Should I feel guilty being happy?

Question

I've suffered from depression for years. Some is situational and some is clinical. Anyway, I moved away to another country. I am the happiest I've ever been. I know my family misses me and needs me- especially my mother- but my life here is so stress free and I finally feel happy. Should I feel bad or give this up?

Answer 1

i dont think so,but i think u should be nice to your husband,its been a very gloomy morning.

Answer 2

Your mother is probably just going through the "empty nest" syndrome. A lot of parents go through that when their children move out on their own. It does not matter if your the oldest/or/ the youngest child in your family. Whenever a child leaves home; it can be a bit sad at times not having them around.

What your mother needs to do ( I know this from experience when my own children had moved out) is find something that will help to keep her time occupied. Be it crafting, a hobby, gardening, and so on. Anything that will help to fill the lonely gap that she is going through.

You should not have to give up what is making you happy.
Your mom is probably just worried about you and that is why she wants you back home. Just keep in touch with her by phone, letters; so that she will know that you are alright.

Your mom is just going have to get used to you not being there. You are grown up now and she is just going to have to see it that way. All parents who love their children have had to go through that. So she is not alone in that matter.

You could; that is if you wanted to, visit your family every so often. With today's travel time; your never really that far away.

Answer 3

Very difficult question. Was your mom good to you and there when you needed her? If so, our moms leave us way too soon no matter how long we are blessed to have them. I'd hate it if when she is no longer in this world, you look back with deep regret at he time you didn't spend with her or were not there when she needed you.

If she was NOT a good mom, I don't think you owe her a thing.

I'm not that concerned about you saying the rest of your family misses you. Sure they do, but that is no reason to give up your life in another country. Visit them when you can or invite them. Like I said though, your mom, IF a good one and especially if elderly or ill.....how would you feel if something happened to her? Depressed? Devastated?

Answer 4

i think ur family shud respect ur decsion and that u have finally found happiness. i think if its somethin u have done recently then its no surprise that ur family are missin u, bt after a while they will soon get used to u not bein around. i no ur family feel like they may need u, bt u cnt spend ur life revolvin it around ur family, that is so not fair on u, n ur family shud again respect that n realise that. i think u have done the right thing, n its not like u've lost all contact with ur family, i mean u can still phone, write a letter, send a txt, send an email. i think its just the shock of ur move that might have made ur family feel like they need u so badly because u were like a big part of ur lives.

so no dont feel guilty even tho i no u will, bt u've found a new live, there are still people back home to look after ur mum, ur not the only one who can look after her, n u shudnt be either, so go n enjoy ur new life where u can finally be happy, bt at the same time keep in touch with the family every now and then just to reasure them ur ok n to check their ok.

hope this helps : )

Answer 5

Well maybe you should feel a little bad for leaving. But you had to do what you had to do and that was moving. You are happy know so not feel bad your family will get over it OK. Good luck!!!!!!! Don't feel bad you were just doing what you had to do to be happy.

Answer 6

No. obviously theres a reason behind feeling good because of moving. Possibly you were extremely bored and you needed change. You shouldn't feel bad at all. Don't give it up if it's making you happy.

Answer 7

no i deffinatly dont think that you should feel bad about feeling good...
i think it was a good idea that you moved to a different country becoz it means you got to start over fresh and it sounds like you needed that
but if your family needs you, you should go back and see them and help them out with whatever they need you for...
family is important.. its one of the movst important things in life.. but if yopu happy where your living now then you should keep on living there...

Answer 8

Stay where you are! Don't give it up. Your family should be happy for you. Do not sacrifice yourself and your happiness. Everyone is responsible for their own happiness. You took the responsiblity and found happiness. It's up to your family, and everyone else, to find their own. You cannot make them happy by going to them, it would only cost you yours. Stay happy where you are, and learn that you worked very hard to create your happiness, and you deserve to keep it.

Answer 9

If you've overcome the depression, I congratulate you. In fact, I envy you. You can keep in contact with your family but don't let them dump a guilt trip on you. Don't give up your happiness. You need it, you deserve it.

Answer 10

You need to do for you and your own well being. Stay happy and have a good life

Answer 11

question your guilt. is it real or part of your depression? depression has a big fan and that fan is guilt. take the time you need for yourself and then seek outside professional help to balance it all out. good luck.