Is this true about guys?

Question

Cosmopolitan magazine says that the more a guy is comfortable and in love with you, the more he stops talking as much (as he used to):

"You already know that guys aren't big on emoting. So when you start dating a dude who's willing to talk to you for hours on end, sharing all the juicy details of his life, you probably feel like you've snagged a rare gem. That is, until you're an actual couple and he adopts a monosyllabic conversation MO. It's understandable that you'd feel like he's shutting you out, but he's letting you know (not deliberately) that he's content and comfortable with you.

" 'If your formerly verbal guy becomes close-mouthed, it means that he feels so relaxed with you, he doesn't need to impress you anymore," explains Thomas. "Once there's a real connection, you can be together without talking. It's a deeper form of intimacy because you're being more genuine with each other.' "

Is this true? WHY? Can a smart guy explain this to me?? Break it down in details - (aka women language haha)

THANKS!

Answer 1

It sounds to me like the article explained it pretty well. Guys simply aren't very talkative. At the beginning of a relationship we talk more because we want to impress a girl. Once we are comfortable though we talk less. Its not that we don't want to talk to you, its simply that men just aren't as talkative as women (with some exceptions of course). It can actually be taken as a compliment to you, or to the relationship, when we start talking less. Less is the key word though. If the guy stops talking all together that is clearly a problem. One thing the article doesn't mention is that when a guy has an idea or does something that they feel proud or excited about they will still share that with their woman. If the guy is not still doing that on occasion then there may be a problem. Just talkin a little less though is not necessarily a sign of a problem.

Answer 2

I generally think the articles in those women's magazines are crap, but this one may be right. Women need to hear things over and over again, needing constant reassurances. Once a guy says something, it's done. When you know each other completely, we se no sense in hashing it out repeatedly. We don't get into "a deeper form of intimacy" intentionally. Our viewpoint is more of a logical one, women tend to lean towards the emotional. Finally, the article deals in generalizations. You might actually find a guy who won't shut the hell up. Consider those articles, and as far as that goes, the whole magazine as a guide not a rule.

Answer 3

Every guy is different in their own pyschology.
Some guys grow up in a home where they trust and share
emotions with people. They find it easy to open up to someone and do it.

Some grow up feeling that the only way to impress someone is to fake a smile, and therefore wont share their feelings.
Especially men, they feel they'll look unmanly if they are hurt.

It can be so many cases, so it can't ever be generalized.

If a guy did open up to you at first and then stopped,
it's because his problems aren't presently bothering him.
Some people just feel like sharing their past at first.

but if it is bothering him,
he's probably afraid of something.

Forget what anyone has to say about this,
and just ask the guy.

I know by experince that you can't have a relationship
with a guy who keeps secrets and lies to you.
It will never work.
You'll get tired of it eventually and they will not learn to trust.

Answer 4

Both sexes, when they are involved in the "chase", put out a lot of energy. Guys and gals throw around compliments like confetti, speak like Solomon and have enough energy for two or three relationships. Then, when the relationship has solidified and is sound and reliable for both parties, the energy gets diverted back into daily living. For both sides. Remember, women as well as men make dramatic presentations in the beginning. It's what happens over the long haul that really counts in a relationship. Can you anticipate the guy will clam up? I don't know. Can you anticipate the gal will cross her legs or whatever? I don't know. How to find out in advance? If I could answer that I'd bottle it and retire on the profits.

Answer 5

this is true to an extent when a man meets a woman and they begin talking he is basically catching her up on his life so far also some people just talk alot when they are nervous so when you are further along in a relationship it may seem as though he is shutting you out but you already know his life story and men typically don't converse about the minute details of their everyday however the statement about it being a deeper form of intimacy that may be reading into it a little too much hope that helps

Answer 6

well there is different phases the just start dating which as you are ready know the guy is on his best behavior and has lots to say because he knows that how you want him to be. Next phase is actually dating now it will depend on the type of person he is if he is out going and out spoke he will continue to have a good conversation. Marriage or living together phase this is when you have disagreements, arguments, mood swings, money issues, just life in general sets in you don't have time for meaningless conversation like you did in the 2 previous phases. So its not just a comfort thing its a life thing.

Answer 7

I would generally agree with that.

Men are wired for actions. They don't engage in big conversations unless there is chemistry (men/men and men/women). If there is a connection (again m/m, w/w), a man (even when they were just boys) can talk a lot to share a lot of his views and life. Then when such info is passed on, he will operate on another frequency. Men understand that from each other but women don't. I have many old friends from high school that my wife is extremely jealous. But I don't yak on the phone all day long with these friends, we just connect when we see each other. And we won't tell on each other about secrets, moral or immoral.

Women let their emotions run their life and seems that they have to yak about their stuff all day long. Men have a brotherhood and the connections are maintained through sports, a beer, or just "hey Joe". Men don't understand women and it is doubtful you can understand us either.

Answer 8

I believe this is true...after a while as a guy you just stop talking as much...it just happens....i would think we just have nothing more to say you already as a girl know everything about me...the guy...so no more need to keep talking for hours....

oh and in women language...as a guy...when she gets home from work just ask how was your day then....just shut up and let her talk..just follow along by saying ok....glad to hear that...for real....and so on...basically that said thats like an hour conversation...o well i guess it doesnt mean we dont care anymore where just comfortable and dont feel the need to chat for hours.....

Answer 9

Yeah.... I'd say that's pretty accurate. Silence can be uncomfortable. It seems sometimes that it is up to us to be the entertaining ones in the conversation. If there is an uncomfortable dead space, guys can get nervous and start talking about whatever. In a more mature and/or comfortable relationship, you can learn to enjoy each other even in silence. Or at the very least, you don't feel the pressure of having to be judged for not holding up the conversation.

Answer 10

It's pretty simple.

Guys for the most part believe actions speak louder then words. At some point in the relationship a man comes to the point where everything that needs to be said has been said and has learned enough about you to accept you for who you are, they usually believe that they have said enough and done enough to show you that they have accepted you for who you are.

In our minds the fact that we are present in the house is as good as saying i find you attractive and i love you if i wasn't i wouldn't be here. We don't believe that saying I love you 10 times a day or even every day is a proper way of showing our love, it in fact makes the term become meaningless because we are only saying it to reassure our woman. We are there with you, what more could possibly say "I love you" then that. Once we reach that point, unless there is some major catastrophe in our lives, or unless plans need to be made or problems need to be resolved words beyond whats for dinner sort of become meaning less to us.