Marriage & Divorce - 19 July 2007

Hello, I have posted here because I am married for 21 years and have a problem which I think is an addiction more than anything else. I have not ever been with another woman and feel somehow that I need to experience it with someone else no matter how brieflly before its too late and I am no longer attractive to others ( I'm making a big assumption here that I am at all). I dont have the feeling that I want to abandon my marriage and children for the sake of satisfying my curiosity about this issue but unfortunately the thought doesnt go away particularly when there is a potential to do something - there is a very attractive person at my work who is very lively yet wise and understanding and things could develop further but I feel guilty about the deceit and not being able to be seen together etc.
This is not something I feel at all should be discussed with my wife as it is an unpleassant situation to present to someone unless you are sure you want to end the relationship.

2007-07-19 23:11:31 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-19 22:41:32 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been married for about 4 months and now I 'm pregnant. my husband is a very good man who loves, cares and respect me so much. the problem is, he came to my life when I was in a deep depression because I was deeply hurt by someone whom I called my boyfriend but he actually wanted to sleep with me only.he was my first "boyfriend" and I had my first experience in everything from him.until now, I don't know if I love my 'boyfriend' so much that until now I can't forget him and want to be with him despite all the bad things he gave me, or maybe I am already crazy that I cannot see that there is a good men loves me so much I'm married with.I often hurt my husband feelings by saying I want to see 'him', I miss 'him' so much, I can't stop thinking about 'him', etc. for many times I wanted to end my marriage cos I know I hurt my husband alot.but he doesn't wanna get divorce. I keep thinking if I am so crazy or I am the kind of person who loves one man only in my life or what?help pls.

2007-07-19 22:27:56 · 14 answers · asked by depressed 1

My second wife insist that she "accidentally" got pregnant with our now 15 year old son. Her first husband married her after she "accidentally" got pregnant by him. That marriage became physically abusive and they divorced. Our marraige is filled with mutual verbal abuse. To this day she insist that both pregnancies were accidents. What do you think?

2007-07-19 22:09:11 · 28 answers · asked by The Central Scrutinizer 3

I worked full-time at a manufacturing plant. My manager and I always got along... we didn't see eye-to-eye on everything... but we did concur most of the time. She is beautiful, smart, very professional; family oriented (3 wonderful kids); OH, and has a boyfriend; of 3 years, one kid is his, but hasn't aked her to marry him. She says its not time.

Now, I can read her, as a woman, like a book... her moods, if she had problems at home with the kids, or if something was on her mind. But I had difficulty reading her as a manager; she kept everything professional.

Since I have left employment, we haven't spoken much. I operate my own business, and I would love to contact her. She is one of the most loyal and faithful people I know, and would not do anything, (working too late, spending too much time with friends, etc) to jeapordize her family life.

She is exactly what I've always wanted; a loving mom and wife that is hard working and has family values.

What should I do?

2007-07-19 21:36:54 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Because of the high numbers of divorce, domestic violence ,bad perenting, physical abuse belittlement ,criticizen and much more pain that takes place in the home,do you think it would be a good idea to take children from birth and place them all under the care of the state until about the age18. I think the state could teach them many thing they do not learn at a triditional family home such as respect ,careing for one another, respect for the ederly, respect for property of others,self esteem and to see the other as a person and not as an object.

2007-07-19 20:10:23 · 9 answers · asked by jim 1

my husband acted like a good responsible person in front. but month ago find out that he can lie quiet easily and deny. i don't know if i should laf or cry the fact that even when i shows him his own myspace account he denied creating it. i mean dude admit.its so weird. i never met a person who can deny when the proof is rite there.so he is not a man. he made me feel like **** ever since he got to usa BY marrying me. he used to put family and friends first. now he says i am his everything ever since i caught him in couple of htings.he cried when i found his lies. is his love real or fake??he even controlled when we could have sex. he used to come home and *** me whenever but when i wanted he said he too tired. guys why would u do that. now i feel like he was probably pursuing someone at that time. i am confused now. when i used to cry it had no effect on him.and now when i am hurt he is all over me.help guys advice. why would a man do that

2007-07-19 20:07:55 · 9 answers · asked by baby doll 1

2007-07-19 19:30:38 · 23 answers · asked by candie 4

2007-07-19 19:22:48 · 13 answers · asked by einar 1

Okay so my daughter comes home every other weekend form her dad's and tells me that he is getting married. I ask him continually if this is true, and he keeps saying no. Well he says he is planning this wedding for a friend that he has had since before we were separated, but doesn't know who the guy is. I have known it is him and have told him that I do not care and that I couldn't be happier. Well that being said he still even up to tonight says he isn't getting married, I know this is true because I did some investigating of my own, because I know my daughter wouldn't lie to me about this every other weekend. My question is should I say something what should I say and should I go back to court to be sure he doesn't try any funny business and should I ask for more child support since he doesn't pay hardly anything right now. He pays half of what he normally should because he didn't have a job at the time of our divorce. He has gone so far to hide all of this what would you do?

2007-07-19 19:01:49 · 14 answers · asked by WINGS 4

2007-07-19 18:50:37 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Yah..i love having sex with the same woman forever and working my butt off and dealing with kids.

It's also so cool how she's able to blow money on cool things. I love that part the most.

Life couln't be better.

But you know what the absolute best part is?

Pretending to like it....yah thats the best part.

2007-07-19 18:43:25 · 23 answers · asked by ? 3

2007-07-19 18:30:19 · 9 answers · asked by bcobraknox 1

my angels told me we would meet and be very happy his b-day is 4-19-53 and mine is 3-11-59 were we even compatable?

2007-07-19 18:19:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-19 18:11:43 · 16 answers · asked by fatandsmooth 5

2007-07-19 18:04:20 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

He just never really talks about anything ...kind of like our marriage is a business Relationship....

2007-07-19 18:03:35 · 10 answers · asked by Lori K 1

2007-07-19 18:02:40 · 7 answers · asked by learner 1

i been married for 7 years. after we got married we moved to live with the family of my wife to take care of her mom. her family never liked me cuz my wife she didnt told them when we married.since i moved to live with her family my life turn upside down iam sick most of the time. i lost every thing money friends family.am not the same person any more.alot of things happend that i cant explain.nobody like me any more ,i cant remember the last time i smile.my sister belive that her family did black magic to me. how i can be sure of such a thing like that done to me.and how i can resolve this proplem.my wife from philippin and my sister told me they are good in this things.

2007-07-19 18:01:01 · 7 answers · asked by life-suck 1

2007-07-19 18:00:04 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous

A power struggle is the last thing that is needed when one is seeking comfort or help. I think the job of each person is to
_________. And also be open __________.

2007-07-19 17:58:10 · 8 answers · asked by Robby 2

Well, here it goes. Me and my husband have been together for 12 years and we have one child. Before we had our child, I used to be an exotic dancer and he worked as an electric engineering and he's also an martial arts trainer.He trained friends and other people. But he also trained this woman. We became friends sort of. She wanted more from his training, I told my hubby about it but he didn't believe me. He said that I was jealous ( hey can u blame me?). One day, she told me they had something going on. For example, he gave her a massage and it led to you know. And then I confronted my hubby nad he he gave her massage and that wa it. I assumed they had sex, so I got even with him and I had sex with my boss. So couple of months went by, and the truth came out of her and she said nothing happened. Let me make it short. I feel so bad what I've had done to him that till this day he sometimes brings up the subject . How can I make him get over this now till this day were parents? Help?

2007-07-19 17:48:35 · 17 answers · asked by monieval_74 1

my husband and i have been married for 9 years and we have to kids, anyways he kissed another girl while away on a job and told me the next day, I am having a hard time with this and i feel like Im showing him my ture feeling on how much ai love him, I also said i need some time to think about thhings and he says he will give it to me but reminds me hes not waiting forever, i kninda feel like he trys to warn me that he may not be there because he knows I am scared to lose him so, he plays alot of hard to get, im always the one he crys for him and I know he loves that but I need it to, hes the one who cheated but yet Im the one whos showing him all the love, could I have hurt him that badly that he was really lacking my attention so when he gets it he loves it.I also feel like when i say I wanna end the realtionship he gets tuff but when we have a problems and he starts feeling like Im gonna leave he gets all worried, I dont get it

2007-07-19 17:46:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has a 13 year old daughter and we are now starting to see her alot more. He pays about 400 a month, plus all the medical and dental insurance for her, another 300 a month. Mother is not paying anything for medical and dental insurance and is against the court order now 8 plus years. We have not done anything about it because we can not afford an attorney. My question is, if we have the child over the summer months, do we have to pay the mother child support? Plus if not, how and who do we call to stop it. The support comes directly out of his paycheck every month. My husband and this woman were never married.

2007-07-19 17:39:39 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been together for 3 years.

2007-07-19 17:29:44 · 5 answers · asked by Whitney D 1

In a new marriage and my husband seems to have some major trust issues. If he calls from work and i don't answer he will call like 25 more times and leave very rude hurtful messages accusing me of doing something i shouldn't be. Then when i tell him how i feel about what was said he gets even angrier. He knows i do nothing when he is gone i wouldn't do when he is here but he also has a thing about me having to call him before i go to bed at night when he is working too. I'm afraid we are heading for a divorce because neither of us is going to change our minds on this and when i try to explain my point of view he just gets angrier and puts me down and makes me feel even more like he is the one with something to hide.

2007-07-19 17:19:46 · 18 answers · asked by urangel4life2006 1

My husband is in construction he was laid off for 8 months, finally when we just spent the last dollar in our savings he started working again, it has been out of the hall. Like work at one place for a week then go to a dif company for a few days etc... He was hired at a small co who said they needed help until the winter. Well apparently winter came early this year b/c he is laid off once again!!! The co lost their @$$ on a job someone made big boo boo (no not my husband he wasn't even on that project). Anyway because of the big loss they had to let go of some people, well since he just started their 3/4 weeks ago, he was the first to be let go. Hopefully he can go to the hall tomorrow and find something, but I am just sick about the situation! We have 2 small children that need to eat/ have clothing etc, not to mention a house I would like to keep!!! I work full time but i'm not bringing home mega bucks by any means. Thanks for reading I needed to get that out b4 I had a breakdown.

2007-07-19 17:19:41 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

i came to na dat he was trying 2 flirt wit her. but wen i asked he use to say dat "no i am not lik dat".and wen i asked him weather he ll surly marry me r not he wont say any thing he use to say "i luv u so am wit u". i don na wat is ther in his heart but he is trying for her is 100% true. but wen i stop talking to him he use to cal me 100 times a day and say that he cant stay wit out me. ohter wise i would hav left him long back only.i don na wether he loves r he flirts wit me.completly lossed my happiness.i luv him more than any thing in this world.i don na wat to do.pls if u hav any suggestion do mail me.will be waiting for ur rpl..hope some one will help me ...

2007-07-19 16:48:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

her interest in having sex with her husband? it is not him i don't want to have sex period with anyone.

2007-07-19 16:47:57 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im not liking my lawyer. I do not trust him where i believe he
is not doing things the easy way. He answers my questions
in cirlcles avoiding anything that would make since. I want to fire him but not before hiring a new one where how do I address this. First step???

2007-07-19 16:35:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous