i have trouble trusting my hubby! if i question him about something and he gives me an answer why should i belive it! come on now people can just say anything you want to hear trusting someone is like saying ok i promise i wont snoop or find out your cheating on me! trust is a JOKE!
2007-07-17 18:23:17 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
IF YOU HAVE SUCH A PROBLEM WITH TRUST THEN WHY DID YOU EVEN MARRY HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE?
2007-07-17 18:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥ LINDA ♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is ur marriage founded on? if u do not trust Ur husband i guarantee ur marriage will ultimately fail. yes, loving someone is wonderful, but when all those gooey emotions fade away, u should be left with trust, respect, faith, and tolerance, otherwise u have nothing but sex, wealth, and possibly kids. ur significant other is the only person u can be sure will be there for u...if u don't trust them then its u against the world...and u will lose. my significant other and i say that honesty is our best policy...we tell each other the good, the bad, and the ugly. intimacy is built on self-disclosure. there can be no self-disclosure without trust. i understand where u are coming from. i used to believe that if u never trust ur opposite, u always suspect they are doing wrong, then u will never get hurt. if u suspect the worse, when something actually does happen it won't hurt so bad. but the trick is to find that special person that u trust as much as u trust yourself, or more. that one person that u believe would never hurt u, at least not intentionally. I suggest u sit down and talk to ur husband about ur trust issues, if u can't resolve them, i suggest counseling.
2007-07-18 01:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by geegee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're in a relationship trust is very important. You have to trust the one you're with to have a healthy relationship. But when someone breaks that trust it can be very hard to get that back. You need to talk to him about it and give him a change to earn back your trust. If that doesn't work but you still want to make it work you might want to try seeing a counselor. If you don't think you can ever trust him again or he doesn't seem interested in making things right then you probably should move on.
2007-07-18 01:34:19 · answer #3 · answered by In_Bloom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People should have trust in their relationship. If you dont then you need to work on it to get it back or move on. You dont sound like you even *want* to trust him.
Couples go through tough times and there was a time that I didnt quite trust my husband but we've gotten past that. Its only been about a year so theres still a little bit of doubt there but its getting better and better.
You have to want to work on something for it actually work.
2007-07-18 01:29:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he given you a reason not to trust him? Have you caught him in a lie or with another woman? If you answered no, then you have some issues. If you are suspicious, then check around. Find out if he is cheating or lying.
2007-07-18 01:39:16 · answer #5 · answered by ponderinglife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is something you should be able to feel with someone you love. Some people have good relationships that last a lifetime. If you don't feel it, there must be something wrong. However, once it's lost it's very hard to get it back. And if one gets it back again and one is betrayed again, then it's impossible to ever get it back. I know.
2007-07-18 01:34:30 · answer #6 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To trust is to be vulnerable and there is no guarantees that your trust will not be violated. To not trust is to be in a constant state of watchfulness. Hyper-vigilance is stressful and exhausting. Or trust no one and build walls around yourself to stay safe-and also lose any chance of true intimacy with another person. For your own mental health and happiness please get some help for yourself.
2007-07-18 01:38:37 · answer #7 · answered by PrivacyNowPlease! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why shouldn't you believe it? unless he makes a habit of not telling you the truth. does this mean that he can't trust you either, would you cheat on him at any chance, if you wouldn't or never would, wouldn't you be insulted if he checked up on you and didn't believe you even when you we're telling the truth.
trust doesn't mean turning a blind eye, if things start to sound a bit fishy then your trust turns to concern, none of us want to be the stupid gullible partner but at the same time calling your partner a cheating liar when they aren't isn't healthy either. in my experience go with your gut.
2007-07-18 01:36:49 · answer #8 · answered by Cooter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is not a joke. In fact, it is an important factor to achieve a successful marriage.
2007-07-18 01:29:59 · answer #9 · answered by Belen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The point of trusting my husband is that he knows that if he violates that trust he'll have broken my heart, my very spirit. And because he loves me, he'll never knowingly break that trust that I have in him.
2007-07-18 01:27:48 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did he do in the first place to lose your trust?
2007-07-18 01:26:52 · answer #11 · answered by hotchic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋