I have heard many times that "having things in common" is necessary or really helps (to fall in love). I have also heard that people with different interests can complement each other, or that "opposites attract". So, which is it? Is it a combination of all these? Or is each person different?
2007-07-17 17:45:17 · 17 answers · asked by Jaime M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Finding the right mix is what is really important. It depends on the people involved.
2007-07-17 17:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by Greg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well having things in common makes the relationship more interesting and complementary for the people, because they can have fun! Opposites do attract, but most of the time it can become a little bit of a burden. It can cause frustration and disappointments. If one person is a free spirit and the other is a control freak, then it can become burdensome on the relationship and cause tension/frustration on the 2 people.
2007-07-17 17:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think both are important. You need some things in common and that is what gets you through the first part of the relationship. Things are always that great high because you both or so much alike. But as you find out your differences, that's what makes your bond grow in the way that you balance each other out. The common elements are the foundation and the differences are essential to keep it long lasting.
2007-07-17 17:49:36 · answer #3 · answered by hotchic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of us are different in many ways, we can have the opposites attract and at the same time we can find out that no matter who we are,we can always have that special bond. and for this ?having things in common also exist, without this we can really know each others likes and dislikes.
I can give you the experience that my husband had with the married woman he had an affair with, when I discovered his affair, he told me in my face that he is finding that both of them has a lot of things in common,which we never had as a man and wife. And still each person is different...
2007-07-17 18:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a combination of these things, and yes, all people are different, if you have things in common, it keeps you connected, you know they'll be things you can do together that you both like, having different interests is also great because you can learn about different things together, i really think it just matters how you feel about the person, if you love them your gonna love them for who they are and you'll love them no matter how different or the same your interests are.
2007-07-17 17:50:32 · answer #5 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have no common interest or hobbies. Yet, we’ve been happily married for 18 years. What we do share is a love for each other, along with common values and beliefs. Those are the important things in a relationship.
2007-07-17 18:38:52 · answer #6 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find, from experience, that it's a little of both. You can have common interests for some together time and have your own interests to keep it from being too much togetherness. My husband is into hockey, nascaar and all sorts of other sports of which I have absolutely no interest in. I buy him season tickets every year for his birthday so he can enjoy his time at the game and I can enjoy some alone time for myself or I can get together with my friends and watch a chick flick.
2007-07-17 17:53:37 · answer #7 · answered by foodieNY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need something in common. Love does not mean the same thing to everyone. And you can be in love for years then fall out of love because you realize you have nothing in common.
So I believe you can fall in love with almost nothing in common but in order to stay in love you need to have something in common.
2007-07-17 17:49:31 · answer #8 · answered by SummerRain Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found that there are certain biggies that work for me.
Alcohol/drug use (level of, you both pretty much have to agree on what is acceptable)
Sleeping habits (it is not a big deal until you sleep with someone you cannot ever get any sleep with!)
Animal lover (a must)
Sex (matched libidos a must)
To me, everything else can be worked on and I agree with having separate interests as well.
2007-07-17 17:50:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends me and my boyfriend dont have many things in common but we're not opposites either and we're totally in love so I really think it depends on the person. Your choice.
2007-07-17 17:56:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but it helps. I saw on the news recently that a study suggested that the more you have in common with your spouse, the more likely that the marriage will last.
2007-07-17 20:46:13 · answer #11 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋