Wife has been working and has been out of the house for 12 hours. She goes to bed at 9:00pm. Husband, without asking, goes and buys 4 cans of beer and stays up until 12:00 midnight drinking them. He's a house husband and has been at home, doing chores all day. In the morning wife argues over a betrayal of trust!. Is this a fair assumption?.
2007-07-17 21:27:57 · 37 answers · asked by Old Man of Coniston!. 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I've gotta say I can't quite see what the husband did wrong!! She goes to sleep at 9pm so he goes & gets some beers & drinks them before going to bed... where's the harm in that?! Is he meant to go to bed at 9pm too even if he isn't tired & just sit there watching her sleep?? Also, why does he need to ask to go & buy some beer if she's sleeping - would she have appreciated him waking her up to ask if it's ok?!
I'd understand it more if he wasn't doing chores when at home, and she had to do them after getting in from work... but this situation is so ridiculous! She needs to get a grip! Betrayal of trust?! Well, if that's a betrayal she needs to get out more, having an affair is a betrayal - having a few beers isn't!
2007-07-18 10:07:38 · answer #1 · answered by Lola G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In life we got to be flexible. Now where is the betrayal of trust .Drinking four cans of beer while you are sleeping. Come on ,if he was doing it every night of the week or even a couple days a week then you need to talk. If the chores are done , he is not sleeping around with other women, he is not spending all the money you earn foolishly and he loves you. Buy him the beer and give him a hug when you get back home.
When last did you take him out on a date?
2007-07-17 21:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by thumba 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the couple should do some adjustments in their lifestyle like for instance when the wife works till 9pm the husband can meet his own guy friends or better still, be with children instead of drinking beer and tuck the children to sleep and after that, maybe chat a little with the wife while she's taking her bath or bathe together and have some fun till its your bedtime and just chill with some soft music and make some love perhaps. In the morning, the husband can wake up and make breakfast for the family before the children goes to school or the wife goes to work. I guess it would be fun this way.
2007-07-17 21:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot see any betrayal of trust in this scenario. If the wife is concerned about the husband drinking 4 cans of beer, she should call him out on excessive drinking, not betrayal of trust. A househusband may also use this as a way to unwind at the end of the day, the kids are in bed, wife is asleep, it's his time to be by himself and relax. 12.00pm midnight really isn't that late, as long as he is getting up and performing his 'duties' the next day, this seems fine by me. I sense an undercurrent of a deeper issue here.
2007-07-17 22:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by dogcazza 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where exactly is the betrayal of trust? Husband cleans house, wife works. Wife comes home, husband has a few beers.
No-ones to blame cos there is no blame. Wife should be thankful husband's at home and not shagging something down the road. Husband should be thankful wife is working and not nagging him all day.
2007-07-17 21:34:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest that there is a deeper problem here than meets the eye. If a guy can't nip out and buy a few beers without wifes permission then you got a deeper problem. Guess if you had woken her and asked her permission that would have been wrong to. Think you need to look at the wider issue here and see what else is wrong.
2007-07-18 00:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by Ellie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
husband and wife rows are never simply and never about just one thing.
You start giving advice about a couple of cans of beer and then find out that the real problem started 9 months ago when 'she' thought 'he' looked at a pretty girl for 5 seconds longer than he should have
2007-07-17 21:35:28 · answer #7 · answered by SeabourneFerriesLtd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could come up with some classics as a betrayal of trust.....but buying a few beers wouldn't be one of them.....is there more to this than you're letting on, like are you supposed to be on the wagon?
2007-07-17 22:18:32 · answer #8 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is ridiculous!!!! That man deserves those beers!!! My husband does that all the time and I love him!!!! When he finally decides to come to bed I give him pleasure as well!!! NO way - it is hard work doing chores and cleaning the house!!! Tell her to calm down and stop stressing!!!! He also deserves 2 thumbs up!!
2007-07-17 22:30:20 · answer #9 · answered by girlygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What?!?! He bought beer without ASKING first? He should be tarred and feathered! Then he had the audacity to DRINK THEM?!?!? If that's not a betrayal of trust, I don't know what is! NOT!!! I don't see any big deal here, unless he had sex with a beer can.
2007-07-18 01:48:08 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋