how do you know when it is time to cut your losses and walk away? how do you know it is the right thing to do? please, no one word answere i need real advice. thank you
2007-07-14 16:59:04 · 13 answers · asked by viper pilot 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we never seem to talk. he had a affair and i accepted his apology but he has been talking to a woman online and lied about it. he doesn't feel his conversations were wrong even though they were sexual and talked about meeting and having sex (he claims it was all talk) and said he won't do it anymore only out of respect for me, not because he thinks it is wrong. he won't tell me what he wants or what will make him happy in this relationship, only tells me to make myself happy. he seems to have a hidden personality and desires that he doesn't share with me. he gets mad when i ask him where he has been or how long he will be gone. we never go out and do things but he cites that me not wanting to go out which is completely untrue. i love him but i am so tired of worrying if he is being faithful or if i am overreacting. we have a little girl and i hate to move away from her daddy for her sake but i am tired of feeling alone and unwanted
2007-07-14 17:23:27 · update #1
when you already know it in your heart and you are looking for validation on yahoo questions and answers. seriously, if the relationship is causing you more pain than pleasure, if it is bringing you down and truly if you feel deep inside your heart that it is time then it is. good luck!!!
2007-07-14 17:02:07 · answer #1 · answered by lifesaclassroom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, If has cheated on you once and now you found out that he is talking to another online and talking about sex with her and all that!! Then why in the world would you stay with him? If your not happy then i tell you, your kid won't be happy either no matter if you stay with her dad!!! When she grows up Do you think she would want you to stay with a cheating man and stay with some one that doesn't treat you right and someone your not happy with? I think she would rather you be happy and most kids that are older if you ask them they wouldn't want their mom with their Dad if he is cheating on her or hurting her in anyway!! It hurts the kids too when their dad cheats on their Mom!! When mine cheated on me my daughter cryed and was sooo hurt and he is just her Step-Dad!! I know it hurt her alot ! We rode around in the car and cryed together!!!!! It is terrible enough for us adults to go through such an affair and someone cheating on us! But a child shouldn't have to go through seeing a parent hurt and suffering and being sad all the time either!!!!!!! It doesn't sound good the way he is treating you and ignoring you, that is mental abuse you know!!! He knows he is wrong thats why he don't wanna talk to you !!! I hope you make the right decisoin really soon for the sake of yourself and your child!!! It hurts a child to go through a break-up but in the long run it will hurt more to see the parents unhappy together!!! The child can always see their parent with vistitation rights!!! There not loosing them forever as long as they still come around to see them and spend time with them!!!! I don't think anyone should stay in a unhappy or unhealthy realationship JUST Because of a Child!!!!!!!! That is just an excuse Not to leave when someone is too weak to do anything about it!!!! Sorry if i sound blunt or anything but Honey you need to hear the truth!!! He sounds like a Big Loser to me!!!!!
2007-07-15 01:11:12 · answer #2 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want love, right? Well the true definition of LOVe is this, from the bible:
Love is patient and kind. Love knows neither envy nor jealousy. Love is not forward and self-assertive, nor boastful and conceited. Love does not behave unbecomingly, nor seek to aggrandize herself, nor blaze out in passionate anger, nor brood over wrongs. Love finds no pleasure in injustice done to others, but joyfully sides with the truth. Love knows how to be silent. Love is full of trust, full of hope, full of patient endurance. Love never fails.
If someone cannot love you like this, Pilot. Then you must walk away, if not RUN my dear. Put it to the test and if it fails, you deserve better, girlie. You deserve it, you hear me? And trust that when you KNOW you deserve more, you will not settle for less. Feel better now. (((hugs)))
2007-07-15 00:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prior to getting married, the time to walk away is when you realize that the communication in the relationship is not working any more and you are not happy.
Once you get married, the only time you should walk away is if there is serious physical or emotional violence.
2007-07-15 00:05:13 · answer #4 · answered by mj69catz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you realize you have done everything possible to keep the marriage. When you accept the fact that he is not going to change. And either you accept him with all these problems and turmoil he's causing you or you dont. If you dont accept this behavior, then you have to leave. Its that simple. You have to do what's best for you and your daughter. You can still love him and still leave.
2007-07-15 00:39:15 · answer #5 · answered by Lana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, everybody differs on their situation. If there is abuse, unhappiness, or untrust then there is no relationship and you need to move on, I would leave more information as to the reason for thinking about leaving the relationship.
2007-07-15 00:10:14 · answer #6 · answered by B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you feel like it. And when you're actually serious enough to figure it out on your own or with family/friends then to ask Yahoo! Answers. In general here, there are IDIOTS who would give false advise and you go and take their advice and screw up your relationship when it COULD BE SAVED. Yeah, way to go. 'Real advice'.
2007-07-15 00:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by o0lilazndemon0o 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When the other person tells you that they are no longer interested and that you feel the same way too.
2007-07-15 00:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by cocoa prinzess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he seen ayone or he's mind is not on you u not getting anywhere run for it dose he have what you looking for if he do how long can you put up with it if he put he's hands on you run for it love hurt i been maried for 15yrs we broke up cuz she sleeping with her friends boyfriend move on but be strong man love hurts
2007-07-15 00:08:17 · answer #9 · answered by don360 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when the bad outweighs the good... i don't know your situation, but anytime you dread seeing that person, if they make you feel bad or if they hurt you in any way
2007-07-15 00:04:51 · answer #10 · answered by mommyrayne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋