Marriage & Divorce - 17 July 2007

2007-07-17 23:41:00 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

Over the course of the past few weeks my cousin who is about 23-24 got married to a Jewish woman. I want to actually know MORE about her religion and her culture but I don't think my parents will. She is an Askenazi (sorry about spelling) Jew, I think but I'm not sure...

Anyway we are a Muslim family and I know it may sound strange to you Non-Muslims to have a Jewish person as a member of our family...

But since "all is forgiven" as my parents put it - we do talk to our cousin and his new wife. What did my parents mean?

Where can I find out more about their culture? I can't google it because it just comes up Jewish culture as a WHOLE.

And finally do you think it weird that I'm so interested in Judism - I mean I'm not Jewish but the stereotype suggests that I'm supposed to hate jews(!) but I don't - I'm actually interested in them.

I am a 15 year old boy.

2007-07-17 23:30:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

my fiance & i have been together for alomost 4 yrs now & we have a 20 month old son & a month old daughter. just recently i found out that when i was pregnant with my son my fiance was picking up on other women, gettin their numbers & makin plans with them. If that isnt bad enough i caught him naked in our own bedroom with my cousin. He swears that nothing happened. And last year his ex called & i answered it, he talked to her for a half hour; a couple nights later she texted his phone saying do you wanna go on another horse back ride ha ha. when i confronted him about it he said that it was nothing sexual that they use to go horse back riding together. Then i found out that when were first dating he slept with my best friend for fun according to him. he is always keeping things from me & lying to me about really dumb stuff & i have to practically beg him to pay attention to our kids. our son calls him by his first name-he calls me mom. im just confused & really hurt. i love him

2007-07-17 23:15:27 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-17 22:54:33 · 17 answers · asked by Wonderment 4

My husband and I recently moved to a large city where he grew up. We are 36 years old and have been happily married for 12 years. I feel almost ridiculous concerning myself with this, but...my husband's first girlfriend (from 20 years ago) has somewhat kept in touch with my husband over the years. They were friends after they broke up, and he calls her on her birthday every year. This never bothered me. I am sure that my husband has no interest in her...no more than any of his other friends that he phones once a year on their birthday. But now that we live in the same city, she called to meet up with him...they have not seen each other in 17 years. So it kind of bothered my that her suggestion was that they meet for a run at a park. She is married and has children with similar ages to ours, but I do not want to suggest that we get together...it is not a big interest to me. I completely trust my husband and we are best friends. Should I care or is this not worth the trouble?

2007-07-17 22:51:46 · 16 answers · asked by kathryndrew 2

2007-07-17 22:41:19 · 26 answers · asked by SATISH KR. 1

I have been married for 7 yrs and there are many things I love about my husband. I have all the material things I want, but I am very insecure. He is very successful and confident which is what I love about him. The first few months of our marriage he asked if I would watch a porn film with him which he had done occasionally through his life. I told him that I was upset that he would need to want to watch one and because we argued he said he wouldn't watch any again. He swears to this day ( 6 years later) that he hasn't watched porn since we got married and that he has no interest any more, that he adores me and has grown up. He also says that he hasn't been to a strip club since we got married ( although he used to go on work occasions before we met). He was asked to go when we were first together but didn't, although I know he wanted to becuase lots of people from work were going. We have argued many times about this stuff, he says he can't live without me and has changed. Has he?

2007-07-17 22:24:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am in a relationship with someone (call her the young wife).

Our relationship is not beneficial to either of us.

She's miserable because I'm boring and wont do anything for her (or with her).

I'm miserable because at this point in my life, I would love to send her in a time machine, 5 years into the future, because I'm 24/7 devoted to studying and preparing for the MCAT and want zero social life, and want zero activitys, and the only things I like to do outside of studying is playing online chess and watching tv alone.

When I spend time with my wife, I'm miserable. When I dont spend time with my wife, she gets very ancy, wants to shop/spend money that we dont have. She can't get hired due to mental handicap. She is dying from neglect and she subconsciously argues with me, just for the social benefit--and I can't stand it.


Also we have a kid, but the grandmother has implied ownership and we are better off appeasing the grandmother because she supports us somewhat.

2007-07-17 22:15:01 · 12 answers · asked by Voltaire's book Candide 3

should i be worried or is it normal he is 28

2007-07-17 22:03:31 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I miss my wife but she is not willing 2 admit she is wrong and can't even say Im sorry, my kids r suffering but I cant go back 2 an verbally and physical abuse relationship! What should I do?

2007-07-17 21:34:23 · 10 answers · asked by budman11901 2

Wife has been working and has been out of the house for 12 hours. She goes to bed at 9:00pm. Husband, without asking, goes and buys 4 cans of beer and stays up until 12:00 midnight drinking them. He's a house husband and has been at home, doing chores all day. In the morning wife argues over a betrayal of trust!. Is this a fair assumption?.

2007-07-17 21:27:57 · 37 answers · asked by Old Man of Coniston!. 5

I've suffered from depression for years. Some is situational and some is clinical. Anyway, I moved away to another country. I am the happiest I've ever been. I know my family misses me and needs me- especially my mother- but my life here is so stress free and I finally feel happy. Should I feel bad or give this up?

2007-07-17 20:26:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

now and then I have no problem but its all the time and he is out till 2 or later in the morning. I have talked, I have left him, but came back cause I was more miserable. What shoud I do?

2007-07-17 20:15:22 · 9 answers · asked by jenajet77 2

Cosmopolitan magazine says that the more a guy is comfortable and in love with you, the more he stops talking as much (as he used to):

"You already know that guys aren't big on emoting. So when you start dating a dude who's willing to talk to you for hours on end, sharing all the juicy details of his life, you probably feel like you've snagged a rare gem. That is, until you're an actual couple and he adopts a monosyllabic conversation MO. It's understandable that you'd feel like he's shutting you out, but he's letting you know (not deliberately) that he's content and comfortable with you.

" 'If your formerly verbal guy becomes close-mouthed, it means that he feels so relaxed with you, he doesn't need to impress you anymore," explains Thomas. "Once there's a real connection, you can be together without talking. It's a deeper form of intimacy because you're being more genuine with each other.' "

Is this true? WHY? Can a smart guy explain this to me?? Break it down in details - (aka women language haha)

THANKS!

2007-07-17 19:55:27 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Dear friends,
Please ... only genuine answers please. I am facing a lot of problems and very disturbed, please don't hurt me more with any unwanted comments.

Me and My lover have been facing some serious problems. Our marriage is scheduled in another 6 months and of late we have a lot of misunderstandings and hence it leads to fight.

She wants to be separated but I am not interested in getting separated. We have been in love for 9 years now and after a lot of struggle now both the parents have agreed for marriage so I cannot imagine a life without her.

I am trying to convince her that misunderstandings can be solved and fights will be reduced as and when we get married but she is adamant and says "no, we will not be happy after marriage".

Friends, please suggest me what should I do?

Should I convince her further. If so how? Or there is no other go expect separation.

I am very worried and deeply concerned about the current situation in my life.

2007-07-17 19:38:24 · 37 answers · asked by ? 6

She gained 20 pounds? Would you think she was still attractive and also love her just the same?

2007-07-17 19:14:49 · 37 answers · asked by giveu2tictacs 5

my wife has been lieying to me many times.every time i told her about it she just get ungry and say its not big deal ,now we are going to get divorce, and she is the one who wanted it,and iagree with her .i have to save somme money so i stayed with her all this last 6 months so i can still work and get ready to live, i will be living the next month. what happened is that i did not want my wife to talk about what is going on in our relation to her friends because i thing that may make thing more wors.i told my wife that i want to be her freind after we broke up,and i will treet her nicely as i did befor to the last day that i have to be with her.but i find out lately that she told her friends .i really can tell from the way they treet me now.all the signs show's that they knew,so i talk to my wife about it but she said she did not tell theme.i have prouve that show that she told theme but ican;t show it to her.i lold here to stop this game but she stuck in her mind.what can i do ?

2007-07-17 19:11:10 · 7 answers · asked by dearlingo 1

just wondering

2007-07-17 19:01:07 · 7 answers · asked by Dat Chicka 1

I'm just curious. I know a few people who married someone who was, in my opinion wrong for them (i.e. the person wouldn't get a job, alienated the other person from their own family, gave the person STDs, cheated, etc.)

2007-07-17 18:59:46 · 10 answers · asked by KatyScarlett 2

I was just wondering if there is anyone who is going through collaboration as a means of settling your divorce? I chose that route and it has been nothing but a joke and a COMPLETE WASTE OF TIME AND MONEY, I should have took my husband straight to court, cut the bs of collaboration. By the way, lawyers are pieces of dog sh*t!!! They are lazy people who make waaaaaayyyy to much money for what they do!!! Or should I say, what they DON'T do!!!

2007-07-17 18:42:57 · 4 answers · asked by Sunny 2

I am non Indian, and we have been together for a long time, and really love each other. It's breaking my soul knowing that he will get married to this woman, for family wishes. My question is, when he comes back, what are my chances of still being his girlfriend? Just the thought of him having relations with him is just too much, and he knows it. How the heck is he supposed to love me, yet make out , that he loves his new wife? Any insight is welcome, just dont please tell me that he is using me, cause that just isn't the case. We have a deep friendship and beautiful sex. Sra, but please write back in english, thanks.

2007-07-17 18:40:13 · 26 answers · asked by jen 7

For those who have read my earlier questions, I just wonder if I am doing the right thing now. Firstly, I think he has emotionally cheated me once and now is contacting another lady thru mails. Some ask how can I accept my husband doing. But my question is, did he really did something wrong. He had told me he is trying to get overseas contact to help explore some business opportunity. I wanted to trust him but like you guys say, if there is nothing between them, why don't he tell her he is married. He did told me once when he first when to meet this lady but the 2nd and 3rd was without my knowledge, I guess he doesn't wants me to make another fuss after I expose his encounter with the 1st lady. Am I trying to find excuses for what he did. Sometimes, I felt very stupid. Why should I tolerate all this. But then again, I'm happy with the way we are now by pretending not to know anything. Am I right or just stupid. I don't want 2 divorce becos I've kids but I'm financially independ.

2007-07-17 18:39:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

he is a man who I can't make happy, he sees through me not at me, I bought a nice sexy outfit today and put it on in the store befoe I left, when I got home, he said "oh you changed" later when I asked him what I was wearing, he couldn't answer me. I seems like he is working on getting himself healthier to attract younger woman, not for himself or for me. I don't know my feelings anymore, but I do know that when I am without him, I feel great, then when I get home I feel the house is full of negativity that makes want to run away. Sometimes he doesn't have to do anything to bring on the negative vibes I get. I have been with him 11 years and we have a daughter together, what to do

Confused

2007-07-17 18:38:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have trouble trusting my hubby! if i question him about something and he gives me an answer why should i belive it! come on now people can just say anything you want to hear trusting someone is like saying ok i promise i wont snoop or find out your cheating on me! trust is a JOKE!

2007-07-17 18:23:17 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

tries to get with you and cheat on his wife with you. and then starts talking about how hard his thing is. and as soon as you tell him u want him too, then he starts telilng u how bad he wants u but cannot do that to his family. what the heck?

2007-07-17 18:22:11 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-17 18:12:33 · 15 answers · asked by happywjc 7

Are you OK with that?

2007-07-17 18:00:23 · 12 answers · asked by Killer B 2

I have heard many times that "having things in common" is necessary or really helps (to fall in love). I have also heard that people with different interests can complement each other, or that "opposites attract". So, which is it? Is it a combination of all these? Or is each person different?

2007-07-17 17:45:17 · 17 answers · asked by Jaime M 1

serious answers only and reasons to support your answer.

2007-07-17 17:44:16 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

With a history of winning and not backing down.

Do you know of any?

2007-07-17 17:38:05 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous