all sorts of things. Come on dont you want to accomplish lots of things? Yeah I know young love is can be very romantic and sweet but keep it that way, if you two did get married now you might end up losing those fond memories. Good luck.
P.S. the only way you could get married is with parental gaurdian permission and sometimes even a judge has to approve it.

Answer 6

It is better to wait at this point...though I understand how hard that may be. Love, life, marriage are all filled with ups and downs,and at 14 years old you about to hit a few speed bumps. Take it slow, get to know each other, ask the questions that need to be asked and find out what they are, money, childcare, work, and be real about it. Age is not the question here, it is time...and you have time to think about this. If you feel you should prove your love to each other and show the commitment, get pre-engaged and work on becoming ready for marriage and a life together.

Answer 7

Go ahead and get married AFTER you can answer all these questions and have a realistic plan to actually carry them through:

1. Where will you live? With your parents is not an acceptable answer.

2. How will the two of you support yourselves? That means making enough money to pay the rent, groceries, clothes, electricity, phone, water, sewer, gas, car payment, the unexpected extras (like when the used car breaks down). Figure out a realistic salary using the minimum wage guidelines. Will you even be allowed to work full-time? Many states prohibit full-time work for teens. Figure out a realistic bill schedule. Rent:$700/mo., groceries $600/mo., clothes $200/mo., utilities $300-$500/mo. depending on season (it costs money to heat the house/apt. in winter), car $400/mo. Some of these figures are low and you haven't even gone out and had fun yet.

3. How will you pay your bills and still get an education?

4. When will you start a family, how many children do you want, who will raise them, who will go to work to support them, if you both have to work can you afford day care ( don't expect your parents to raise your kids)

5. What religion will you raise your children to be? Don't laugh, this has sparked many fights even among mature couples.

6. What do you want out of life, both for yourself as an individual and as a couple? How will you get there? Realistically, with a plan, not just fairy tale thoughts as in 'everything will just magically work out'?

7. What will you do if you or your spouse finds yourselves attracted to someone else?

8. What kind of birth control will you use? Don't be embarrassed, if you can't even discuss this basic thing with your husband, how will you be able to discuss anything else.

9. How are you going to get married at your age? Where will you go, who will perform the ceremony? Most states require parental consent prior to age 18. Most states absolutely forbid marriage before age 16, even with parental consent.

10. How are you going to tell your parents? What will their response be? How will you respond as a mature rational couple?

11. How are you going to get to work without a driver's license?

12. Are you really in love or just like. Does he really want to get married or just get into your pants?

I know there are many more questions to answer, but can't think of more right now.

Answer 8

First of all you really shouldn't ever have a boyfriend at 14, second married are you serious, do you even know how to do your own laundry yet? What in the world is wrong with you kids these days, do you even know what married couples are??? You make me laugh... Married...

Answer 9

You wait till you are about 25.That way you would have had a few years to enjoy life as an adult. Have the freedom to go out and have a life of you own before you share one with a family (hubby). If it was meant to be it'll happen,even if it'
s years down the road. Many,many years.You might regret getting married too young.

Answer 10

Life is way too short to be married at a young age. Enjoy being young and enjoy life. Learn independance. If you two are meant to be together than you can wait until you are at least 18 to get married but I think that is still too young

Answer 11

go to school and go to College get a degree in social science and you will find that you are too young!
this is not about love this is puppy love!
marriage is a commitment and dedication
you have no money no way of making money
you would be a great burden on both your families not to mention the stress and possible child that is sure to come from a pair of youths.
Why are you two having sex at this age anyway?
tie a knot in it and wait it wont spoil or rott off yet!