my husband acted like a good responsible person in front. but month ago find out that he can lie quiet easily and deny. i don't know if i should laf or cry the fact that even when i shows him his own myspace account he denied creating it. i mean dude admit.its so weird. i never met a person who can deny when the proof is rite there.so he is not a man. he made me feel like **** ever since he got to usa BY marrying me. he used to put family and friends first. now he says i am his everything ever since i caught him in couple of htings.he cried when i found his lies. is his love real or fake??he even controlled when we could have sex. he used to come home and *** me whenever but when i wanted he said he too tired. guys why would u do that. now i feel like he was probably pursuing someone at that time. i am confused now. when i used to cry it had no effect on him.and now when i am hurt he is all over me.help guys advice. why would a man do that
2007-07-19 20:07:55 · 9 answers · asked by baby doll 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i can't even act hurt because i told him i will get over it but sometimes i can't sleep and i don't get mad at him when i want to. but when i did get mad at him. he would show his face that its hurting him that i am bringing the subject. i am very soft hearted. i can't break and make someone cry because i know what he made me go thru during my entire pregnancy( still pregnnat). how can he love me and lie
2007-07-19 20:10:39 · update #1
If he loves you then he forgot why. All that means is that he doesn't appreciate you and you need to remind him why your there. It takes a bit of courage from your side but if your willing to do it, it will pay off. But, if he doesn't love you then stop wasting your time. Sorry to be blunt.
2007-07-19 20:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by Jason 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never marry anyone from out-of-country. There main purpose is to get their foot inside USA only. There are a lot of couples out there are in the same shoes. I have seen a 50 years old marrying a young teenage girl 14-16 years old and I have seen a 60 year old woman ordering a 20 year old husband. Why would these people agree to married you? They want document so they can use you to get citizenship/permannent alien. As soon as they get it, they will divorced you. Let me guess, he really love you in the begining, and now that he got his foot inside the door, he doesn't care anymore. He's faking it until he make it. Be sure to hold his document until you know for sure that he loves you from the inside, and not to just get inside the US. Just be alert at all time. If he cheats and lie to you, then you can deport him back. Don't forget to take care of yourself. You don't want to cause big stresses to your baby.
2007-07-20 03:31:36 · answer #2 · answered by Cava 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need to rethink this marriage.
Is this the way you want to live the rest of your life. It is hardly ever true that once a man cheats or does things like this he will change and things will most likely get worse.
Does he really mean it? Maybe you just need to take things slowly again and talk alot about everything. See where things are in about 6 months. And go from there.
But think hard and long about what type of relationship you want from him and who you want to to be. You can't change who or what he is. You can only change yourself and the situation you are in.
Good luck
2007-07-20 03:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by ckamk1995 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you fixed your attitude you wouldn't need to ask this question. In this world women have to stand up for themselves and their rights or men will find them and walk all over them. You should be the one who is acting like they are too tired to make whoopi. You should be the one who has a secret myspace account and when he shows it to you, you can begin to cry and weep until he holds you in his arms to comfort you. Then you can push him away when he's being tender and laugh at him. When he gets angry, fake contractions so that he will have to be nice again but then yell at him for trying to help you and if he still is helpful punch him when he is watching his favorite show on television. Don't be confused. Stand up for your rights as a human being.
2007-07-20 03:19:54 · answer #4 · answered by original_pet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pregnant? Are you sure it's not the hormones talking? :-) We tend to get extra sensitive and vulnerable during that time. Also, you said he use to come home and having relations anytime. It could be that he's afraid of harming the baby and you. Take a deep breath and talk to him. Make sure it's at a place you both you both enjoy and the place brings back good memories, like when you first said "I love you." :-)
Good luck and congrats!
2007-07-20 03:15:12 · answer #5 · answered by Itz Hipnotik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said he came to USA by marrying you? if so he might be using you to come to america and hes cheating... anyways, it sounds like hes afraid of some power you have over him, hes lying to you constantly and who knows what hes doing behind your back....I would say find a real man!
2007-07-20 03:15:18 · answer #6 · answered by james p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to seriously reconsider continuing a relationship with this person*... If you are miserable and unhappy, and hes playing mind games with you, get away from him*...
2007-07-23 18:26:58 · answer #7 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thought u are telling my story to others. interesting. we share the same fate
2007-07-20 03:55:52 · answer #8 · answered by sosme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him straight out that he's mistreating you
2007-07-20 03:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by schooltrackstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋